07-September: Since the "woman of my dreams" and I recently ended our e.mail exchange, after she had told me to still be a supporter of Donad Trump today, I added a caveat to the end of my ad. In addition, I had already added the following explanation in late August, to avoid misunderstandings:
The offer of mine to you, contained in my ad, is for part of my time most every day. No more and no less. For intimate companionship that both of us no longer enjoy in our primary relationships, but that we search for anyway. If my offer works out well, you can turn into a blooming flower again, and I can become a real man once more.
But such companionship will work out only, when "mutuality" comes into play for both of us. Meaning that you have to need it as much as I do, and you commit to it as strongly as I do also. And when we trust each other, right from the beginning. The liking for one another, that I hope will happen with time, and the erotic attraction, are things that will (hopefully) develop over time. But the trust I mention must be present from the start. Otherwise the "whole package" I offer will not work.
++++++++++++ my original ad dated 19-aug-2017: ++++++++++++++++++++
This new ad of mine is meant to become a reset. If you are reading it, you should take it as an offer primarily. Not as one-sided an offer, as my last ad might have sounded, but an honest offer nevertheless.
I am trying to reach a woman, who feels similar deficits as I do, and who searches for what I am offering: companionship by mail. My signature post describes everything I like to include in such a companionship. Something that I know many women look for as well; I suppose for the same reasons I do. Because feeling alone in the intimate erotic realm is simply a rather shitty situation. That word is not a bad description. Not that you and I cannot cope with the "loneliness" we experience; we would perish if we weren't able to do that. But we are not coping with it happily.
A few times I have experienced temporary moments of happiness, when a woman and I began exchanging mails with each other, which addressed this loneliness problem of ours. That is the state I like to reach again, but this time not for a short time only, but for longer. Why have some mail exchanges of mine come to a (sometimes abrupt) end? One reason had been impatience on my part. When I begin to get interested in a woman, I like to pursue the "getting-to-know-one-another" process, and a pause of several days between mails then makes me anxious; I admit that. After all, when I begin opening myself up, it really disturbs me to wait a week until I hear the assurances from you that I look for. I'd find it very helpful, if you felt the same way.
Another necessity I feel is some form of basic trust in one another. What I mean is a presumption on my part, that you are a valuable human being, underneath all your words and thoughts, regardless of what you tell me exactly. And the same trust towards me should exist as well. Empathy, and an inherent commitment for wanting to understand another person, are required for this, I know.
Next you should possess similar needs as I do, for the mail exchange I look forward to. If you have only a mild interest in the companionship I seek – perhaps because you live in a happy relationship – or if you communicate intimately with five other men already, you are not likely to be "right" for me.
And you should also have a similar desire as I have, for the amount of stuff you feel like sharing with me. The exchange I seek is to become a two-way street, not one with a "consumer" on one end, and a "contributor" on the other.
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I am afraid I have to add another caveat here. In case you voted for Trump last year, and if by now you have NOT yet realized, what a terrible mistake that was, I don't care to hear from you. As much as I long for meeting the woman of my dreams, I cannot live with a person with a mental make-up like that.
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If you have made it this far reading my ad, I ask you to check, how well your wishes and desires coincide with mine. And to consider PMing me, in case you see a substantial alignment between ourselves. And I wish you a good day also.
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The offer of mine to you, contained in my ad, is for part of my time most every day. No more and no less. For intimate companionship that both of us no longer enjoy in our primary relationships, but that we search for anyway. If my offer works out well, you can turn into a blooming flower again, and I can become a real man once more.
But such companionship will work out only, when "mutuality" comes into play for both of us. Meaning that you have to need it as much as I do, and you commit to it as strongly as I do also. And when we trust each other, right from the beginning. The liking for one another, that I hope will happen with time, and the erotic attraction, are things that will (hopefully) develop over time. But the trust I mention must be present from the start. Otherwise the "whole package" I offer will not work.
++++++++++++ my original ad dated 19-aug-2017: ++++++++++++++++++++
This new ad of mine is meant to become a reset. If you are reading it, you should take it as an offer primarily. Not as one-sided an offer, as my last ad might have sounded, but an honest offer nevertheless.
I am trying to reach a woman, who feels similar deficits as I do, and who searches for what I am offering: companionship by mail. My signature post describes everything I like to include in such a companionship. Something that I know many women look for as well; I suppose for the same reasons I do. Because feeling alone in the intimate erotic realm is simply a rather shitty situation. That word is not a bad description. Not that you and I cannot cope with the "loneliness" we experience; we would perish if we weren't able to do that. But we are not coping with it happily.
A few times I have experienced temporary moments of happiness, when a woman and I began exchanging mails with each other, which addressed this loneliness problem of ours. That is the state I like to reach again, but this time not for a short time only, but for longer. Why have some mail exchanges of mine come to a (sometimes abrupt) end? One reason had been impatience on my part. When I begin to get interested in a woman, I like to pursue the "getting-to-know-one-another" process, and a pause of several days between mails then makes me anxious; I admit that. After all, when I begin opening myself up, it really disturbs me to wait a week until I hear the assurances from you that I look for. I'd find it very helpful, if you felt the same way.
Another necessity I feel is some form of basic trust in one another. What I mean is a presumption on my part, that you are a valuable human being, underneath all your words and thoughts, regardless of what you tell me exactly. And the same trust towards me should exist as well. Empathy, and an inherent commitment for wanting to understand another person, are required for this, I know.
Next you should possess similar needs as I do, for the mail exchange I look forward to. If you have only a mild interest in the companionship I seek – perhaps because you live in a happy relationship – or if you communicate intimately with five other men already, you are not likely to be "right" for me.
And you should also have a similar desire as I have, for the amount of stuff you feel like sharing with me. The exchange I seek is to become a two-way street, not one with a "consumer" on one end, and a "contributor" on the other.
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I am afraid I have to add another caveat here. In case you voted for Trump last year, and if by now you have NOT yet realized, what a terrible mistake that was, I don't care to hear from you. As much as I long for meeting the woman of my dreams, I cannot live with a person with a mental make-up like that.
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If you have made it this far reading my ad, I ask you to check, how well your wishes and desires coincide with mine. And to consider PMing me, in case you see a substantial alignment between ourselves. And I wish you a good day also.
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