Male Rape: How does it work?

[snowy ciara]

I have a question about male rape, for those female PYL's that have men. Actually, I want to hear from the male subs, too, to see how it works on your end.

I know how the mechanics work. You need a strap on dildo of some sort, and an orifice to work with. You need to be able to take him down. Again, thanks to TaeKwonDo classes, I know how that works too.

What I'm curious is about the mindset. How do you establish fear in a man who is bigger than you? How do you intimidate him? I know that part of this is that he's willing to go along with the rape. You have his consent to violate him in a very personal manner. But then, how does it become real for him? I think what I'm getting to, is, what's going on inside your head? What goes on mentally and emotionally when you dominate a man in this way?

Now for the men being violated here.

What goes on in your head? I never did a "rape scene" with the Evil Ex, but there were times when our sex life (which was pretty rough anyway) got borderline nonconsensual. It tore me up inside. How do you handle it? And, physically, most guys are bigger and stronger than most ladies. How does it feel when a woman who is physically smaller that you dominates you in this manner? How does she express her dominance over you in a way that's scary?

I haven't addressed the male PYL/female pyls here, because that's been pretty much covered in other threads. But if anyone has any insights, please feel free to jump in.

 

[Netzach]

A lot of yelling, pulling around by the collar, some of my new found punching and kicking skills, perhaps the enlistment of 2 of my large gay friends to hold the SOB down...

although I could be asskicked by one of my slaves, for instance, I can easily make him crumple and cry like a baby, so taking him hard goes kind of without saying. If they wanna go down hard, they will go down hard, it's simple, even screaming "I don't want to" all the way.

What goes through my head? I'm wet as a Seattle weekend, and I'm watching like a hawk to see what's going on, and I'm 3 steps ahead on what I might have to do to put humpty dumpty together again when I've had my fun.

 

[Shadowsdream]

When I rape My men it does not begin with sex it begins with the mind. The mind fuck. Sometimes for hours I will torment him with how I will fuck his ass, slamming hard against him as I take his ass. Reminding him throughout the day as My finger traces over his cock through his jeans. Grabbing his hair in My fist and twisting his body so that his lips come down to Mine..(yes all My males are at least 12 inches taller than I)

I will tell him when to get naked and how before directing his head to the floor, placing My foot upon his neck as I make him confess how much he needs My Domination. Slapping the crop against My leather clad thigh as I torment him verbally for being such a slut as his useless cock keeps jumping like a lunatic just from the thought of being ass fucked.

I am always deadl serious with never a hint if a smile. This moment is reality and I want the experience to live with him forever.

I send him to the bedroom to place the spreader bar on his ankles and direct him to be lying on the bed with his feet over his head when I arrive. I tie the bar to the head board and then blindfold him...he is not comfortable and with his hands free he is not even truly bound which binds him even deeper to My control.

he hears Me drop My skirt to the floor..senses Me coming closer and closer until he feels My tongue gently touching his lip as I whisper coldly that he is no more than a sex toy to be used for My amusement. I allow My breath to touch his ear as I keep My mouth far enough away so that he has no physical contact.

I taunt him with how hard I am going to fuck him. Touch his cock briefly as I remind him who owns whom. I remind him of obedience and his need to succumb to anything I desire to take from him.

he knows the exact moment that I step into My strap on and already I see the change in him...his hesitation...his desire to put up a fight warring with his need to please Me.

I am gentle with the lube...teasing his asshole...first with a finger then with the tip of My silicone cock. Silently positioning Myself for entry...gently tormenting physically while harshly tormenting verbally.

I direct him to stroke My cock but to be cautious because if he orgasms I will slam into him so hard he will be screaming. I will continue to taunt him with how hard I will fuck him if he fails as I excite him and make it impossible for him not to fail.

he knows that I will give the final brutal plunge just as he begins to beg for release. he knows that I will deny him until he is writhering in agony and when the pain from My silicone cock begins it slow burn I will demand he orgasm. his mind and body will be fighting each other but his obedience will win.

I will rape him not only because he cannot resist but also because he craves the contradiction of My control and his power as a larger man.

I have a question about male rape, for those female PYL's that have men. Actually, I want to hear from the male subs, too, to see how it works on your end.

I know how the mechanics work. You need a strap on dildo of some sort, and an orifice to work with. You need to be able to take him down. Again, thanks to TaeKwonDo classes, I know how that works too.

What I'm curious is about the mindset. How do you establish fear in a man who is bigger than you? How do you intimidate him? I know that part of this is that he's willing to go along with the rape. You have his consent to violate him in a very personal manner. But then, how does it become real for him? I think what I'm getting to, is, what's going on inside your head? What goes on mentally and emotionally when you dominate a man in this way?

Now for the men being violated here.

What goes on in your head? I never did a "rape scene" with the Evil Ex, but there were times when our sex life (which was pretty rough anyway) got borderline nonconsensual. It tore me up inside. How do you handle it? And, physically, most guys are bigger and stronger than most ladies. How does it feel when a woman who is physically smaller that you dominates you in this manner? How does she express her dominance over you in a way that's scary?

I haven't addressed the male PYL/female pyls here, because that's been pretty much covered in other threads. But if anyone has any insights, please feel free to jump in.

 

[snowy ciara]

Whew! Is it hot inhere or is it just me?

<some snippage>
What goes through my head? I'm wet as a Seattle weekend, and I'm watching like a hawk to see what's going on, and I'm 3 steps ahead on what I might have to do to put humpty dumpty together again when I've had my fun.

How do you do that? Put them back together, I mean. Part of it relates to how you tore them down, but is there something specific you do? Let them get it on with a girl in a 'nilla manner to restore the loss of ego? Perhaps let them service you?



QUOTE]Originally posted by Shadowsdream

When I rape My men it does not begin with sex it begins with the mind. The mind fuck. Sometimes for hours I will torment him with how I will fuck his ass, slamming hard against him as I take his ass. Reminding him throughout the day as My finger traces over his cock through his jeans. Grabbing his hair in My fist and twisting his body so that his lips come down to Mine..(yes all My males are at least 12 inches taller than I)

I will tell him when to get naked and how before directing his head to the floor, placing My foot upon his neck as I make him confess how much he needs My Domination. Slapping the crop against My leather clad thigh as I torment him verbally for being such a slut as his useless cock keeps jumping like a lunatic just from the thought of being ass fucked.

I am always deadl serious with never a hint if a smile. This moment is reality and I want the experience to live with him forever.

I send him to the bedroom to place the spreader bar on his ankles and direct him to be lying on the bed with his feet over his head when I arrive. I tie the bar to the head board and then blindfold him...he is not comfortable and with his hands free he is not even truly bound which binds him even deeper to My control.

he hears Me drop My skirt to the floor..senses Me coming closer and closer until he feels My tongue gently touching his lip as I whisper coldly that he is no more than a sex toy to be used for My amusement. I allow My breath to touch his ear as I keep My mouth far enough away so that he has no physical contact.

I taunt him with how hard I am going to fuck him. Touch his cock briefly as I remind him who owns whom. I remind him of obedience and his need to succumb to anything I desire to take from him.

he knows the exact moment that I step into My strap on and already I see the change in him...his hesitation...his desire to put up a fight warring with his need to please Me.

I am gentle with the lube...teasing his asshole...first with a finger then with the tip of My silicone cock. Silently positioning Myself for entry...gently tormenting physically while harshly tormenting verbally.

I direct him to stroke My cock but to be cautious because if he orgasms I will slam into him so hard he will be screaming. I will continue to taunt him with how hard I will fuck him if he fails as I excite him and make it impossible for him not to fail.

he knows that I will give the final brutal plunge just as he begins to beg for release. he knows that I will deny him until he is writhering in agony and when the pain from My silicone cock begins it slow burn I will demand he orgasm. his mind and body will be fighting each other but his obedience will win.

I will rape him not only because he cannot resist but also because he craves the contradiction of My control and his power as a larger man.[/quote]

Hmm, it seems that You throw a bit more mental "stuff" (for lack of a better term) at the unfortunate wretch. It seems that the role reversal you mention is more, well, anxious making than the actual physicality of the act. Possibly it's really the mental anquish that is more damaging to the psyche than the physical.

Again, I'm sorry for being a bit of a pest, but what sort of aftercare follows this sort of thing?

Thank You for responding, Ladies. It's absolutely fascinating to see how Your minds work a bit.

 

[Netzach]

IMX, the road back to normal is as varied as the people you are playing with. THis is a highly negotiated, structured, careful scene, and the time I did it, the road back to normal was dropping everything when I heard a change in the sobbing and collecting the victim in my arms till sobbing turned to thanking and kissing.

edited to add: that is specific to that bottom, and that is something that would be completely wrong for another bottom potentially -- the only answer is to take a very calculated risk based on knowing and talking to YOUR bottom.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: Whew! Is it hot inhere or is it just me?

b][/quote]

Hmm, it seems that You throw a bit more mental "stuff" (for lack of a better term) at the unfortunate wretch. It seems that the role reversal you mention is more, well, anxious making than the actual physicality of the act. Possibly it's really the mental anquish that is more damaging to the psyche than the physical.

Again, I'm sorry for being a bit of a pest, but what sort of aftercare follows this sort of thing?

Thank You for responding, Ladies. It's absolutely fascinating to see how Your minds work a bit. [/B][/QUOTE]


After care are words that is a bit over done in My opinion. Sometimes the act is as mental as physical and sometimes all physical.

I generally walk away after the rape. Leave him to himself. still bound. Blindfolded. Put Myself back together. Then return to release his bindings and allow him to clean up. I will then take him back to bed and hold him stroking his face and body until he sleeps.

 

[rosco rathbone]

, perhaps the enlistment of 2 of my large gay friends to hold the SOB down...

Hey, this is a cool idea.

 

[Alt]

A bump for X-mas. Who knows, it might be on the list of some good boys.

 

[Pure]

It seems like Netz and Shadow represent two very different approaches to a 'male rape' SM scene. N's seems to me harsher, with more maso elements for the male; Shadow, gentler, *intending* to give sexual pleasure with lots of teasing and waiting.

It would seem to me that the size of the 'cock' would be an important element. The more sadistic approach requires a cock size--say 2 '' diameter-- that's at least uncomfortable, and used past the point of simple pleasure.

Another element mentioned by N is how far past simple willingness and enjoyment she takes it-- do she intend it to go to real fear, desire to 'make it stop', etc. IOW, does she intend a more or less real [if not complete] mental trauma[loss of equilibrium] and/or breakdown.

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Added: if it's realism that's desired, one shouldn't forget *ancillary degradation,* a pretty common feature of 'real life' rapes. Being humiliated, orally used, pissed on, etc.

 

[Netzach]

cock size is not really the most important thing, just that I have a clean and ready one. If it's small I can compensate for it other ways. If it's small and I want to include degredation I could compare it to HIS cock, for example.


"Another element mentioned by N is how far past simple willingness and enjoyment she takes it-- do she intend it to go to real fear, desire to 'make it stop', etc. IOW, does she intend a more or less real [if not complete] mental trauma[loss of equilibrium] and/or breakdown."

Why speculate in the third person when you can ask? Answer - no. I'm looking for it to be interesting, hot, cathartic, and all that jazz but ultimately "trauma" is not a word I would use.

 

[Xelebes]

Assuming this is a back alley rape - something non-consentual and very much like a female rape in the cack alley or in the backwoods it would be very different to what SD said.


First is to find a way to bludgeon him. Punching and kicking might work but a bat might also help. This will take him down and weaken him to the point that even a featherweighted women would be capable of pinning him down.

Then there are a few ways to administer the intrusion of the genitalia or the bodily crevices.

Broomstick/Dildo - just ram it up the ass. Assuming you knocked in the back of the head with either a fierceful punch or a swift swing of a bat, this should be an easy task.

Strapon - Might be hard to keep it concealed, especially if you came dressed seductively. But I guess it could work. The donkey punch will loosen it up for you.

And then there is the last one, forceful stimulation of the penis. Despite the fear and all that, it won't be much of a challenge to get the thing erect enough to ride on.

This is, after all a non-consentual rape scene we're talking about here and might not fit the description of a SSC type rape sceneing. But whatever...

 

[BlueSugar]

Re: Re: Male Rape: How does it work?

When I rape My men it does not begin with sex it begins with the mind. The mind fuck. Sometimes for hours I will torment him with how I will fuck his ass, slamming hard against him as I take his ass. Reminding him throughout the day as My finger traces over his cock through his jeans. Grabbing his hair in My fist and twisting his body so that his lips come down to Mine..(yes all My males are at least 12 inches taller than I)

...

I will rape him not only because he cannot resist but also because he craves the contradiction of My control and his power as a larger man.

you made me wish I had a dick, ::sigh::

 

[Halo Jumper]

Shadowsdream, Where can I find a mistress like you?

Thats why I dislike Idaho so much, so few locales for seeking out a mistress or atleast someone dominent.

 

[eroticspank]

As far as male rape goes.....I think most of the posts I have read all are parts of the male rape.

In my mind I would first define male rape as taking a male sexually so that the raper or woman gets sexual satisfaction without the males consent. Uses him!

I don't want to sound to technical but I really think that you can rape a man without penetrating him anally.

For example:

Long story short...I was taken in a bathroom once. This woman and I ended up in the mens room and she pulled my pants down giving me a blowjob. Once I was very hard she started unbuttoning my shirt etc.....all of a sudden she ripped open my shirt buttons flying everywhere, at the same time I was trying get off my jacket and shirt. Before I knew it, I was on the floor my hands trapped behind my back as I tried to get my jacket off. She mounted me and rode herself to a very nice orgasm as I struggled beneath her. My head was in a puddle or urine, my arms hurt, etc when she got up her juices all over my pants! ... she just handed me a paper towel and left!! I just sat there with a hard on still struggling on the floor. Was I raped?

Or I read a story where a Princess captures a knight(a romance novel) and ties him to the bed spread eagled face up. Every morning and knight she got on top and made him cum inside her serveral times in order to get pregnant....so the King would think he did it. Afterwards she planned on having the guards kill him. Rape?

Well the most popular type of raping a man is with a strap-on. The key in this instance is the mind as well as the physcial fuck. I think the most humiliating part is when you are penetrating him anally AND actually enjoying it. It is torture for him to know that as you are fucking him causing him discomfort that you are getting closer and closer to orgasm. Then finally you yell out your orgasm and he can't do anything but ride it out. Then you can have several more orgasms if you like...still at his expense. Now if you want to mind fuck him....start telling him he really liked it. Then start playing with him, get him hard, and make him cum while your fucking him. Now he will experience a mind blowing orgasm and feel bad about because you made him do it.

I hope this helps

eroticspank
PS I am a man that enjoys all of the above

 

[NCShin]

Once I was very hard she started unbuttoning my shirt etc.....all of a sudden she ripped open my shirt buttons flying everywhere, at the same time I was trying get off my jacket and shirt.

Well the fact that you wanted your jacket off to me, means it was not rape. Had it been rape, you'd have tried to stop her.

I do think that at one time (when i was around 18) I was date-raped.

I had a friend who was around 23ish who I considered nothing more than a friend. A friend of mine had dated her maybe a year before. I had ZERO sexual interest in her.

To make a long story short, she got me VERY drunk, to the point I don't remember much of the night and had sex with me. Honestly I dont' remember the actual sex, but only bits and pieces of her on top of me.

Was that rape? No, I suppose that at the time I had to go along with it. However, I'm not sure of local and state laws. In the military a woman can not give consent if she is legaly intoxicated. Can a man? I'm not sure.

First I think that rape has to be violent. If it isn't then to me it isn't rape. If you aren't FORCING the person to do something they don't want to do then it can't be rape in my eyes. I would also include the threat of violence as well.

Force would also include "date rape" drugs that prevent the person from resisting. So as you can see I don't know lol.

I want a willing partner so I guess I just dont' get it.

 

[eroticspank]

Yes I agree, if a man OR a woman is forced to have sex without their consent, I think it is rape. Yes it can include violence or the threat of it like the other scene I mentioned about the Princess taking the Knight.

Still in the bathroom scene I felt completely used and abused almost like I was raped.. She had no conern for my pleasure, orgasm etc.


eroticspank

 

[Pure]

but she did make a lasting impression on you. and isn't it still a bit hot?

 

[eroticspank]

Yes it did have a lasting impression on me. One of two similar incidents that had a profound effect on me sexually.

Yes after I thought about it later it was very hot to me. One of the reasons I enjoy "Woman on top" so much!

eroticspank

 

[Ray Pierre Witt]

The raping of a man... definately in the mind-set or mental fuck as one poster put it first. I'm a fairly strong guy but when I'm in that mind-set it amazes me how I can be physically over come by someone I might have thrown around like a rag-doll the previous night. At some point I want to give them; I need to give them that pleasure and power of taking me; whether she uses my cock or my ass. Oh, I'll struggle but at some point it becomes obvious that's how I want it; to me and to her. I'll take the pain, the discomfort, for her...giving a very intimate part of myself to her in the process.

The best tact used on me is a combination of force and gentle persuasion. Throw in a "C'mon baby, Do it for me." Or, "You want to please me don't you?" and I'm putty in her hands. Afterwards hold me till I fall asleep gentley caressing or running your fingers through my hair and all is well.

 

[Netzach]

Peruasion, pep-talk, caressing, those are all built into a normal scene for me. If a man wants to negotiate a "rape scene" with me as the rapist, it's likely not going to include those elements, I just don't see them fitting in well.

 

[LadyNatasha]

Still in the bathroom scene I felt completely used and abused almost like I was raped.. She had no concern for my pleasure, orgasm etc.

eroticspank

you were emotionally raped. Very well done, it seems too.

 

[Betticus]

Well the fact that you wanted your jacket off to me, means it was not rape. Had it been rape, you'd have tried to stop her.

I do think that at one time (when i was around 18) I was date-raped.

I had a friend who was around 23ish who I considered nothing more than a friend. A friend of mine had dated her maybe a year before. I had ZERO sexual interest in her.

To make a long story short, she got me VERY drunk, to the point I don't remember much of the night and had sex with me. Honestly I dont' remember the actual sex, but only bits and pieces of her on top of me.

Was that rape? No, I suppose that at the time I had to go along with it. However, I'm not sure of local and state laws. In the military a woman can not give consent if she is legaly intoxicated. Can a man? I'm not sure.

First I think that rape has to be violent. If it isn't then to me it isn't rape. If you aren't FORCING the person to do something they don't want to do then it can't be rape in my eyes. I would also include the threat of violence as well.

Force would also include "date rape" drugs that prevent the person from resisting. So as you can see I don't know lol.

I want a willing partner so I guess I just dont' get it.

In that case the alcohol was the date rape drug.