Make amends

[WadeNorthman]

How does one make amends for breaking someone’s heart and treating her like nothing when she was my world? She seems to have found someone who makes her happy, is it wrong to insert myself even to apologize?

 

[twister947]

How does one make amends for breaking someone’s heart and treating her like nothing when she was my world? She seems to have found someone who makes her happy, is it wrong to insert myself even to apologize?

Yes. This is all about you. She's moved on.

 

[Jada59]

Let it go. Or if you want, send her a snail mail greeting card. Write your apology. Tell her you are glad she is happy. Mail it. Then let it go.

 

[phil_o]

How does one make amends for breaking someone’s heart and treating her like nothing when she was my world? She seems to have found someone who makes her happy, is it wrong to insert myself even to apologize?

Treating her as nothing?
You are a cunt sir, keep away from her yes it is wrong to insert yourself even to apologise , once a cunt always a cunt.

 

[Misshotndeep]

How does one make amends for breaking someone’s heart and treating her like nothing when she was my world? She seems to have found someone who makes her happy, is it wrong to insert myself even to apologize?

If you truly hurt someone a part of them is always hurt.
She may have moved on but an apology can help both of you. The fact you realize your error is not enough. What are you going to do with the knowledge? What lesson have you learned? Yeah your wanting to apologize is all about you seeking forgiveness but it is also about you owning up to your mistake. I would just write a letter, send it off and let it go. Make sure you let her know that you won’t contact her after that or she will think you are stalking her.

I have had more than one ex hurt me and the one that even bothered to apologize was sincere. Even though it had been years and I had moved on it felt nice to hear it. It was a one time contact and it lifted a lot of my sorrows about the situation. It helped me have closer I didn’t even know i needed. But then again that was me.

And why is everyone so nasty about your question? Did you fuck all of them over too?

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Let it go. Or if you want, send her a snail mail greeting card. Write your apology. Tell her you are glad she is happy. Mail it. Then let it go.

This.

You erred, badly. Trying to get it back would be a worse error. But a gentleman should always apologize when they have hurt somebody.

 

[EquuxVulgar]

Definitely apologize if you are sincere and learned something though your experience. Share that; she needs to know that her influence helped another human being grow into awareness. But acknowledge to yourself that she's moved on and accept that. If you think just an apology for wreaking emotional havoc with someone else's life will bring them back it won't, and it's even more unfair to them.

Be sincere, show that sincerity and congratulations being a human and acknowledging you faults and mistakes. By doing so you will not ever make those same mistakes again.

 

[WadeNorthman]

Thank you all. You’re right I was cowardly scum and should have done better. I know I can’t undo the damage but maybe apologizing will give closure. I’m a fucking moron.

 

[sensuous_woman]

Your post touched me because I've done stupid things in relationships, too, and my impulse is always to try to fix things... but usually because I want to feel better about myself. When I finally realized my tendency to do that, it helped me be more mindful about how and why I apologize to the people I've hurt.

Most of us have been a moron at one time or another. Apologize in the most appropriate way possible... and then forgive yourself, too. Don't stay stuck where you are. You're not a failure just because you failed in a particular situation. You can make better choices moving forward. (Speaking to myself as I write this...)

P.S. I know this reply to your post is very late... but I was browsing through the forum, saw this, and felt compelled to say something. I hope that's okay.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Wouldn't it be great if we never made mistakes?

Send a sincere apology, then let it go.

This is another brick in the wall. It is not whether we fall down, but whether we get back up.