m2m anal

[scottn]

Ok, I know I'm probably gonna get eaten alive for this but I posted a profile on a man to man hook up site and this guy who is a "Total Top" is really, really pursuing me. We both are in our 50's. I blew a few guys in my early years but I have an itch to scratch so to speak. I'm so taken by his attitude of "you have to come see me" and 'call me now" that when we chat I just about cum in my pamts. I did call and got his voice mail but I will call him again and when I do it wil be to get together. The thing is, I know by his pursute he's been around and on one hand which is very logical ,I'm concerned about STG's, but the illogical side say's[and he's doesn't know it yet unless it is his intention too], I want him to cum in my ass. I think it's because I want to feel the cum drip out for a while after??? [ya I know]. So thats my dilemma. I really know the risks but what's a guy to do.

 

[Cumalong]

In my very younger days it was OK to bareback. These days, with AIDS, and other diseases, the risk is too much. People will lie to you just to get what they want. Is it worth living the fantasy, and the dying because of it?

I would love to be able to explore what I did, and then some, from when I was a teen, but reality is the odds are very slim I could find someone that I know is DDF as I am, so I lust and long for what possibly can never be. Count the cost before you move forward.

I like to watch others on cam, and give great encouragement and share pics, but, I am afraid to go all the way in real life. A mutual J/O is one thing, but raw sex is another unless you know the other very much.

 

[Cumalong]

If you are interested in camming, or swapping pics while discussing your fantasy, them PM me.

 

[fingermagic]

Ok, I know I'm probably gonna get eaten alive for this but I posted a profile on a man to man hook up site and this guy who is a "Total Top" is really, really pursuing me. We both are in our 50's. I blew a few guys in my early years but I have an itch to scratch so to speak. I'm so taken by his attitude of "you have to come see me" and 'call me now" that when we chat I just about cum in my pamts. I did call and got his voice mail but I will call him again and when I do it wil be to get together. The thing is, I know by his pursute he's been around and on one hand which is very logical ,I'm concerned about STG's, but the illogical side say's[and he's doesn't know it yet unless it is his intention too], I want him to cum in my ass. I think it's because I want to feel the cum drip out for a while after??? [ya I know]. So thats my dilemma. I really know the risks but what's a guy to do.

I did a bit of this in my younger days also. First time at 16 with a much older man and it is indeed very exciting and a huge turn on to have someone cum in your ass, all warm and nice. But, it is true that the reality of STDs and multi partners makes it too risky. These days it is enough to just be happy with getting laid. I do warm the lube and squirt it up my rectum prior to insertion. This is a nice feeling also, though not as exciting as in the heat of passion.

 

[jackstud]

I did a bit of this in my younger days also. First time at 16 with a much older man and it is indeed very exciting and a huge turn on to have someone cum in your ass, all warm and nice. But, it is true that the reality of STDs and multi partners makes it too risky. These days it is enough to just be happy with getting laid. I do warm the lube and squirt it up my rectum prior to insertion. This is a nice feeling also, though not as exciting as in the heat of passion.

Gets a stiffy

 

[schaum_m]

cumming in my ass

i loved having a guy cum inside me when i was younger but i havent done it in a long time. it was different back in the 70's

 

[dluvstoread]

I feel the same......my wife has fucked me silly with dildo's and I love it, so I know I would love the real thing but the risk is scary.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I wonder if you guys could get that feeling by having your top pull right out of the condom when he pulls out of you... leave the open end sticking out of your asshole, and letting his cum drip out of it.

Probably almost impossible to pull out of a rubber, though!

 

[none2_none2]

I wonder if you guys could get that feeling by having your top pull right out of the condom when he pulls out of you... leave the open end sticking out of your asshole, and letting his cum drip out of it.

Probably almost impossible to pull out of a rubber, though!

If the top is still hard when he pulls out, then yes odds are the condom will easily stay on. However, sometimes if you get soft afterwards or stay in until your are soft and the bottom still has some tightness after the fucking, his ass will help cause the condom to stay in while you pull out. I used to stay hard for a long time afterwards -- sometimes even able to go for seconds. However, age catches up with some of us. So it is easy for me to loose an erection after orgasm, and seconds are rarely possible with out a long break in between.

 

[none2_none2]

I don't think the risk of AIDS is worth doing bareback for just an erotic m2m encounter. That being said bareback within a monogamous relationship when you are both negative is fine. The only thing I would say with it is that you should still try to be somewhat clean before sex and wash up after wards. You won't get AIDS if you are monogamous and both negative. However, a guy can get a non-specific urethritis infection if bacteria gets inside your tube.

My partner and I have been together for more than 8.5 years. (We are both 51 years old.) I couldn't imagine sex any other way than bareback. The sensations, the moisture of my cum in his ass, the smell of my cum in his ass are extras that you just don't get with condoms. I count my blessings that I have a faithful partner. I couldn't imagine screwing around on him. Not just because of a disease risk, but for me to tell him I loved him and screw around would be such a betrayal on my part that I just won't go down that path. Sure we have our fights -- about money, farm, etc, but never about sex/love.

The years before I met my current partner, I was getting less strict about safe sex. I was having problems with condoms as it wasn't as easy for me to stay hard. I start to get soft if the bottom isn't enjoying it. I also don't get hard of the bottom is one who likes to start to jack you off and then put it in you. I never really did enjoy mutual masturbation as no other man comes close to handling my cock like that which is natural with my own hand. I also tend to get harder after being inside a while as for me the "connection" is such a turn on.

So call it excuses or whatever, but I was taking more risks than I should have. I would say that being a total top lessens the risk, but it still is a bit of Russian Roulette. I was never a "bug chaser" -- the term used for those who get aroused by the thought of getting infected. I would also add that everybody thinks that non-anal m2m sex is safe. I don't know how many times I would get it on with someone and then realize that I had paper cuts on my fingers. I'd know because for instance sometimes their cum would burn on my fingers like pouring Hydrogen Peroxide on a cut. I was never much into oral sex, but I do know if I don't floss frequently, my gums can bleed when I do floss. I'm just lucky I never got AIDS. Life may be down at times, and being 51 isn't as fun as being 20 or 30, but I'm glad I don't have any serious, chronic illness to deal with -- knock on wood. If such is avoidable, no fantasy is worth that risk.

If you guys that are seriously wanting bare back are gay, then I would ask yourself if you would ever be willing to be monogamous - not because you fear diseases but because you truly might be able to love ONE other man. If so, then some day if you find that guy and he is negative and you are, then go for it. I do not recommend monogamy for those that just want to be disease safe. Who would ever feel loved if that was the only reason a partner stayed "faithful" -- at least physically.

If you are bisexual, there are lots of other things to consider. Especially if you have wives/girlfriends who do not know. Also if you plan on having children that also complicates matters. It is one thing to take risks with your own body, it is another thing when you draw more people into the risk.

 

[Stella_Omega]

If the top is still hard when he pulls out, then yes odds are the condom will easily stay on. However, sometimes if you get soft afterwards or stay in until your are soft and the bottom still has some tightness after the fucking, his ass will help cause the condom to stay in while you pull out. I used to stay hard for a long time afterwards -- sometimes even able to go for seconds. However, age catches up with some of us. So it is easy for me to loose an erection after orgasm, and seconds are rarely possible with out a long break in between.

So, he could enjoy feeling your cum drip out of his hole... with some safety. A small consolation, perhaps.

 

[suffolkengland]

i loved having a guy cum inside me when i was younger but i havent done it in a long time. it was different back in the 70's

What he said. Back then it was unthinkable to do anything else - condoms were just for MFs.

In recent years, I've only barebacked with one very) long-term guy.

 

[WestMich69]

Ok, Wondering

Is there a site that goes into (not a pun) all the fine points of m2m anal? One poster said you can catch it thru a cut, for example. I'm not sure how the blood stream works in reverse.
An as for the rectume, isn't the lower colon strictly for waste products, so how does HIV from semen get into the body there?

Inquiring minds..............you know?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Is there a site that goes into (not a pun) all the fine points of m2m anal? One poster said you can catch it thru a cut, for example. I'm not sure how the blood stream works in reverse.
An as for the rectume, isn't the lower colon strictly for waste products, so how does HIV from semen get into the body there?

Inquiring minds..............you know?

The rectum is a membrane. While waste sits in it, waiting for you to hit the john, it seeps all the liquid out and back into your body, while holding the solids in place. Like a coffee filter, yanno? This membrane has very tiny holes, that don't allow gut bacteria (like e.Coli) to get through, but the HIV virus is small enough to get through those holes and into your body, and into your bloodstream.

In reverse is not quite as common-- but yes, it certainly can happen that you get a little cut on your penis, and if your partner has a cut in his rectum-- both of you getting some hot rough sex in there! He could transfer his blood to you, from cut to cut.

Does that help? Ask more questions, please! You NEED to know this, I HATE watching gorgeous twinks get sick from something that should be nothing but good.

 

[WestMich69]

Ok, I understand the part about the rectum now. Thank you for your explanation. I'm still wondering if you just got HIV tainted cum on your finger, that has a paper cut on it, how that would get into your blood stream?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Ok, I understand the part about the rectum now. Thank you for your explanation. I'm still wondering if you just got HIV tainted cum on your finger, that has a paper cut on it, how that would get into your blood stream?

Are you imagining the papercut on, say, your knuckle and the semen in your fingertip so the two never meet?

The semen would have to get into the cut. And to make it certain that you get the infection, the cut would have to be very close to a blood vessel-- and you would be surprised at how many blood vessels are how close to the skin!

Oddly, if the cut is bleeding freely, It MIGHT wash the virus away. But the walls of blood vessels are membranes too, constructed so that cells can go in and out of the blood stream, that's how our bodies get fed and oxygenated and how platelets go where there are infections to fight off illness. So your chances are a little worse if the cut isn't bleeding.

But then again, who wants to take the chance? How embarrassing, to get HIV from a papercut!

 

[WestMich69]

Ok, Thank you , Stella;

Now.....next question; I have seen the 'diy' AIDS test where you take a few drops of blood and put them in a little depression, then wait awhile and the test strip will change color, depending on if you have the virus. Are they reliable?

I have found many sites dealing with HIV, etc and the information varies greatly. Some sites exhibit an almost hysterical response while other seem more rational.

I have read that the HIV may lie dormant in one's body for many years before exhibiting symptoms. Could that be true? And if it is, what kind of results would show on one of those diy tests?

 

[Stella_Omega]

MY good friend Google says the DIY tests should be accurate.

Don't buy one at the dollar store, yanno-- get it from a reliable drugstore or online seller.

But the testing procedures have gotten much easier and more accurate since the days when I panicked! Me and my boyfriend both went in to a West Hollywood clinic.We were given numbers-- no names, everything had to be carefully anonymous. They drew blood and told us to come back in a week, which didn't help at all!

What tickled me, was the way the tech treated us. With me, he was kind, professional, efficient. With my boyfriend he was kind. And then some more kind. and careful. And told him to wear long sleeves if he went to the clubs that night, so the needle tracks wouldn't show. And "It's going to be all right, honey."

So sweet! LOL

But we were going to one, two three funerals a month. Men were dying so fast, it felt like a war-- against the artists and actors and musicians. Two men suicided together. AIDS is a HORRIBLE way to die. We did lose women, too. One of the first times AIDS was really noticed, was when a group of women all got sick and died within three months of each other. they'd been part of a gang-bang sex club in New York. I was incredibly lucky, because I was having a lot of sex with gay and bi men in the seventies (even though I was female).

The thing about HIV is that the symptoms you get are of secondary illnesses. HIV doesn't kill you-- herpes, or a cold, flu, or thrush, or a bacterial infection is what kills you. Things that should be easy to recover from. HIV attacks exactly the cells in your bloodstream that go to war against infection and illness.

 

[WestMich69]

Stella, Thanks for all your information. I like that site, and have found many others. I suppose I could have done it all myself, but thought others might have questions also, so it wouldn't hurt to have it covered on a forum here.

 

[Stella_Omega]

NP, Mich, and a 101 post would be a good idea here-- and everywhere, really. I've tried to keep my answers to what I know...