Lubrication

[Schmigan]

Hey all,
I'm (still) trying to get my head around some of the ins and outs (sorry, terrible pun) of sex in the adult world, and I was wondering what the popular opinion was on using lubricants. Should they just be reserved for anal sex, or for when a women doesn't produce very much natural lubricant? Would using lubrication for sex with a woman who IS able to produce enough naturally be indicative of her partner not doing their job to turn her on enough?
I had a girlfriend for a while who could produce enough naturally for us to have sex, but it took a while - having a 'quickie' would have been impossible without artificial lubricants. I never suggested using them because I thought she might feel that I was trying to avoid foreplay (I wasn't, by the way, but sometimes thirty minutes to two hours of foreplay just isn't practical or possible, y'know?) What IS the general opinion of lubricants amongst adults?

Thanks,
Schmigan

 

[M's girl]

Hi Schmigan,

First of all: welcome to Lit. You are asking for opinions on the use of lubricants. We have some at home but hardly ever use them since I produce enough for sex to be quite 'smooth' 99,9% of the time (even with quickies, yes).

We have tried anal a few times but honestly it's not my thing. I need a lot of lubricant there and still it hurts like hell, so we skipped that one sort of.

I think you need to use a lubricant if it makes sex more fun/easier for the both of you. But to be honest, a quicky is hardly a quicky anymore if you have to stop to get the lubricant, or is it? I'm lucky to not need it most of the time but if I were I would prefer for my man to help me produce some, through foreplay/licking.

You may, by the way, find The Blank Manual a useful resource (although I did not see a thread with this/your question per se). Anyway, have fun here at Lit!

 

[tanyachrs]

I produce a lot of natural goo and still have fun with lube. You can get stuff that warms up when you blow on it. It's great to put some inside the condom to enhance feeling for the guy. You can always throw a little into the action when you're having a marathon session. I'd defnitely keep it around and use it and not feel at all bad about it. It's a fun toy and only takes a moment to squirt on. More slippery, the better.

 

[sunandshadow]

I think the sex is hardly worth it if you don't have time for half an hour of foreplay. That said, I am a woman who usually produces plenty of lubricant but once in a while runs dry. Sometimes dry enough that even fingering is unpleasant. In that case, especially if I am particularly hungry for the sensation of being penetrated, I would much rather douse everything with silicon lube than have to go slow and still risk chafing myself because I'm just too dry. I don't see any reason not to use a lubricant if it improves the experience.

 

[Chicklet]

Before penetration, no matter how turned on I am, I seem to not be able to make enough natural lubricant. My previous partner and I solved this problem with a little bit of lube, and then once we started going, the juices really started flowing.

I don't think that lack of natural lubrication is any indication that one party is having a hard time turning on the other party, and it definitely shouldn't shame you to use some. And even if it's as lubed up as she's going to get naturally, it isn't always going to stick around... I also tend to dry up if sex lasts more than fifteen minutes. Again, woohoo lube. It helps me go where my body doesn't seem to naturally want to go.

And I also think that sex without foreplay IS worth it.

 

[Schmigan]

That's exactly what I was hoping to hear, Chicklet. Thanks very much.

 

[buxxxom]

Also, some medications, like antihistamines can cause drying of vaginal tissues. I usually need some additional help during "hay fever season."
During these times, desire is not reduced, just natural fluids everywhere. A little Astroglide makes everything good again!

 

[Reba67]

Not to mention that at different times in a women's cycle will have different levels of natural lube. I am almost painfully dry about a week before my period starts. I sometimes have to use a dab of lube on my bits just so I don't chafe myself while walking around.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

Before penetration, no matter how turned on I am, I seem to not be able to make enough natural lubricant. My previous partner and I solved this problem with a little bit of lube, and then once we started going, the juices really started flowing.

I don't think that lack of natural lubrication is any indication that one party is having a hard time turning on the other party, and it definitely shouldn't shame you to use some. And even if it's as lubed up as she's going to get naturally, it isn't always going to stick around... I also tend to dry up if sex lasts more than fifteen minutes. Again, woohoo lube. It helps me go where my body doesn't seem to naturally want to go.

And I also think that sex without foreplay IS worth it.

MORE than worth it in my opinion. As I get older I am finding it neccesary(?) to use lube more and more but I absolutely LOVE those quickies so I do what I must to get them I still don't need all the 4-play but I do need some lube without it and I prefer a water based lube. After a few minutes the natural juices start to flow and I dont need anymore of the artificial sweetners to truly enjoy myself

 

[SubNebGuy]

my wife has never been very damp down there. occasionally i can get her worked up enough that if she blows me and gets my shaft wet with saliva, we can have sex.

but the norm for us is lubricant. quickie, or longie

 

[sunandshadow]

When I said that sex without foreplay was barely worth it, I didn't mean because of any issue relating to lubrication, I meant because I'm not multiorgasmic, I'm rarely horny more than once a day, sex results in me getting sweaty and gooey, so if I'm going to have sex I want it to last at least half an hour.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I think some women might take it as a failure, but that's just a sign of insecurity. The fact is a LOT of women have this problem. Why else would they sell KY at Walmart and advertize it on TV? It's not because the average american housewife is screaming ofr anal sex. Or is it?

But I digress. Lubes can be a blast. Is there anything better than hot slippery sex? Silicone lubes are great, long lasting and moisturizing. Use it as massage oil and let your well lubed fingers slide effortlessly into places they should or shouldn't go. the added slickness(far more so than natural lubrication) can allow for a little more pressure and given added clitoral sensationa nd sensitivity. Heck, don't worry about just the area of attack, cover her whole body in it and have a sliping and sliding good time.

I'm digressing again aren't I? All I'm tryign to say is lubes are fun!

 

[eudaemonia]

What buxxxom and Reba67 said.

Dehydration for any number of physiological reasons has nil to nothing to do with desire. Hell, simple lack of sufficient water intake can do it.

For some reason, sex makes me incredibly thirsty. I'd rather forget to have a bottle of lube handy than a bottle of Perrier on the nightstand. No sex without water makes me cranky!

P.S. Welcome to Lit, schmigan. *s*