Lowered Eyes

MsWorthy

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Does anyone use/require that the submissive lower her eyes during play? Does this increase your feelings of power? Why do you like it (if you use it)?

Or

Do you enjoy lowering your eyes during play? Does it make you *feel* more submissive or help you get into the role (if you are role playing)?
 
MsW....I have always lowered my eyes, I'm not really sure why... I always thought it was because I'm normally a very shy person.

I do know that there are times that Master wants me to look at him and I have a hard time complying with his request. I don't do it to be difficult, at least I don't feel that's the reason.

Hmmm I need to think about this one some more I think.

Good question.
dixi
 
I find it's easier to keep them lowered. Letting someone look into your eyes, especially when you're in the throes of passion, is just way too vulnerable for my comfort.

Of course, it's fun to push that boundary, too. :eek:
 
dixicritter said:
MsW....I have always lowered my eyes, I'm not really sure why... I always thought it was because I'm normally a very shy person.

I do know that there are times that Master wants me to look at him and I have a hard time complying with his request. I don't do it to be difficult, at least I don't feel that's the reason.

Hmmm I need to think about this one some more I think.

Good question.
dixi

Thank you, Dixi.

I do the same thing that your master does. I want her to look me in the eyes. I want to see what she is feeling, but I think, it is natural for her to lower her eyes during our *scenes* or role play.
 
Red Menace said:
I find it's easier to keep them lowered. Letting someone look into your eyes, especially when you're in the throes of passion, is just way too vulnerable for my comfort.

Of course, it's fun to push that boundary, too. :eek:

I understand what you mean, Red Menace.

I feel that way when I am in that vulnerable space...smiles...and don't allow her to look me in the eyes then. I feel much too out of control at a time like that.

Of course, I don't allow her that same privacy. :devil:

~I am evil, yes?~
 
Lowered eyes

Neither sissy nor bitchboy are allowed to look me in the eye unless given permission to do so. Their eyes are slightly lowered and away cause they both are taller than I am.


I just like it that way.
Ebony
 
I know that as time goes on..

My Master will expect more of that behaviour from me and I Do cosider it to be 'beautifully submissive" however I am still a 'Newbie' at all this so I thank Him for demonstrating so much loving patience with me..:rose:
 
I'm not sure if this answers your question or not...I am very drawn to eye contact...I try to read things that aren't being said out loud. I even try to say things with my own eyes, in the right setting....BUT when I am really drawn to a man, I tend to look down so he won't be able to read how attracted I am to him...keeps his control over me to a minimum and tends to cut down on the rejection side of life for me...Once I'm allowed in, or encouraged, I can't keep my eyes averted...haven't decided whether this is a good or bad thing.

Liza
 
I might start out with my eyes lowered, but I want to see my Dominant's eyes. They tell me what he's thinking, if he's truly trying to get into me, feel me out. If he were to ask, I would try my best to lower my eyes, of course. Most Dominants I've talked to, when I brought this up, said they do not like it when their subs lower their eyes. They want to see her looking at them, they want to see what she is feeling.

Well, that's my .02 worth...
 
Chele

SexyChele said:
I might start out with my eyes lowered, but I want to see my Dominant's eyes. They tell me what he's thinking, if he's truly trying to get into me, feel me out. If he were to ask, I would try my best to lower my eyes, of course. Most Dominants I've talked to, when I brought this up, said they do not like it when their subs lower their eyes. They want to see her looking at them, they want to see what she is feeling.

Well, that's my .02 worth...

There are rare occasions when I love to see the lowered eyes,...the demure sign of submission,...but most often,...I prefer to see the eyes,...in fact,...while my sub is entering the first stages of her orgasm,...I will COMMAND her to open her eyes,...to LQQK at me.

(Just My Kink)
 
Re: Chele

artful said:


There are rare occasions when I love to see the lowered eyes,...the demure sign of submission,...but most often,...I prefer to see the eyes,...in fact,...while my sub is entering the first stages of her orgasm,...I will COMMAND her to open her eyes,...to LQQK at me.

(Just My Kink)


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and was THAT ever HARD for me to do too!! omg ..cause what Master doesnt understand is that since His beautiful,blue eyes are so captivating to me,they also "sennnd me right over the edge too!mmmm (multiples!):devil:
 
I have a very hard time making eye contact with anyone, ever. There's always a charge that rushes through me, an absolute terror, like the person who's looked into my eyes has seen all of me, has measured my soul........ <shudder>

The trust it takes for me to look people in the eye takes years to develop. Hell, I have trouble looking my mother in the eyes. I force myself to make eye contact for purposes of social interaction, but it's one of the toughest things I do.
 
Until recently, I have screwed my eyes tight shut when having any kind of intercourse - old hang up.

Now, I do try to occasionally look Him in the eyes - but I find it very difficult.
 
I've never had much trouble meeting and keeping eye contact. I am always sure enough of where I stand in relation to the other person; I feel confident and calm. T rings the doorbell, I open the door--and I suddenly can't even look him in the face. I could peek up at him if I knew he wasn't looking at me--which was rare--but generally, I simply felt too small and exposed and perhaps panicked to meet his eyes.

And then of course he commands me to, with the hand raising above his head to let me know what's at stake, and so of course I try. God, it's hard.

I much preferred being blindfolded; it's a convenient escape from those damned blue eyes piercing me, weighing me. I felt rather obligated to tell T this, however, and so he knows that I'm finding a rather strange comfort in what should be making me feel more helpless and vulnerable. To that I say, there is vulnerable, and there is vulnerable. The stuff that happens to my body will happen regardless of whether or not I see it happening; just so long as he can't see what's going through my mind by looking into my eyes! o)
 
When in the prescence of my Dom, while in play mode, i always keep my eyes lowered.. he has never asked it of me, i just find i'm more comfortable that way.... most of the time, i ask to be blindfolded during the session....
even with my vanilla friends, i have a hard time looking them in the eye... just the way i am, i guess....:(
 
Eye contact is very important for Me..I speak with My eyes and I read the eyes. If the submissive kept their eyes lowered all of the time much of the Domination and submission that is controlled by the mind would be unavailable.

The eyes speak as loudly as the voice and as firmly as the hand.

BUT because I expect a great deal of eye contact when I deny it a new dimension is added to a scene. A struggle to comply to an unexpected requirement. This new difficulty is in itself a bondage, a torment or a freedom.

Eye contact or lack of it must ebb and flow in the moment for Me, never to be expected as a given.
 
Eye contact is very important to me. I need eye contact, it centers me in the moment.

Lowering my eyes, is an expression of caution, of guardedness, of reserve. If i feel uncomfortable that i'm giving up more than i'm ready for, then i'll avert eye contact. The avoidance is never for very long, just enough to regain my sense of where i am and a bit of composure.
 
I demand eye contact

For me, the whole "lowered eyes" thing doesn't work. I want to see their eyes and I want them to see mine. For me, eye contact is such a powerful and effective form of communication that I would find it difficult to have a "Scene" with someone who had her eyes lowered the whole time. I want to see the look in my subs eye when I grab a toy, or a crop. I also love how "a look" can correct poor behavior.
 
I tend to look into eyes. They tell me alot about what someone is feeling. The only time I look away (unless I'm off in subspace) is if I'm embarrassed or feeling particularly shy; even then, I look back fairly quickly.

Would I lower my eyes if directed to do so? Without a doubt.
Would it be hard for me to remember to keep my eyes lowered? Oh yes.
 
Shadows

Shadowsdream said:
Eye contact or lack of it must ebb and flow in the moment for Me, never to be expected as a given.

Egg-Zack-Lee !:devil: :rose:
 
I feel I must keep saying this: I don't have much experience in RL with roleplaying, BUT it is in my nature to be submissive.

I find that lowering my eyes is the quickest, simplest, yet one of the most beautiful ways to show that I submit. All it takes is the right person saying my name the right way, and I want to drop to my knees, and lower my eyes to the floor in submission. When I speak with that certain person, often over the phone, often online, my eyes are constantly lowered... he can't see it, but it's MY way of being even a little submissive to him.

Here are a few pics of me (part of a pic thread in the amateur pic feedback board) in my fave submissive pose. YOu'll see that it's with my eyes lowered, and me kneeling patiently.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=104940&perpage=20&pagenumber=90
 
F actually insists I not lower my eyes if facing him, and that I make sure they are well open so he can look into them. Apparently, apart from using it as a way to guage how I am managing things or reacting, he gets a huge charge out of their changing colour, the look of fear, and just looking into my eyes themselves. I do not find it easy, but he has ways of reminding me if I slip up.

Catalina :catroar:
 
We maintain eye contact as we play...position permitting of course. There have been times I have looked away due to the intensity of maintaining contact...and have been told to look at him, not away. The only time he has ever instructed me to lower my eyes was when I was apologizing for something. The impact that had on me was amazing, it really did make me feel more submissive. However, it would annoy me if I had to do it all of the time.
 
I lower my eyes if I'm being reprimanded, but not otherwise. Just becuase I'm his sub doesn't mean I'm inferior.
 
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