Loving my husband, hating our sex life.

[Alora_Dee]

Hello all. I'm new on Literotica and thought i could maybe find what i'm looking for here. I am a female between the ages of 25 and 30. I've been married to the same man for 6 years now (I know, to be married such a small amount of time). Now that we have a child his yearning for me has changed. Sex has become a once a week thing. It use to be twice a day. I miss the closeness involved.
I've made may attempts to improve our sex life, even setting up a 3some hoping to put some passion back between us. He wasn't interested.
With my husbands knowledge I am posting here. This is what i'm looking for. I want to build an online relationship with someone. I want to be able to joke, laugh, and talk sexual to them. I want it to be that... a relationship. Not a quick fling. I'm not interested in talking someone off every now and then. I also am not interested in hiding. I'm too old to feel like i'm sneaking out of the house.
If anyone is interested in what i have posted please reply, and if nothing else please give advice.
Thanx
~A

 

[ProfQ1955]

Hear you

Hey thanks for joining. I use this site to chat flirt as it becomes fun. It turns me on as it fuels my fantasies. So I will love to chat with you about everything you want. I can check on you everyday. I would even ask for a panty check( to see what color your wearing) . Any thing else you would like?

 

[Mountaineer69]

PM sent

 

[Alora_Dee]

Hey thanks for joining. I use this site to chat flirt as it becomes fun. It turns me on as it fuels my fantasies. So I will love to chat with you about everything you want. I can check on you everyday. I would even ask for a panty check( to see what color your wearing) . Any thing else you would like?

I'm not quite sure what i like. This is my first attempt into anything online, but i figured this would be the place to start I always loved the stories I read here and figured signing up to chat would be a good thing right now. I'm very interested in finding someone I click with on many levels, physically, emotionally, and mentally. I'm not looking to find love here, but i'm not going to run from it. I believe the heart is able to love many.

 

[cumusexy]

Hello Alora,

I have sent you a PM..if interested do write back..

Cheers

 

[ProfQ1955]

Well why not yourself go and dive into a fantasy of yours and see if there are any like minded people.

 

[mattastic100]

Been there. My wife and I used to have sex all the time.. then we had kids and it is once a month.

No matter what I do I can't seem to get her to get back into it. It seems like a chore for her everytime we are having sex.

 

[TSienna]

PM sent...I think I can assist.

 

[often_up_late]

PM sent. Hope to hear from you.

 

[Alora_Dee]

I'm trying to respond to everyone.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Welcome Alora - while I'm sure there are many who will be filling up your inbox, I just wanted to let you know that there are in fact a few engaging threads, particularly "happily married, sexually unfulfilled" in the playground that you might also want to check out - a great place to share and connect with others in similar situations as your own.

From my own perspective - be glad it is once a week... :/

 

[Alora_Dee]

Thank you all for the Pm's. There were quite a few in number lol. So any good advice on how to reverse this issue I'm having?

 

[captainoz]

I am kind of the same boat as you. My wife isn't interested in sex anymore. She knows I still have a high sex drive. Im lucky if we do it once every two weeks. I feel like she is doing it because she feels like she has to not because she wants too.
Maybe we could trade ideas...

 

[Mirageme65]

Not alone!

Wow, it's nice to see I'm not alone! Only I'm 47, with 7 kids and married for 29 years (to the only man I've ever had sex with.) he is 55 and refuses to see a Dr grrrrrrr! I do have a single "chat" friend. He and I have become great friends over the last 3 years! HA, good thing he lives across the "pond." lately I've found myself desiring female companionship. I'd like a real "girlfriend" not just sex chat. However, I suck at making real in person friends! That might explain why I don't have any lol. It would just be so sweet to have a BFF to have coffee with or a fun girls night out, and who knows, possibly a bit of curiosity fulfillment Oh well, maybe someday, eh?

 

[Alora_Dee]

Wow, it's nice to see I'm not alone! Only I'm 47, with 7 kids and married for 29 years (to the only man I've ever had sex with.) he is 55 and refuses to see a Dr grrrrrrr! I do have a single "chat" friend. He and I have become great friends over the last 3 years! HA, good thing he lives across the "pond." lately I've found myself desiring female companionship. I'd like a real "girlfriend" not just sex chat. However, I suck at making real in person friends! That might explain why I don't have any lol. It would just be so sweet to have a BFF to have coffee with or a fun girls night out, and who knows, possibly a bit of curiosity fulfillment Oh well, maybe someday, eh?

I understand. Most of my friends are male because we have the same interests. I don't have many friends that are female. I am also seeking a female friend to whom I can chat with about anything and everything.

 

[cj200267]

Thank you all for the Pm's. There were quite a few in number lol. So any good advice on how to reverse this issue I'm having?

I don't know, Alora, you went for the kitchen sink when you tried to arrange a threesome. There can't be too many more bullets in the chamber once you shoot that one. You've obviously talked to him about it. What did he say?

 

[goesallnight]

I'm not quite sure what i like. This is my first attempt into anything online, but i figured this would be the place to start I always loved the stories I read here and figured signing up to chat would be a good thing right now. I'm very interested in finding someone I click with on many levels, physically, emotionally, and mentally. I'm not looking to find love here, but i'm not going to run from it. I believe the heart is able to love many.

You should investigate polyamory. I recently realized I was poly and it made my life a lot easier. It's clear you don't want to cheat and you have the capacity for more love (and more sex), and it's a wonderful way to have what you want and everyone to be happy. There are lots of polyamory resources out there. I also recommend reading "The Ethical Slut" and Opening Up. Very good books on this subject.

I applaud how you are handling your issue with your husband, which is a real commitment to fidelity.

 

[goesallnight]

I would not worry about responding to everyone who writes to you, only respond to the ones that really catch your eye. There are many more men than women here, and many of the men are really not what you are looking for, nor do they put good effort into making their case for you.

You are in a situation where you can have a high quality online relationship which is exactly what you want with a very good an understanding man. And there are a few such men on this site.

Look for that and ignore the rest. It's not rude, believe me. If you feel someone really put an effort, then maybe their pm is worthy of a reply, but it's certainly fine to ignore the ones that are obviously not right. Don't worry, the men here are used to it.

 

[goesallnight]

And as far as finding love here, there are a number of well known pitfalls that people can fall into with long distance relationships. the main one if an intense feeling of love for someone you have not met. It's surprisingly easy to create that, and it can be sort of like crack.

Part of it is because you are actually in love with a fantasy given how you have never met them, it feels very real in your head, but you really don't know them, and can't unless you spend actual time with them. What our brains tend to do is fill in the gaps with the most positive thoughts and feelings, making this person seem very powerful and amazing to you. Watch out for that.

 

[Alora_Dee]

I don't know, Alora, you went for the kitchen sink when you tried to arrange a threesome. There can't be too many more bullets in the chamber once you shoot that one. You've obviously talked to him about it. What did he say?

He said that he just wasn't in the mood anymore. I've really thought of everything I could think of, including toys. I even went so far as to lock him out of the house one day and give him a strip tease from the window. He just got angry.

 

[Bbb13]

He said that he just wasn't in the mood anymore. I've really thought of everything I could think of, including toys. I even went so far as to lock him out of the house one day and give him a strip tease from the window. He just got angry.

Oh sign me up. I'm in same position

 

[gregy70]

He said that he just wasn't in the mood anymore. I've really thought of everything I could think of, including toys. I even went so far as to lock him out of the house one day and give him a strip tease from the window. He just got angry.

I feel your frustation Alora Dee..*sigh*

 

[Alora_Dee]

Oh sign me up. I'm in same position

Lol, the same posistion? as in naked in front of the window?

 

[Bbb13]

Lol, the same posistion? as in naked in front of the window?

If you're watching

 

[gregy70]

I've tried everthing to try & spice things up with my fiancee too.
Oh the things I've tried & suggested. The list is so long & everything ends with a gong!

Yes I've been naked infront of the window & the front door many times as she's coming & going