Love

[Andreina]

...is a strange thing, right?
Is love at first sight possible?
How do you deal with rejection?

Just pondering...

 

[LadyJeanne]

I believe love is something you do, not something you feel, and it's much bigger than anything that you can feel/think/do upon first meeting when you know nothing about a person.

Rejection...I suck it up and let it go...after bitching and moaning for a while.

 

[3113]

How do you deal with rejection?

Rejection? No one rejects me! I'll hunt 'em down and shoot 'em!

 

[rgraham666]

I'm afraid I have for the most part given up on love. I put it in the same category as winning the lottery, it will be nice if it happens but I do not plan my life around it.

As far as rejection goes, I handle it. If they give no reason for the rejection I'll go through pain and anger, then decide it's neither my fault nor my problem. This happened recently so I have some experience with it.

If they give a reason, I'll go through pain and anger, consider their words and decide if I should change why they rejected me. So far I've decided 'no'. If they can't take me as I am, that's their problem.

 

[Andreina]

I'm afraid I have for the most part given up on love. I put it in the same category as winning the lottery, it will be nice if it happens but I do not plan my life around it.

As far as rejection goes, I handle it. If they give no reason for the rejection I'll go through pain and anger, then decide it's neither my fault nor my problem. This happened recently so I have some experience with it.

If they give a reason, I'll go through pain and anger, consider their words and decide if I should change why they rejected me. So far I've decided 'no'. If they can't take me as I am, that's their problem.

hear, hear

 

[BlackShanglan]

...is a strange thing, right?
Is love at first sight possible?
How do you deal with rejection?

Just pondering...

While I agree with Lady Jeanne that love is an ongoing thing that takes time and dedication, one can certainly feel something at first sight, or possibly at second. The SO was a floor below me across a crowded train station the second time I saw the SO; the first time had been years before, and I wasn't actually sure that the SO would be at the station at all, or that the person I saw was the SO. Nonetheless, it had the most amazing effect on me; the sight of the SO was like an electric tingle, and I had the immediate thought that I was in serious trouble.

Shanglan

 

[AthenasFury]

...is a strange thing, right?
Is love at first sight possible?
How do you deal with rejection?

Just pondering...

Love is certainly strange. I believe that what makes it so strange is also what makes it so wonderful. I have never experienced love at first sight, but I find it quite easy to fall in love with someone over and over again by sight alone. Just when I think that all the new has worn off, I'll see a lover in a whole new light and the love for them will burst forth anew. I call it love at 'x' sight.

It will probably sound pompous, but I have not had much experience with rejection. That is to say that I have not actively pursued someone and been shut down by them. Sometimes things don't work out. That's mainly how I look at it.

One of the most intriguing things about love, to me, is that there is no clear definition for it. Each person views it differently. LadyJeanne says it's an action. My sister believes it's all a feeling. My best friend views it as a weakness or a liability. I sometimes forget that not everyone has experienced love, and some that have experienced love have a very different view of it than I do. Then, there are those that are just entering the realm of loving and being loved. It always makes me feel the need to sit down and collect myself when someone asks me, "How do you know when you're in love?" It's a little difficult to explain. Reminds me of my younger siblings asking me, "How do you know if you've ever had an orgasm?"

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

Oh, I'll provide the democratic response, then.

I don't think love is all that strange. Its a feeling of affection and closeness and absolutely wonderful. Relationships? They take work. Love doesn't. One can love, and deeply, someone and still fail to do the things necessarily to stay together. Many people stay together and never find themselves in love. Love is an emotion, that's pretty much it.

Love at first sight? I don't really think its likely. Possible? I suppose. But, I think love grows from attraction, infatuation, trust, concern, and then loyalty for someone.

I've never really dealt with rejection before. Ask the pretty ladies out? Some say'a yes. Some say'a no. Some you take home for a little wild action in the sack. Some you don't. Rejection is such a strong and negative word, though.

 

[minsue]

Love is spending a summer in hellish desert heat just to be with someone.

 

[matriarch]

Love is spending a summer in hellish desert heat just to be with someone.

Indeed........but you have yet to spend you first full winter in England.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

Indeed........but you have yet to spend you first full winter in England.

Good luck with that

 

[English Lady]

Love, as Joe says, is an emotion, but as an emotion it is in a mixed up, crazy form which can affect people in all kinds of ways. Love is many different things to many different people because we only see love through others. Theres a song by the band DC Talk called "love is a verb." and it's very cool, all about putting love into action. Love isnt just emotion, it isnt just saying the words, love leakes, flows and infiltrates everything you do.

And for love to flourish you've got to let it take you over and that's damn scary sometimes, but only when youre fully immersed in it, can you receive all its benefits (I think. )

I was a shy girl, who lusted from afar, well acquainted with unrequited love, but I've been refused a few times, but never really rejected, okay, once in school i felt like it, but seeing that now, i realise how much i embarassed that poor lad *L*

I'm luucky i found love early in life, love of God, love of family, love of boyfriend and now husband, love of friends and now love of my daughter. My life is full of love, and I sm so thankful of that.