Love!!

[PeteHulbert37]

So many threads about sex, sucking, kissing, hot tubbing and would you this or that.

What about love? Anyone here find an interest in that? I've been here a LONG time and spent most of it avoiding such a thing as though it were taboo. Though, maybe love is what it's really about. Love doesn't have to mean falling in love and getting married. It can mean loving a friend dearly. It can mean loving someone as an amazing person. It must always be about respecting someone. Who do you respect? Who do you love? Do you love someone, not necessarily the random poster above you, but is there someone here that you have a connection with, someone you feel deeply for, someone you care with your heart for? Are you open to that? I think it may be telling for the ones who do and don't post here.

I don't even know if this will just be another one of my threads that just falls by the wayside, but for once, I thought I'd inquire about something more.

 

[Pantyboy74]

So many threads about sex, sucking, kissing, hot tubbing and would you this or that.

What about love? Anyone here find an interest in that? I've been here a LONG time and spent most of it avoiding such a thing as though it were taboo. Though, maybe love is what it's really about. Love doesn't have to mean falling in love and getting married. It can mean loving a friend dearly. It can mean loving someone as an amazing person. It must always be about respecting someone. Who do you respect? Who do you love? Do you love someone, not necessarily the random poster above you, but is there someone here that you have a connection with, someone you feel deeply for, someone you care with your heart for? Are you open to that? I think it may be telling for the ones who do and don't post here.

I don't even know if this will just be another one of my threads that just falls by the wayside, but for once, I thought I'd inquire about something more.

I am a person who uses the word LOVE a lot.
I told my sister I loved her at the weekend. My daughter I loved her yesterday. My friend today.
My wife every day. Each love is different and means a different thing to me.

New love is scary....I know im suffering.

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/e8/bd/d2/e8bdd2b90484a88c90f229675ac9cf64--man-love-quotes-awkward-love-quotes.jpg

 

[lacandy]

Well, I adore you...so there's that

I think this is a great topic...because it is as important as sex in maintaining a life of balance. Love doesn't have to be romantic in the least, live in friendship is normal, but I think that people here equate it with the "I'm in love with you" kind. That's not always the case. I find myself using "adore" (especially with the men I talk to) because it seems less threatening than "love".

I made the mistake recently of flippantly saying "Love you" at the end of a message and was dumped the next day...it wasn't meant in the way they took it, but it scared them. So lesson learned --- *whispers to self* "Men like being adored but love is a no-no"

I have found love here...in friendships with people like BC and Iamincognito (though I am always careful to say adore because...you know - man), but also romantic love...someone who I truly felt was meant to be a part of my life and will always have a part of my heart.

So, here, in this Lit world I think that both can exist but because we are focused on sating our sexual desires the friendship love often gets tangled in that romantic love and then we lose both....

I don't know if I answered your question? But I love that's you asked it...

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I am a person who uses the word LOVE a lot.
I told my sister I loved her at the weekend. My daughter I loved her yesterday. My friend today.
My wife every day. Each love is different and means a different thing to me.

New love is scary....I know im suffering.

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/e8/bd/d2/e8bdd2b90484a88c90f229675ac9cf64--man-love-quotes-awkward-love-quotes.jpg

Ha, there can definitely be an "Oh crap!" feeling associated with it. lol

Well, I adore you...so there's that

I think this is a great topic...because it is as important as sex in maintaining a life of balance. Love doesn't have to be romantic in the least, live in friendship is normal, but I think that people here equate it with the "I'm in love with you" kind. That's not always the case. I find myself using "adore" (especially with the men I talk to) because it seems less threatening than "love".

I made the mistake recently of flippantly saying "Love you" at the end of a message and was dumped the next day...it wasn't meant in the way they took it, but it scared them. So lesson learned --- *whispers to self* "Men like being adored but love is a no-no"

I have found love here...in friendships with people like BC and Iamincognito (though I am always careful to say adore because...you know - man), but also romantic love...someone who I truly felt was meant to be a part of my life and will always have a part of my heart.

So, here, in this Lit world I think that both can exist but because we are focused on sating our sexual desires the friendship love often gets tangled in that romantic love and then we lose both....

I don't know if I answered your question? But I love that's you asked it...

Hey Sexy! Always good to see you around here. I adore you too!!


I think loving a friend has more staying power. We've all see an online "crush" flame on and then flame out. I do have friends that I have known for a long time from here, and I cherish those friendships. Though, I don't think I have ever told anyone from here that I love her. I don't know if that is something one would want to hear. I suppose it would often be misconstrued as the "I want to marry you and live together forever" kind of love. There are many different levels of love. We shouldn't let that term scare us. Though, inevitably we do.

 

[LostGirlTink]

The word love is thrown around so casually these days that I'm not sure most even recognize what it is. In my opinion love isn't something you encounter after days or weeks or a few good orgasms, it builds over time and with trust and sincerity.
I'd be skeptical if someone told me they loved me after several months.
Love is something with staying power that's deeper than your own desires and wants.
You'd rather they were happy than you, though in a perfect world you'd both be happy, preferably together.

I'll avoid it if possible thanks. (As if one ever has a choice in the matter)


As for friends, I love lots of my friends. That's a different type of love entirely.
I'll stick with that I think. Safer.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

So, I did a lot of digging around. I found something worthwhile, something I felt worth sharing here. You know who knew how to love without it being overly complicated, Mrs H. Our beloved and missed Kate H, and she too was loved.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=690715

and then there is this tribute.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=764687



There are others who spread love around here. BlackCashmere, JennyNo1 and Azuldragon come to mind.


Maybe I'm just getting sappy in my old age.

 

[lacandy]

The word love is thrown around so casually these days that I'm not sure most even recognize what it is. In my opinion love isn't something you encounter after days or weeks or a few good orgasms, it builds over time and with trust and sincerity.
I'd be skeptical if someone told me they loved me after several months.
Love is something with staying power that's deeper than your own desires and wants.
You'd rather they were happy than you, though in a perfect world you'd both be happy, preferably together.

I'll avoid it if possible thanks. (As if one ever has a choice in the matter)


As for friends, I love lots of my friends. That's a different type of love entirely.
I'll stick with that I think. Safer.

I totally agree that those are two different things...but the problem comes when you use the word. It's all about context I think. Like the word "read" sometimes you have to say both in your head to know if it's present or past tense when you see it...so sometimes that person you say "love you" to hears "I love you and want to run away with you" and you meant "I'm so glad you are in my life"...

I do disagree about romantic love though...I believe in love at first sight...I believe that you can know instantly that a person is meant to be a part of you (I also believe that if you've truly loved someone then they own a space in your heart for always - my heart has four places taken). Does that change because you meet them and see their thoughts on a screen before seeing their physical being? I don't think so...

Now can we mistake lust/want/desire for love? Abso-fucking-lutely. And that's why this place is a different beast from the real world...I don't think that we are always able to separate those sexual feelings from love feelings here...emotions are hard and then thrown a feeling of being wanted and desired in and holy shit does that kind of feel like love...the hard part is trying to figure out the difference without getting hurt...

 

[LostGirlTink]

I do disagree about romantic love though...I believe in love at first sight...I believe that you can know instantly that a person is meant to be a part of you (I also believe that if you've truly loved someone then they own a space in your heart for always - my heart has four places taken). Does that change because you meet them and see their thoughts on a screen before seeing their physical being? I don't think so...

Oh I believe in knowing instantly that a person is meant to be part of you, but I think to get there fully it takes time and you can fall for someone and it not ever turn into love because you never get to that part, you either never learn enough about one another, or there are roadblocks or someone gives up too easily. I don't think it matters if you see them in person or not, I think one can fall in love with someone they've never spent time with, though I imagine it would have it's own pitfalls.

 

[beachbaby179]

Wow. Good topic. I can't say it any better than lacandy did. I'm a difficult person to get to know. But anyone who knows me, really knows me, knows that once you're a friend, you're a friend for life and you're stuck with me. Not in a stalker-ish way, just a loyalty thing. I had to remind someone of that just this morning. Different kinds of love for different people. Some simple, some very complicated. Each one unique. I have friends here who I feel closer to than some people in my "real life", and yet we've never been in the same room together.

 

[RickTango]

Not to get too heavy, but I would recommend anyone interested in this topic reading Eric Fromm’s “The Art of Loving.”
One of the most important concepts is that love is a skill that can be taught and is comprised of four essential ingredients (Care; Responsibility; Respect and Knowledge.)
He also discusses at length the importance of “self love.”

I just may dust it off and re-read this work.

Love to all..
Rick

 

[JennyNo1]

So, I did a lot of digging around. I found something worthwhile, something I felt worth sharing here. You know who knew how to love without it being overly complicated, Mrs H. Our beloved and missed Kate H, and she too was loved.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=690715

and then there is this tribute.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=764687

There are others who spread love around here. BlackCashmere, JennyNo1 and Azuldragon come to mind.


Maybe I'm just getting sappy in my old age.

I love ya, you little sap!

While I'm humbled that you've included me in such company, I have to admit, I never thought about being that way until Kate's death. I'll always be jealous of those of you who had gotten to know her well; I was just starting to really become closer to her when she died. I decided then that I would carry on what little bit of her spirit that I am capable of in my limited ability. I think every other kind of love springs from our love of our fellow man and woman in general.

I think also that this is a very timely topic as we approach the season of love, peace and light that is Christmas.

 

[curvyangel1969]

I'm one of those people who can say love easily. I love my family. My friends, my dogs. Otters. .
I think it's important to love. To acknowledge those you have feelings for. Be it romantic love or a friendhip that you hold dear. Love is scary, but it's also what we all crave deep down in one form or another.

Great topic Ricky.

 

[justasimplegirl]

I believe in love and I'm always open to it. I love my family dearly and I love my dog more than most people. That said, I don't always trust the love others offer me. I give love freely, but accepting love is difficult. That's when I have the "oh crap" moment.

 

[SassySheDevil]

So many threads about sex, sucking, kissing, hot tubbing and would you this or that.

What about love? Anyone here find an interest in that? I've been here a LONG time and spent most of it avoiding such a thing as though it were taboo. Though, maybe love is what it's really about. Love doesn't have to mean falling in love and getting married. It can mean loving a friend dearly. It can mean loving someone as an amazing person. It must always be about respecting someone. Who do you respect? Who do you love? Do you love someone, not necessarily the random poster above you, but is there someone here that you have a connection with, someone you feel deeply for, someone you care with your heart for? Are you open to that? I think it may be telling for the ones who do and don't post here.

I don't even know if this will just be another one of my threads that just falls by the wayside, but for once, I thought I'd inquire about something more.

Well. Once I have made friends with people here and it becomes something where we talk often or daily and they become a part of my life, I incorporate them into my life here at home. My family knows all about my closest Lit friends and a few have interacted with my family. I love easily and I love hard. But there is still a difference in love. Because there are always people who don't want their names mentioned, I'll give an example of those who don't mind.

Chris_Michael- He has been my best friend for several years now. I do love him to death. I'd be lost without him, even if he is a pain in the ass, I love him. He is incorporated to my family and has talked with all of them. He's helped my daughter with homework and now watched her grow from a lanky little teen, to a mature college woman. I've never cared where we met. My family knows how we met. He'd be welcome to come stay at my house any time he wanted/needed. I tell him I love him every time we talk.

Emmy_Christina- Anyone who has followed her thread knows how much this amazing woman means to me. I also love her to pieces. I talk to her as often as I can, I help keep her thread up to date with her health, and she has been my rock on many occasions. No matter what she has gone through, she still makes sure that both I, and my family are ok. She has the biggest heart I've ever seen. She not only sends me gifts all the time, but she often sends my kids gifts. She was there for me when I lost my Dad to Cancer. I tell her that I love her every time we talk.

Farawyn- Her and I became fast friends on here and I love her also. We have so much in common. Her kids are basically my kids ages. Our youngest graduated High School together, and now have gone on to College together (different places obviously) We joke about being crazy cat ladies together and growing old together. She is "Aunt Fara" to my kids. She loves me, she worries about me, and she is there for me. She has learned how to deal with my moods and knows that I always come back. The plan is to go visit her here soon and have tons of Pajama parties and girlie movies, and gossip. We also say I love you every time we talk.


I am not "in love" with these 3. They are just the people I can always count on when I am falling apart, when I am happy or when I just need a friend.

 

[Farawyn]

Well, I did find love, love here. The real deal. I’m in a long distance relationship for about a year. He plans on moving to me.

My friends. I’m like Sassy and BeachBaby... both of whom I love, by the way.
My girls here are super important to me. They are go to friends. I’ve met cookie.
I will meet any of my girls. Any time. We are in FB, we text, we talk on the phone. Each of them gives me so much.
Can I name them all? Do we have enough room?

I love some of my guy friends, too, and tell them. And they tell me.
It’s nice to be seen as a beautiful person by someone you met on a porn site.

 

[DarkSimian]

Love, life's sweetest reward.....

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I love ya, you little sap!

While I'm humbled that you've included me in such company, I have to admit, I never thought about being that way until Kate's death. I'll always be jealous of those of you who had gotten to know her well; I was just starting to really become closer to her when she died. I decided then that I would carry on what little bit of her spirit that I am capable of in my limited ability. I think every other kind of love springs from our love of our fellow man and woman in general.

I think also that this is a very timely topic as we approach the season of love, peace and light that is Christmas.

you too J!!

I'm one of those people who can say love easily. I love my family. My friends, my dogs. Otters. .
I think it's important to love. To acknowledge those you have feelings for. Be it romantic love or a friendhip that you hold dear. Love is scary, but it's also what we all crave deep down in one form or another.

Great topic Ricky.

Thanks! Love seeing you here.

Well. Once I have made friends with people here and it becomes something where we talk often or daily and they become a part of my life, I incorporate them into my life here at home. My family knows all about my closest Lit friends and a few have interacted with my family. I love easily and I love hard. But there is still a difference in love. Because there are always people who don't want their names mentioned, I'll give an example of those who don't mind.

Chris_Michael- He has been my best friend for several years now. I do love him to death. I'd be lost without him, even if he is a pain in the ass, I love him. He is incorporated to my family and has talked with all of them. He's helped my daughter with homework and now watched her grow from a lanky little teen, to a mature college woman. I've never cared where we met. My family knows how we met. He'd be welcome to come stay at my house any time he wanted/needed. I tell him I love him every time we talk.

Emmy_Christina- Anyone who has followed her thread knows how much this amazing woman means to me. I also love her to pieces. I talk to her as often as I can, I help keep her thread up to date with her health, and she has been my rock on many occasions. No matter what she has gone through, she still makes sure that both I, and my family are ok. She has the biggest heart I've ever seen. She not only sends me gifts all the time, but she often sends my kids gifts. She was there for me when I lost my Dad to Cancer. I tell her that I love her every time we talk.

Farawyn- Her and I became fast friends on here and I love her also. We have so much in common. Her kids are basically my kids ages. Our youngest graduated High School together, and now have gone on to College together (different places obviously) We joke about being crazy cat ladies together and growing old together. She is "Aunt Fara" to my kids. She loves me, she worries about me, and she is there for me. She has learned how to deal with my moods and knows that I always come back. The plan is to go visit her here soon and have tons of Pajama parties and girlie movies, and gossip. We also say I love you every time we talk.


I am not "in love" with these 3. They are just the people I can always count on when I am falling apart, when I am happy or when I just need a friend.

You are very giving!!

Well, I did find love, love here. The real deal. I’m in a long distance relationship for about a year. He plans on moving to me.

My friends. I’m like Sassy and BeachBaby... both of whom I love, by the way.
My girls here are super important to me. They are go to friends. I’ve met cookie.
I will meet any of my girls. Any time. We are in FB, we text, we talk on the phone. Each of them gives me so much.
Can I name them all? Do we have enough room?

I love some of my guy friends, too, and tell them. And they tell me.
It’s nice to be seen as a beautiful person by someone you met on a porn site.

I actually thought of you and how you love your friends. Quite the inspiration.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Always the sweetest, Ricky.

 

[Daizie]

Life is incredibly short and tomorrow is not promised to anyone. So tell the ones you love how you feel as often as possible.



http://quotepixel.com/images/quotes/love/quote-where-there-is_4198-0.png

 

[LucianaGrace]

I adore that quote, Daizie! Though I’ve come to interpret it differently.

Love, for me, is a state of being. It is, quite simply, who I am. And who you are. In that regard, it isn’t something you find or fall into, but it’s something you live and give. It’s an energy, a force of nature, it’s life itself. Love is our life force. And we connect with each other through it. And those connections are all different; some are compatible, some aren’t. Some are passionate and fierce, others are gentle and nurturing. Sometimes it’s electrifying...beyond our ability to communicate with words. And we give it freely (perhaps sometimes protectively, but that’s for a good reason).

So...we are love. We are life. Love is life.

Just some ramblings. Sorry for philosophical blabber

 

[Misshotndeep]

Love is the most wide spread and accepted form of insanity. It makes you do and say crazy stuff. People kill for it. People die for it. People will even pay in hopes of finding it. Without it we fall apart. It can make us stronger. It can make us weaker. Love is more addictive than any drug and at some point we all crave that high even with the knowledge that the downside can leave us cripple and broken.

 

[Farawyn]

Love is the most wide spread and accepted form of insanity. It makes you do and say crazy stuff. People kill for it. People die for it. People will even pay in hopes of finding it. Without it we fall apart. It can make us stronger. It can make us weaker. Love is more addictive than any drug and at some point we all crave that high even with the knowledge that the downside can leave us cripple and broken.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

So, I did a lot of digging around. I found something worthwhile, something I felt worth sharing here. You know who knew how to love without it being overly complicated, Mrs H. Our beloved and missed Kate H, and she too was loved.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=690715

and then there is this tribute.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=764687



There are others who spread love around here. BlackCashmere, JennyNo1 and Azuldragon come to mind.


Maybe I'm just getting sappy in my old age.

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I just saw this today. Its rather... it leaves one with no adequate words. I never knew her well, but posted beside her for a long while. Years in a few different locations. I never failed to perv at her pics, even while I might disagree with her point of view. I'll say this much, she never seemed to attack me for mine.

Thomas Newman- Waiting On Angels

I remember. And the song still fits.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I am really enjoying the responses here. So many layers and ways to love. Embracing it is incredible, scary and exhilarating all at the same time even at the friend level.

 

[BlackCashmere]

So, I did a lot of digging around. I found something worthwhile, something I felt worth sharing here. You know who knew how to love without it being overly complicated, Mrs H. Our beloved and missed Kate H, and she too was loved.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=690715

and then there is this tribute.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=764687



There are others who spread love around here. BlackCashmere, JennyNo1 and Azuldragon come to mind.


Maybe I'm just getting sappy in my old age.

Ricky...

Thank you so very much for your kind words...It means a lot...

This is such a beautiful, Positive, AND Inspiring thread...I am so happy you started it...It is wonderful and I love reading the responses here today and look forward to all the others to come...I too will be offering my thoughts...

I wish you a very Beautiful, Peaceful and Happy Thanksgiving...