Love is selfish.

[Svedish_Chef]

You dont love someone because it makes them a better person, makes them be happier and healthier.

You do it because YOU want to.

Because it makes YOU feel good.

Sure you want to get love from them in return but only cause you love em in the first place.

So seldom can we love someone unconditionally for whatever reason and let them go through life without trying to have more with them that you have. I try and do that and to some degree I do succeed. Its not fair to place boundaries on your love.

There are 5 or 6 people in this world that I love, and I tell em so and they understand what I mean, and I dont want anything from them that they dont want to give me.

Feel free to discuss if you wish but it was just a thought.

 

[lickerish]

I love U

 

[Samuari]

Something that showed up in my email

1. Love starts with a smile, grows into a kiss, and ends with a tear.

2. Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.

3. If love is not a game, why are there so many players?

4. Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.

5. You can only go as far as you push.

6. Actions speak louder than words.

7. The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.

8. Don't let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.

9. Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it.

10. A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find, and lucky to have.

11. Some people make the world special just by being in it.

12. Best friends are the siblings G~d forgot to give us.

13. When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you ; can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

14. True friendship never ends.

15. Friends are forever.

16. Good friends are like stars...You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

17. Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.

18. What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?

19. Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with him/her.

20. Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

21. Most people walk in and out of your life, but only friends leave footprints in your heart

 

[SweetCherry]

Re: Something that showed up in my email

18. What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?

OMG, I can't even count the number of times I've had this happen to me!

 

[April]

You can love someone for the rest of your life, but after a while you just have to cut them loose if all they do is hurt and ignore you.

 

[Samuari]

You can love someone for the rest of your life, but after a while you just have to cut them loose if all they do is hurt and ignore you.

Sometimes cutting them loose is the most loving thing that you can do, and it doesn't mean that you stop loving them, ever. It doesn't stop the hurt, but does make it more managable.

 

[lobito]

Samuari

these are truely words to live by.

 

[Chuckus]

All of what was said above is very true.

I guess the one thing I remember is

I would rather try to and fail, then not to have loved at all.

It is much better to have lost in love than to never have loved at all.

 

[Nathon_88]

I've loved, lost, and still can't find someone to love again, but it was worth the entire heartbreak, simply to know that someone COULD love me.

 

[lavender]

 

[pabloback]

the hardest thing i have ever had to do is accept that the person i love more than life itself can only be truely happy without me in her life . the best way for me to show my love is to have no contact with her
love is a powerful drug and a wonderful thing
it is also more dangerous and destructive than hate can ever be

 

[Cheyenne]

I think I've been incapable of loving another human in a non-familial sort of way for the last few years. I wonder if it will come back. I'm sure it will. Or maybe I'm just really a cold hearted snake!

??? That doesn't fit at all with my image of you.

And I'm a liberal if you're a cold hearted snake.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Love is not selfish. People are selfish.

 

[lavender]

 

[~melia~]

Re: Something that showed up in my email

7. The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.

Yep

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Love is not selfish. People are selfish.

I try and I try... and I let em go, cause they dont want me, and it hurts and it hurts.. for I will always want them somewhere near me.

Tis life so I hear.

If its ONLY love, then why does it have to hurt so much?

 

[April]

Don't know why it hurts so much, Chef. It just does.

 

[lavender]

 

[Samuari]

I try and I try... and I let em go, cause they dont want me, and it hurts and it hurts.. for I will always want them somewhere near me.

Tis life so I hear.

If its ONLY love, then why does it have to hurt so much?

Cheefie, I f it wasn't love, it prolly wouldn't hurt.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Cheefie, I f it wasn't love, it prolly wouldn't hurt.

True, but does it have to ALWAYS fucking hurt.

I wish I didn't know what love was again

 

[Samuari]

Nope

True, but does it have to ALWAYS fucking hurt.

I wish I didn't know what love was again

And I have been fortunite enough to had much more joy than hurt in my life, but when I'm hurting it is so fucking intense, that I can't even remember anything else, just the pain. Eventually, I get some perspective, and can see the whole, kinda like #20 above: "Everything is okay in the end. If its not okay, its not the end."

I hope you find your perpective soon. I'm praying for you.

 

[lickerish]

True, but does it have to ALWAYS fucking hurt.

I wish I didn't know what love was again

[COLOR=royal blue]This too shall pass, Cheffie~kins, this too shall pass.[/COLOR]

(on a side note.. sometimes you gotta wade through the bad stuff to get to the good stuff. You will find a beautiful person who will accept & love you for you. All of you. Every last bit. You deserve it)