Love at first post?
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Sicilian24
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I picked 'maybe for a select few...' my reason is it's not everyones cup of tea. As for me, I've been in love with someone online before, exchanged emails, phone numbers, etc. planned on meeting, dated online for 6 months, then my worst nightmare happened, she passed away from a cancerous brain tumor just 2 days before her 21st birthday...
janeyl
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I've seen it work for some people on here but generally when it's followed up with meeting in real life.
I have had strong feelings for people I've chatted to online and absolutely adore some of my friends from here but personally could never say I was in love with someone I hadn't met face to face
That's not to say that it's not possible-just not for me...
I have had strong feelings for people I've chatted to online and absolutely adore some of my friends from here but personally could never say I was in love with someone I hadn't met face to face
That's not to say that it's not possible-just not for me...
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ZipBlockBloodie
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It can be, yeah it would be hard to maintain but yeah it's possible.
Oh wow...my heart goes to Sicilian. So sorry to hear this happened to you
...jeez , life has a way of playing with us...Same as janeyil, I do care about a lot of the people I have meet online over the years. Once I thought I was inlove but I realized shortly it was only infatuation...being inlove is a lot more than that and it definitely implies at least one face to face meeting
SJZ76
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There was a short line at the polling booth, but YES I voted
and your vote was......?
Sicilian24
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Oh wow...my heart goes to Sicilian. So sorry to hear this happened to you
Same as janeyil, I do care about a lot of the people I have meet online over the years. Once I thought I was inlove but I realized shortly it was only infatuation...being inlove is a lot more than that and it definitely implies at least one face to face meeting
Thank you Delisemoa, it's been two years since she passed away. I knew her for knew her for a little more than 3 years.
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I happen to believe it is possible. But the face to face meeting is an essential part of the mix.
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sometimes chemistry goes above and beyond anything physical....that is something you just can't ignore, something you should grab a hold of and keep close because it's special.
sometimes chemistry goes above and beyond anything physical....that is something you just can't ignore, something you should grab a hold of and keep close because it's special.
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TenCentPistol
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Definitely, I know people that have met online and are still together after years. Just depends on that connection/meeting in real, and keeping it going.
This is tricky. People 'feel' love so differently, and one person's perception of the L word can be much different from anothers. Do I believe strong attachments can develop? Absolutely. Do I believe it can feel like love? Yep. But I also believe it takes at least 2 years of knowing someone....REALLY knowing them and seeing them at every angle (not THOSE kind of angles) before you start to develop the skills as a couple to trust and communicate and SEE each other with anything but rose coloured glasses.
So sure. Love can develop without much effort at all. Keeping it's the tricky part.
I voted for Santa.
So sure. Love can develop without much effort at all. Keeping it's the tricky part.
I voted for Santa.
NeverWinterNite
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I think it's possible because I know quite a few people who have met online and got married. But it would also require meeting offline and getting to know each other better.
SJZ76
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heh
sometimes chemistry goes above and beyond anything physical....that is something you just can't ignore, and should grab a hold of and hold onto because it's special.
heh.
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I am currently proof of that it can happen...
Rosemaryythyme
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i voted yes!
I'm in the same boat as Ironman...
I'm in the same boat as Ironman...
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For a select few I am sure it works. For me I highly doubt it without a face to face meeting. I think it is a bit ambitious to fall in love with someone off the internet without having that physical chemistry as well. I have dated a few "hot" girls that unfortunately know how hot they are and after about the 2nd month I got bored with them pretty easily.
On the flip side I have dated some girls who were your average looking women but were down to earth. Easy to get along with. More genuine in a lot of ways, but because the physical chemistry wasn't there it didn't work out.
I think the positive thing about "dating" on the internet is that unlike real life it gives you ample opportunity to get to know the person quicker than in person. Now who is to say one or the other is lying or not. Then again the same thing can be said in real life as well.
I think there are quite a few single people on this site and others that believ with their whole heart that they can fall in love over it. Unfortunately there are a lot of assholes on here that take advantage of thos people. After hearing about a good friend on here finding out the guy she liked was dating another on here it confirmed that even more for me and probably them as well.
If you do have feelings for someone on here, make plans to meet up. Be sincere in your feelings. There is no place for games on here. As many have said before over and over, there are real people with real emotions behind the names always try to respect and remmber that.
Good luck to those looking, just make sure you keep your guard up.
On the flip side I have dated some girls who were your average looking women but were down to earth. Easy to get along with. More genuine in a lot of ways, but because the physical chemistry wasn't there it didn't work out.
I think the positive thing about "dating" on the internet is that unlike real life it gives you ample opportunity to get to know the person quicker than in person. Now who is to say one or the other is lying or not. Then again the same thing can be said in real life as well.
I think there are quite a few single people on this site and others that believ with their whole heart that they can fall in love over it. Unfortunately there are a lot of assholes on here that take advantage of thos people. After hearing about a good friend on here finding out the guy she liked was dating another on here it confirmed that even more for me and probably them as well.
If you do have feelings for someone on here, make plans to meet up. Be sincere in your feelings. There is no place for games on here. As many have said before over and over, there are real people with real emotions behind the names always try to respect and remmber that.
Good luck to those looking, just make sure you keep your guard up.
NeverWinterNite
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This is very good advice.
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I guess the hopeless romantic in me believes so. I have known several couples who met online and whose marriages are strong to this day. That said, I agree, face meetings have to happen eventually unless you plan to just be in love and not move further in the relationship...but then, is that love?
DeliciousInRed
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I think you can yes...
Unfortunately it also hurts just as much when it is taken away...
