Love and Respect

[rida]

The best way to teach people to love is to love them. It's a matter of transmitting direct experience, in my opinion.

gold!

As a culture, we depend too much on love songs and platitudes.

I found that love songs too many time give a askewed and faulty image of love:
expectations of perfect bliss all the time
expectations of mind reading abilities
expectations that love conquers all and you can change/rescue someone with love
expectations that love should be returned

To me, love as an emotions, it should be selfless.
When I love, there is no expectation of it being returned. Of course I wish and am happy when that happens. But if it doesn't, my love does not die. It might morph and change or it might go dormant, depending on the relationship.

A loving relationship though needs nurturing and tending. To feel love is not enough to make a relationship successful. And being in love/in a love relationship is no guarantee of an easy relationship.

And I've learned early on that you cannot change/fix someone just because you love them or they love you. Being there for them can make it easier for them to work on their issues. But they still have to do all the work, and your love will not necessary make it happen,

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Two rules - the cock stays empty and the belly stays full. Don't underestimate these!

The balls stay empty...the cock is merely a conduit...

What is the sub version of this?

Actually, I'm pretty good with this version.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

~smile~

I would think being in love would make communications easier.

Why be afraid of the one you love, the one who loves you?

That's not entirely true for some people.

Being in love might make you *want* to communicate more. Communication is a learned skill, not being able to do so doesn't mean you're afraid of the one you love.

If you don't have it, you need to work on it, even if that means getting some help from a professional.

 

[warrior queen]

~smile~

I would think being in love would make communications easier.

Why be afraid of the one you love, the one who loves you?

you quote from a fairytale world...
reality is not always so simplistic.
love is not the aid to communication and trust you believe it to be - many here have been loved, and have loved in return, only to find there was less-than-adequate comminication.... and only to find that love did NOT conquer all.

indeed, it's a recurring theme within broken relationships that love simply wasn't enough.

 

[sexymom]

Love vs. Fear

To me, one often complements the other. I've never been totally, gut-wrenchingly afraid of anyone I didn't love. The converse is not necessarily true, though- in my experience anyway. I have certainly been in love with people I didn't fear.

 

[Bugaloo_Dookie]

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