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[Teaser_Girl]

I'm sure that many of users here have had the same problem I am having... But I could really use some advice.

I've always known that I have a submissive nature... but always repressed it out of fear of what my partners might think.
I fell in love with an amazing man. He was everything I could have ever dreamed of. I really and truly wanted to marry him. He ended up collaring me. Life was spectacular to say the least.
There was really only one issue in our relationship... He was much older than me. It was because of the age difference that he chose to end our relationship. He said that I deserved someone my own age, someone to grow old with instead of watching the other person grow old.
He broke my heart. More than I ever thought my heart could be broken.
After months of trying to move on, I just can't seem to do it. I guess the advice that I am seeking is how to better move on after such an intense D/s relationship.

 

[satindesire]

I'm sure that many of users here have had the same problem I am having... But I could really use some advice.

I've always known that I have a submissive nature... but always repressed it out of fear of what my partners might think.
I fell in love with an amazing man. He was everything I could have ever dreamed of. I really and truly wanted to marry him. He ended up collaring me. Life was spectacular to say the least.
There was really only one issue in our relationship... He was much older than me. It was because of the age difference that he chose to end our relationship. He said that I deserved someone my own age, someone to grow old with instead of watching the other person grow old.
He broke my heart. More than I ever thought my heart could be broken.
After months of trying to move on, I just can't seem to do it. I guess the advice that I am seeking is how to better move on after such an intense D/s relationship.

It's no different than moving on after a vanilla relationship. D/s doesn't mean it was inherently more meaningful or that you'll have to suffer more.

You let yourself mourn. Cry, eat ice cream, listen to sad songs, write in your journal.

If you allow yourself to be hurt and be okay with it, you'll heal that much faster.

 

[Teaser_Girl]

It's no different than moving on after a vanilla relationship. D/s doesn't mean it was inherently more meaningful or that you'll have to suffer more.

You let yourself mourn. Cry, eat ice cream, listen to sad songs, write in your journal.

If you allow yourself to be hurt and be okay with it, you'll heal that much faster.

I guess the main reason that this time feels different is that it was the most serious relationship I have ever had.
I appreciate the advice. Maybe I should go run and pick up some ice cream and stop being in denial about the whole thing.

 

[satindesire]

I guess the main reason that this time feels different is that it was the most serious relationship I have ever had.
I appreciate the advice. Maybe I should go run and pick up some ice cream and stop being in denial about the whole thing.

It does make a difference if you've never actually had a bad break up before. If this is your first serious love relationship, the breakup will be a new experience for you.

I apologize for assuming this wasn't your first bad breakup.

One thing that helped me every time I had a breakup was laughter. Watching comedy shows, funny movies, or just spending time with friends that made me laugh helped so much. Sometimes you can sink into a pattern of mourning so much that you can't seem to remember how to live without being sad, and making sure you're getting a daily dose of happiness will keep your spirit balanced.

However, don't deny yourself the sadness when it comes. Giving yourself permission to be sad is like licking a mental wound. You have to let it bleed so it can heal cleanly.

Edit:

Chocolate helps.

 

[Texguy84]

And of course, if the opportunity for fun with someone else/ someone new presents itself, it could be a fun way to distract yourself. Not necessarily a rebound kind of thing, but really any kind of fun activity. Hiking, roller coaster riding, stamp collecting, just whatever seems fun and different.