Losing Your Virginity

[SweetErika]

Then I have to go talk to my doctor, because when I was diagnosed with it, this is what they told me.

Look here: http://www.herpes.com/genitalinfo.shtml

Transmission is caused by close oral, anal, or genital contact, including intercourse, masturbation, kissing, or any direct skin-to-skin contact which allows for the transfer of bodily fluids.

A person is considered contagious when prodromal symptoms, active sores, and healing lesions are present.

Herpes is potentially contagious when no symptoms are present. That is, a person who has genital herpes is potentially always shedding active virus.

Approximately 1 in 6 members of the general infected population is thought to shed active virus occasionally without symptoms.

Some people do not get typical blister-like sores but harbor active virus in their saliva, vaginal, or penile secretions, and can shed the virus without knowing they have herpes.

Lesions can occur deep inside the vagina where they cannot be seen or felt, but can readily transmit the virus.

An uninfected individual has about a 75% chance of contracting herpes during intimate contact with someone actively shedding virus.

Oral herpes can be transmitted to the genitals, and vice versa. Symptoms are similar.

Auto-inoculation: An infected individual can spread the virus to other parts of his or her body by touching an area shedding virus and then touching, scratching, or rubbing another susceptible part of the body. Towels are especially conducive to this.

It is possible for a person to contract genital herpes if the partner with oral herpes performs oral sex. Oral herpes can be transmitted to the genitals, and vice versa. Symptoms are similar.

Environmental surfaces like toilet seats may be a source of contagion, but there is no evidence that this poses a real threat to the general population. Experts differ as to how long the virus can survive on its own. The primary cause of infection remains intimate contact.

 

[BXGemini20]

Sounds like some you ladies have had some painful experiences. Being a guy and virgin. I'm glad nothing should happen to me...right???

 

[devils_daughter]

One thing I was told was that a lot of information on the internet is what the doctor called "total crap", and is there to freak you out. For example, I was told that there was no way that towels can conduct the virus.

 

[big_kahuna]

A correction, please

You can't "lose" your virginity any more than it can be stolen or taken away. It must be given, and hopefully, with a man whom you love and trust to be worthy of such a gift.
I remember a young woman who wanted me to "take" her virginity. She wanted to have sex "right now," but I insisted that we wait until I could get two big tubes iof KY jelly, and get her as physically ready as possible. It was great for both of us, I think. Her bleeding was minimal, and she claimed that the pain was more like a "little sting." Of course, all women are different.
Go very slowly, and use plenty of lube before having sex for the first time.
The same advice holds for anal sex, too.

 

[ultimate_cin]

I lost my virginity last week to my boyfriend...he is 16 years older than me and pretty experienced...but he was patient and caring with me, and he made it a great experience....he had a dozen roses waiting for me, rose petals on the bed and candles burning all over the room. He spent several hours on foreplay with me, and by the time we actually did the deed, I was so wet and relaxed that it didn't hurt a bit. He made it really special for me, and I'll always love him for that. It's more than just the sex, it's about the mood and the feeling between the two of you.

 

[SmilinAngel]

This was only about 2 years ago for me, so I still remember it quite well. It wasn't super painful, just really uncomfortable. My hymen must have already been broken somehow (which is completely possible, I've been told), because I didn't bleed any, but it was just really, really uncomfortable. Kinda like when you go to the doctor for a check-up and the gyn opens you up. It stayed that way for the first 3-5 times, each time a little less. I didn't have the big O until the 4th or 5th time. Hope that helps!

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Well, being Male, I can't experience this as you can/will one day. But I can say that having Been there and DONE that.. hehe.. Take it slow.. is He worth it? It's a deeply personal thing.. make sure he respects you, and YOU need to control it when it happens.. There will be some pain.. and it could be alot of pain.. but if you both are into it, it wont' be bad at all.. imagine a bee sting. And imagine a bee sting when you are so horny you are soaking yer panties!! Ideally, do a good bit of oral first. Make him cum prior to the "event" using your hands, mouth, whatever.. And let him do the same to you.. You will be more relaxed, and he wont be quite as "charged".. nature will take its course afterwords if you let it. But if you are not comfortable, or are not sure you are ready for this step, DONT DO IT. Never do anyting you both are not comfortable talking about afterwords. Its not dirty if neither of you feel dirty afterwords. Have fun!