losing your slut

[ivantheterrible]

hi, haven't been on here much.
got a divorce. it wasn't over sexual issues, but many other things. i was wondering, when you break up and you were in a kinky sexual relationship, has anyone noticed if one or the other in the relationship stops doing what they did with their ex? i know i won't.
i sometimes wonder if my ex-slut will still get into bondage, buttplugs, photography (she is an exhibitionist and loved doing it), and being called a dirty little slut while lightly spanking her ass while being fucked. she liked being pumped full of cum or being cummed on and having me lick it up. her reward for being a dirty slut.
sigh, i will miss the sex with that girl.

 

[satindesire]

hi, haven't been on here much.
got a divorce. it wasn't over sexual issues, but many other things. i was wondering, when you break up and you were in a kinky sexual relationship, has anyone noticed if one or the other in the relationship stops doing what they did with their ex? i know i won't.
i sometimes wonder if my ex-slut will still get into bondage, buttplugs, photography (she is an exhibitionist and loved doing it), and being called a dirty little slut while lightly spanking her ass while being fucked. she liked being pumped full of cum or being cummed on and having me lick it up. her reward for being a dirty slut.
sigh, i will miss the sex with that girl.

I didn't stop being kinky after I broke up with my ex, but starting kink with a new person who isn't kinky is more difficult, I think, then when you're BOTH starting out at the same time.

 

[LadyAria]

I think the loss of any good sexual relationship is hard. However, knowing how sweet the former lover and what they might doing is a road best not traveled too often. If you parted, then it was most likely for reasons greater then your physical compatibility. Keep those in mind to exorcise the demons of "what they are doing now".

 

[PurpleTiara]

I was one half of a kinky couple too and we broke up about a year ago. He dumped me. I expect he will still be kinky, or rather is still kinky. I know that I am definitely still kinky, though I have been not dated or played since then. My sex drive is starting to come back now and I have a date this week with an old friend who I know is kinky, though I have never dated a Switch before. I expect it does not matter, though if we do start seeing each other "for real" I will cross the switchy bridge when we come to it.

 

[RandomAssGuy]

I'm in a sexual relationship with a divorced woman now, and have dated a few in the past. The current one is very much into being told what to do, thrown around, talked down to, pictures being taken etc etc. In fact after some talking it sounds like she is wilder now then she was in teh past.

All the older women I have dated (me in my early/mid 20's them in their early 30's to early 40's) have been divorced, and they were all very sexually open minded except for one. Seems after a divorce women just wanna have some fun, nothing serious, and do some of the crazy stuff tehy always wanted to try but couldnt before. I cant lie I'm quite fond of recently divorced women lol. Suddenly I find myself in the divorced boat and can kinda relate with those feelings as well. Although I was only married about a year and a half.

 

[Myskaninen]

My ex and me was in an D/s relationship whit me as the dominant one... and from what I heard from friends that meet her after we broke up she seem to be as unable to take decissions and so on as she grew into when we were together... so I guess she is still into it just as I am

 

[MisterSir]

Quit bitching, at least all y'all actually had that once. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before, right, but what the fuck do I have? Nowt but unrequited and unreturned love, and that sucks worse than any of your shit. "oh noes i had some of the best times of my life and now they're gone, woe is me", at least you had the best fucking times to begin with. Fuck that.

 

[satindesire]

Quit bitching, at least all y'all actually had that once. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before, right, but what the fuck do I have? Nowt but unrequited and unreturned love, and that sucks worse than any of your shit. "oh noes i had some of the best times of my life and now they're gone, woe is me", at least you had the best fucking times to begin with. Fuck that.

Aw sweetie, don't be like that. I can't stand to see you all nasty and vitriolic. *pout*

 

[Cratchit]

Quit bitching, at least all y'all actually had that once. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before, right, but what the fuck do I have? Nowt but unrequited and unreturned love, and that sucks worse than any of your shit. "oh noes i had some of the best times of my life and now they're gone, woe is me", at least you had the best fucking times to begin with. Fuck that.

There's irony. He tells the other guy to quit bitching.... so he can start bitching

 

[MisterSir]

There's irony. He tells the other guy to quit bitching.... so he can start bitching

Way to miss the point, bud. Really. Who the fuck taught you comprehension?

 

[satindesire]

That's quite ENOUGH. Both of you.

 

[blunt_trauma]

ahhhh!

this thread explains the insane, drunken rantings on the gb a few weeks back.
and is exactly what i said at the time. heh.

glad to see you quit the rantings.

 

[Myskaninen]

maybe they just want some nice dom/domme to take care of them?

 

[Netzach]

Quit bitching, at least all y'all actually had that once. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before, right, but what the fuck do I have? Nowt but unrequited and unreturned love, and that sucks worse than any of your shit. "oh noes i had some of the best times of my life and now they're gone, woe is me", at least you had the best fucking times to begin with. Fuck that.

You are 20. Chill.

You'll know the pain of rejection and someday you'll probably also know the triple helping pain of rejecting someone else, which I never thought would be worse and I never thought I'd be doing. Till I was 19 I pretty much was alone and filled with angst and hormones. If I was remotely an attractive girl, no one in my immediate peer group bothered to let me know.

It sucked, and I would not go back. But until you HAVE gone through this kind of split "better to have loved and lost" is talking out your ass.

 

[HarlotMinx]

That's quite ENOUGH. Both of you.

I don't know why but watching you get commanding brightened a otherwise bleak day. (how the hell does snow manage to show up in the middle of the day in April!)

 

[satindesire]

I don't know why but watching you get commanding brightened a otherwise bleak day. (how the hell does snow manage to show up in the middle of the day in April!)

*chuckles* It doesn't happen often, let me tell you something.

 

[ZRT]

Love hurts. Love scars. Love burns. And mars.

At least that's how I think it goes.

And yeah, it sucks. Had a gal once that was, sex and submission-wise, was nearly a perfect match for my tastes. It was just everywhere else it didn't work. Still think about her occasionally.

 

[graceanne]

You are 20. Chill.

Twenty?

Well, that explains a lot.

 

[satindesire]

Twenty?

Well, that explains a lot.

All right, that's enough out of the collective lot of you.

 

[graceanne]

All right, that's enough out of the collective lot of you.

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Do I get a spanking if I don't quit?

 

[satindesire]

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Do I get a spanking if I don't quit?

No, I'll take away your chocolate for an entire month. *stern expression*

 

[graceanne]

No, I'll take away your chocolate for an entire month. *stern expression*

But!

But!

But!



You're so mean!

*pouts*

 

[satindesire]

But!

But!

But!



You're so mean!

*pouts*

That's what happens when bad girls don't mind their manners. *nod*

 

[graceanne]

That's what happens when bad girls don't mind their manners. *nod*

Well, at least I got called a bad girl.

 

[MisterSir]

Hurm. Setting aside the casual insinuations that beucase I'm younger than most of you I'm somehow not entitled to be pissed, that is all that was. Like I said to Z, I've just been semi-backstabbed by a former good friend and I had some excess bile to vent. Booze and the stress of revision helps on that front.

NB: It does not help that people keep poking useyou. I wouldn't mind it so much if they weren't doing it in my fucking thread.