Losing to a male rival?

[CurtGiles46]

Guys, what’s the worst time that you’ve ever lost to a male rival? He took your girlfriend? He took your wife?

I imagine the worst sexual defeat is when a guy steals your girlfriend and he impregnates her to mark his territory.

The shock of this defeat probably spurs a lot of guys forward into a lifelong cuckold fetish.

 

[Swuchmann]

Wife’s ex bf. She had only been friends before she and I met.

Several years later we are living in a gated community. I receive a text that this ex bf was on a list not allowing access to community.

Apparently, my wife had an affair with the ex. It got out of control and he had called her at 4 am. I was out of town he was telling my wife he was coming over. She then asked the gate to put him on the no access list.

Now she denied the affair and told me that had only had phone calls. I don’t believe her. As far as I know she no longer sees him but there may be another guy she is now seeing.

The whole thing is humiliating and at the same time a turn. Mixed emotions.

 

[CurtGiles46]

I get that completely. My wife drunkenly fucked a coworker on a work trip once and all her coworkers knew it, she spent the night in his room, the talk of the trip. It was a big humiliation for me. My wife was super hot and I know all the coworkers. A huge defeat for me and the lucky coworker knew it. He was smug toward me while all her coworkers were pitying me. A hard loss. I just took it too. I didn’t leave her.

Were you very angry at her?

 

[gtnlynn]

I didn't really lose. She was free to date others in college while I was away at another university. She was not free to have sex with them, but she did. She assured me that she was just having fun and that she was still mine. As it turned out, she was telling the truth and dumped any rival who tried to get serious with her. Still, I felt I was losing when it was going on. When I asked her to stop dating others her junior year, she stopped, never to date them again.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I never really felt I lost to any rival. I was saddened by my wife leaving me, but after three years she finally met a guy, but whose is hardly a man in any stretch of the imagination. I say that because he is ten years older than her, but now has got her into doing drugs. For awhile as she dated men, she looked nice, always a pretty woman, but even more so as she tried to be the most attractive she could.

Not now.

She is really sunken in features and scrawny, and not in a good looking way. No weight to her, but in an unhealthy sort of way. My daughter says she gets angry all the time, which was something she never did, as she was always a really good mother. Not a great wife at times, but a great mother always so her personality has really changed. We had some property together, and I have been putting off on selling it just because I suspect getting that much money, she will end up dead.

But that is how it works at our ages. People that think they won the lottery because your ex is new and different, and yet they will soon find out just what they are getting. It's really a shame watching someone slowly kill themselves from their life choices.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

At the time, the humiliation was pretty severe, and she was initially trying to deny what she did. Yeah, I was angry back then. That is probably why she never revealed the details. Now, she admits it, but still no details.

I know the feelings very well. The anger went away after a while and the excitement kicked in.

 

[trevorness]

Years ago my wife was drinking with coworkers and ended up going home with one. She later confessed. A few years later I ended up working with both of them, and the guy had a smug “I fucked your girl” energy. He didn’t know I knew.

 

[Iwant2havefun]

Years ago my wife was drinking with coworkers and ended up going home with one. She later confessed. A few years later I ended up working with both of them, and the guy had a smug “I fucked your girl” energy. He didn’t know I knew.

While working on a project together, i met an ex-lover of my GF from a few years prior. He was married while they were together for 6 months (she didn't know he was married, as he lied to her.) He also had a smug "i was fucking your GF" look on his face when other colleagues told him i was dating her; he acknowledged knowing her and talking with her, how "nice" she was, and that he really liked her.

She had told me the whole story, however. On the second day of the project, i pulled him aside and told him i knew he had an affair with her while he was married. He denied it. "What are you talking about?" i took one step forward and looked him straight in the eyes. "She told me. I know all about it. I don't care...it's over....but I just want you to know that I know." It wasn't confrontational, but important for me to let him know. After that, his smugness almost turned to humiliation (that I knew he cheated on his wife.) That felt very good, and my GF appreciated it too.

 

[K0fcali]

I never really felt I lost to any rival. I was saddened by my wife leaving me, but after three years she finally met a guy, but whose is hardly a man in any stretch of the imagination. I say that because he is ten years older than her, but now has got her into doing drugs. For awhile as she dated men, she looked nice, always a pretty woman, but even more so as she tried to be the most attractive she could.

Not now.

She is really sunken in features and scrawny, and not in a good looking way. No weight to her, but in an unhealthy sort of way. My daughter says she gets angry all the time, which was something she never did, as she was always a really good mother. Not a great wife at times, but a great mother always so her personality has really changed. We had some property together, and I have been putting off on selling it just because I suspect getting that much money, she will end up dead.

But that is how it works at our ages. People that think they won the lottery because your ex is new and different, and yet they will soon find out just what they are getting. It's really a shame watching someone slowly kill themselves from their life choices.

Its her right to choose. Its what she wants. So you would rather wait and let her die slowly?

 

[CuttingEdge]

Of course she has the right to choose the path of her life, but it is very sad when the mother of your children chooses such a destructive path. Like most life choices; the ones we take, severely affect the lives of the ones we love the most. In this case, my daughters lives are severely impacted, and not in a good way. Nothing good can come from a mother being a drug addict.

 

[stiv837]

I lost my wife for about a year to the guy she was dating before me. He got tired of her and unfortunately I took her back.

 

[screwher]

I don’t think I’d ever lose my wife to a “male rival”. But I have thought a scenario where a night with my wife as a prize in a contest with me would be kind of hot. Maybe a game of pool or cards. I’m in a position to win. But then think differently. Then intentionally tank my turn. Then he wins. And takes my wife back to his place. Or I get them a hotel room. Then he fucks her all night!

 

[pixie07]

My wife got seduced by a friend at a party in front of a bunch of or other friends. To have her go from a very faithful wife at the start of the party to making out with him in front of everyone then he took her to a bedroom and fucked her brains out with everyone there listening or knowing what was happening was so humiliating . Even more humiliating was the fact I could only stand the with a hard on with everyone asking me wasn’t I going to do something about it. And all I did was go outside the bedroom listen and took my dick out and jerk off while it’s guy fucked my wife better then I ever had . An I’ve been a cuckold since that night. my wife has had a lot of other men sense that night but he is absolutely her main boyfriend . When he sleeps over he gets my bed I will either get the couch or the floor by the bed depending on how much humiliation him and my wife want to give me.

 

[screwher]

My wife got seduced by a friend at a party in front of a bunch of or other friends. To have her go from a very faithful wife at the start of the party to making out with him in front of everyone then he took her to a bedroom and fucked her brains out with everyone there listening or knowing what was happening was so humiliating . Even more humiliating was the fact I could only stand the with a hard on with everyone asking me wasn’t I going to do something about it. And all I did was go outside the bedroom listen and took my dick out and jerk off while it’s guy fucked my wife better then I ever had . An I’ve been a cuckold since that night. my wife has had a lot of other men sense that night but he is absolutely her main boyfriend . When he sleeps over he gets my bed I will either get the couch or the floor by the bed depending on how much humiliation him and my wife want to give me.

Wow! That’s fucking hot! Thanks for sharing your story.

Your party scenario is a long time fantasy of mine. Another man approaches my wife (friends on my side of our marriage is a boundary of mine). He sweet talks her and soon he’s talking her up to a bedroom. But since the party is comprised of people from my wife’s side, I don’t really feel the humiliation.

 

[K0fcali]

Of course she has the right to choose the path of her life, but it is very sad when the mother of your children chooses such a destructive path. Like most life choices; the ones we take, severely affect the lives of the ones we love the most. In this case, my daughters lives are severely impacted, and not in a good way. Nothing good can come from a mother being a drug addict.

im in the same boat. My daughters mother abondoned her children to be a drug addict as well.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

The only time I had to deal with a "rival" was when I was a Junior in high school when the girl I was madly in love with chose another guy over me. It was a hard lesson, but I learned not to deal with women that like to play the game of pitting guys against each other for their affection.

I don't play those types of emotional games and I find no interest in women who play them.

 

[wildp]

Shortly after dating my gf i was shown a recent picture of here in t shirt and panties sitting on a counter and her standing between her legs. I had been made aware of this X and talked to her and said she should not see him anymore. Abot two months later I found out a few weeks ago her business trip was not a business trip but a getaway with the X

 

[CuttingEdge]

Guys, what’s the worst time that you’ve ever lost to a male rival? He took your girlfriend? He took your wife?

I imagine the worst sexual defeat is when a guy steals your girlfriend and he impregnates her to mark his territory.

The shock of this defeat probably spurs a lot of guys forward into a lifelong cuckold fetish.

I really don't think it works this way.

Sure, there is a range of emotions that a person goes through when this sort of shock begets you, but in the end, you really are not losing out to a "rival". Any person who would leave someone that truly loves them, is ultimately doing you a favor by leaving.

My ex-wife left me, and while not a cheating situation on either once of our parts, she is incensed that I never chased her down and begged for her to come back. But why would I? Anyone that would make that choice is someone I never would want to share my life with. To this day she keeps telling my daughter that I wanted nothing to do with her, but that is not the truth. I did not want anything to do with her mother, and that is what makes her angry and upset, and is now relabeling it.

She has now got a new boyfriend, but he is hardly a "rival". At 52, he thinks she is the best thing to happen to his life, but her track record with men is pretty dismal. I feel sorry for him actually.