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hi im nearly 19 and still a virgin recently ive been really considering getting a hooker. should i do this or wait for the right person to come along?
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i dunno all my mates have girlfriends and when we are together they sit and talk about sex and id just like to know what there going on about. im not totally unexperienced i have tried other things just never gone all the way.
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You may discover sex with a hooker but you will not experience making love. And there is a distinct difference in the two. Also remember that a hooker wants you to hurry up, the faster the climax for you the more she makes by the hour? 1/2 hour? 15 minutes? Well, you see where I am going with this. It is your decision.
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I think you would get more satisfaction jerking off than having sex w/ a hooker- she' making money, it's a business to her. You want passion & intimacy. Not conduct a deal on rates and such.
You're only 19, I would wait for the right person. There's more to sex than getting off, with a hooker, that's all you would be doing.
You're only 19, I would wait for the right person. There's more to sex than getting off, with a hooker, that's all you would be doing.
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horny_virgin said:
Well, I'm with most of the other folks who've posted. You probably wouldn't get what they were going on about anyway, if you lost it to a hooker. You'd get the physical experience, but you wouldn't really have any sort of mental or emotional connection. In my opinion and experience, you need to have *some* sort of connection for sex to be good. Yes, you can still get off, but like someone said, it wouldn't be much difference than jerking off - only you'd be doing it into a warm receptical. Equate it to eating - you can eat something bland and boring...you've still eaten, your body has still gotten nourishment, but did you enjoy it as much as you could have if you'd had something you really like to eat? Probably not.
My .02,
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bad investment
Go for an experience you will recall fondly, not a pro. Your mates are going on because they think it's important to talk about it. When I was that age the reality was that the guys who made the most noise actually had the least to talk about, and virginity isn't a bad thing. Enjoy the "other things" until the right one comes along, spend the money on CDs or an mp3 player or flowers for a young lady... much better than investing in somebody's professional ability to make you come in 3 minutes flat.horny_virgin said:
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You only get one first time.
Forever, you will remember that first time; we all do.
We all remember the first time.
All of us.
Do you really want to have to tell people that your first time was with a hooker - for the rest of your life?
Or will you lie?
Wait.
Wait for someone who cares about you.
There's no shame in being a virgin, of waiting for just the right person. When the sex talk begins, simply hold your head up and know that you're worth waiting for. If they ask you, tell them that. If they tease you, just simle at them and *know* they're wrong.
It's worth waiting for, that just-right first time.
You'll see when you get there.
Honest.
Forever, you will remember that first time; we all do.
We all remember the first time.
All of us.
Do you really want to have to tell people that your first time was with a hooker - for the rest of your life?
Or will you lie?
Wait.
Wait for someone who cares about you.
There's no shame in being a virgin, of waiting for just the right person. When the sex talk begins, simply hold your head up and know that you're worth waiting for. If they ask you, tell them that. If they tease you, just simle at them and *know* they're wrong.
It's worth waiting for, that just-right first time.
You'll see when you get there.
Honest.
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My two cents
Is having sex with a hooker worth the diseases that may come with it? Having sex for the first time whether you are a man or woman should be a big deal, and personally I think with a hooker I would be more worried about my life then whether or not I was having a good time!
I would one either wait for the right woman and make it special, or two if you can not wait then I would try to find a woman who also wants a one night stand. Then go from there.
Good luck
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Is having sex with a hooker worth the diseases that may come with it? Having sex for the first time whether you are a man or woman should be a big deal, and personally I think with a hooker I would be more worried about my life then whether or not I was having a good time!
I would one either wait for the right woman and make it special, or two if you can not wait then I would try to find a woman who also wants a one night stand. Then go from there.
Good luck
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Several say 'no', but the reasons are necessarily yours. Fact: there is a difference between a sexual encounter and a love encounter. Most of those saying 'no' have had the 'pure sex' encounter, and I bet they will agree that it's pretty important to know the difference. So an reasonable argument for going ahead is that the prostitution way probably insures that you will know the difference. (You do realize she won't care a fig about you, right?)
Yes, there may be a 'rush' but you can negotiate. Specify, during the 'deal making' the amt of time you're looking for. Say, one half hour. And do specify what acts you want, so there is agreement there. Else you may run into requests for more money for things you thought were included. (This is an issue with every contractor who you deal with, not a peculiar thing about prostitutes.) Remember a law of commerce, you often lose by buying the cheapest (example, shoes). I suggest going for the 'mid range' in your area. Make sure she *wants* to use a condom, and never goes ahead without: if you can talk her into NOT using one, somehow (it's unlikely), or she doesn't care, then assume this has happened before. If she doesn't care, I'd be alert for problems such as her being a druggie of some kind.
As to her motives, brought up by a few. Well, these may not be truelove obviously. But the motives of those with whom one has a casual encounter are always unknown, and probably not worth fretting about. (You do realize it will likely be a 'casual encounter' don't you? Would you see her more than once, say, during a later dry spell?)
I can't avoid mentioning one thing that may be a factor here. I would guess that most posters on this thread so far are not prostitutes, nor have been with prostitutes, nor have been in close contact with prostitutes. If I'm wrong, I apologize in advance. This lack of direct knowledge holds for most women, I'm afraid. And this is what keep prostitution alive, in part. The 'respectable' woman, in most cases, has no idea about it or why it might appeal to her mate. So be aware that the opinions you see may be purely theoretical, not experience based.
Yes, there may be a 'rush' but you can negotiate. Specify, during the 'deal making' the amt of time you're looking for. Say, one half hour. And do specify what acts you want, so there is agreement there. Else you may run into requests for more money for things you thought were included. (This is an issue with every contractor who you deal with, not a peculiar thing about prostitutes.) Remember a law of commerce, you often lose by buying the cheapest (example, shoes). I suggest going for the 'mid range' in your area. Make sure she *wants* to use a condom, and never goes ahead without: if you can talk her into NOT using one, somehow (it's unlikely), or she doesn't care, then assume this has happened before. If she doesn't care, I'd be alert for problems such as her being a druggie of some kind.
As to her motives, brought up by a few. Well, these may not be truelove obviously. But the motives of those with whom one has a casual encounter are always unknown, and probably not worth fretting about. (You do realize it will likely be a 'casual encounter' don't you? Would you see her more than once, say, during a later dry spell?)
I can't avoid mentioning one thing that may be a factor here. I would guess that most posters on this thread so far are not prostitutes, nor have been with prostitutes, nor have been in close contact with prostitutes. If I'm wrong, I apologize in advance. This lack of direct knowledge holds for most women, I'm afraid. And this is what keep prostitution alive, in part. The 'respectable' woman, in most cases, has no idea about it or why it might appeal to her mate. So be aware that the opinions you see may be purely theoretical, not experience based.
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Wait. My guess it that your image of sex with a hooker far outwieghs the reality of doing it. You just can't ever redo the first time. I also hope that the first time for a guy is not overrated. I wonder if that is the majority view?
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One possible advantage of the hooker option is that you would have your first time with someone experienced. If you negotiate with her as a tutor instead of just a sex partner, it could be worth the time and money.
However, I'm with most of the others in thinking that you should wait and let it happen in its own time with someone you have some feelings for.
However, I'm with most of the others in thinking that you should wait and let it happen in its own time with someone you have some feelings for.
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Not that I'm advocating the hooker route...
LOL.. but... just but...
you could save up some cash and find a really really upscale prostitute (i.e., an escort, not a street hooker) and employ her services for the entire night. These women are very different from the two bit hookers most people think about.
I used to be really into getting massages. In order to find good places to go I looked on the internet and found a really cool bulletin board where men (and a few women) could post massasues (sp?) they had been to. Well.. this board also included a second section that was only for escorts in this area. Every once in a while I would browse those posts. Anyhoo... I'm rambling... but most of these women will meet you at a designated place, you'll put an envelope on the table with the cash in it (pre-arranged price). You will need to schedule an "appointment" with them well in advance (maybe as long as a week ahead of time).
From the gist I got from these posts, things usually start off with talking and then maybe a massage, or a shower together, etc. And in most cases you get to have sex more than once. Plus, oral, and anal are going to be on the table compared to just intercourse. In addition, these women are tested very regularly. And I'm sure if you tell the lady you choose that you are a virgin then you will get extra special treatment. I guessing if you look hard enough you can find a website devoted to escorts in your area or at least in an area close to you. And the chances of the police busting you are very slim, at least compared to going to a street hooker. Most of these type of women even have their own website. I've checked out a few of these types of websites.. and let me tell ya... these are really fine women. You will NOT be disappointed.
You'll probably learn more in that one night than you ever would with a girl your age. And I have to agree with WriterDom, the first time for guys is REALLY overrated. and embarrassing. and ya feel silly afterward. etc. etc.
Anyhoo... just my two cents. Damn.. now that I think about it.. I wish I'd gone that route... lol.. just kidding.
one more thing... you will need to save up some cash... these kinds of services can run you as much as $1500 a night (that's a US dollar), but it might be a little different where you are (you used the word mates, so I assume your either from the UK or AU).
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LOL.. but... just but...
you could save up some cash and find a really really upscale prostitute (i.e., an escort, not a street hooker) and employ her services for the entire night. These women are very different from the two bit hookers most people think about.
I used to be really into getting massages. In order to find good places to go I looked on the internet and found a really cool bulletin board where men (and a few women) could post massasues (sp?) they had been to. Well.. this board also included a second section that was only for escorts in this area. Every once in a while I would browse those posts. Anyhoo... I'm rambling... but most of these women will meet you at a designated place, you'll put an envelope on the table with the cash in it (pre-arranged price). You will need to schedule an "appointment" with them well in advance (maybe as long as a week ahead of time).
From the gist I got from these posts, things usually start off with talking and then maybe a massage, or a shower together, etc. And in most cases you get to have sex more than once. Plus, oral, and anal are going to be on the table compared to just intercourse. In addition, these women are tested very regularly. And I'm sure if you tell the lady you choose that you are a virgin then you will get extra special treatment. I guessing if you look hard enough you can find a website devoted to escorts in your area or at least in an area close to you. And the chances of the police busting you are very slim, at least compared to going to a street hooker. Most of these type of women even have their own website. I've checked out a few of these types of websites.. and let me tell ya... these are really fine women. You will NOT be disappointed.
You'll probably learn more in that one night than you ever would with a girl your age. And I have to agree with WriterDom, the first time for guys is REALLY overrated. and embarrassing. and ya feel silly afterward. etc. etc.
Anyhoo... just my two cents. Damn.. now that I think about it.. I wish I'd gone that route... lol.. just kidding.
one more thing... you will need to save up some cash... these kinds of services can run you as much as $1500 a night (that's a US dollar), but it might be a little different where you are (you used the word mates, so I assume your either from the UK or AU).
- PBW
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I have to agree with the guys on this one. For a woman, losing her virginity is a one time, long remembered sexual experience that she will keep with her forever, or try to suppress by years of therapy. For a guy it's three minutes of rough jerky weird sex where he probably ends up cumming on her before he even gets in her.
I would say pay for a hooker, but the problem is, just like P.B. Walker stated, if you want a good one, you're looking at over a thousand dollar investment. The cheaper hooker you go, the less magical the experience, and the less helpful it will be for you.
Here's the deal, if you just want to lose your virginity, fine, buy a common whore, use a condom, and then dazzle your friends by telling her what a wonderful time you had in the back alley behind the Bigger Jigger.
What I think you want, is a starting point. Someone to open the doors to sex to you, and show exactly what there is to experience. You want the kind of toe curling, ugly face, grunting, sweat covered, dirty magical sex that we all know and love. The problem is you can't get that with a hooker, you can only get that by having a meaningful relationship with a woman where you get to have sex with her over and over and over until you get it right. Sex is about practice, practice, and a lot of patience.
Here's what I suggest, if you feel like losing your viginity is important, pay around five hundred bucks to have a whore take you down. Then, use a couple hundred to buy every sex book and refernce guide you can. We're talking everything from how to get into a woman's mind, as well as her body, to The finer technique's of ora sexl. Go all out, read up on current stories here at lit, or go somewhere else. There are tons of places where they show you techniques, teach you new things, it's the internet. The sex stuff out there is completely endless.
Then, you work on dating. The problem with most guys, especially as young as you are, is that they don't know how to really come onto a woman in a dignified and professional manner. Learn how to do that. Hell, here's a how To forum right here. Ask how to do it.
Well, you might not get a full response, if women ever told us how to get inside their heads like that *snap* then they'd all be in trouble. hee hee.
Anyway, then take your new found knowledge and find someone you can grow intimate, sexually, and emotionally with. Remember that, even though sex is going to be on your mind a lot, it's not the only reason you're dating. Keep that in mind and you'll do fine.
I would say pay for a hooker, but the problem is, just like P.B. Walker stated, if you want a good one, you're looking at over a thousand dollar investment. The cheaper hooker you go, the less magical the experience, and the less helpful it will be for you.
Here's the deal, if you just want to lose your virginity, fine, buy a common whore, use a condom, and then dazzle your friends by telling her what a wonderful time you had in the back alley behind the Bigger Jigger.
What I think you want, is a starting point. Someone to open the doors to sex to you, and show exactly what there is to experience. You want the kind of toe curling, ugly face, grunting, sweat covered, dirty magical sex that we all know and love. The problem is you can't get that with a hooker, you can only get that by having a meaningful relationship with a woman where you get to have sex with her over and over and over until you get it right. Sex is about practice, practice, and a lot of patience.
Here's what I suggest, if you feel like losing your viginity is important, pay around five hundred bucks to have a whore take you down. Then, use a couple hundred to buy every sex book and refernce guide you can. We're talking everything from how to get into a woman's mind, as well as her body, to The finer technique's of ora sexl. Go all out, read up on current stories here at lit, or go somewhere else. There are tons of places where they show you techniques, teach you new things, it's the internet. The sex stuff out there is completely endless.
Then, you work on dating. The problem with most guys, especially as young as you are, is that they don't know how to really come onto a woman in a dignified and professional manner. Learn how to do that. Hell, here's a how To forum right here. Ask how to do it.
Well, you might not get a full response, if women ever told us how to get inside their heads like that *snap* then they'd all be in trouble. hee hee.
Anyway, then take your new found knowledge and find someone you can grow intimate, sexually, and emotionally with. Remember that, even though sex is going to be on your mind a lot, it's not the only reason you're dating. Keep that in mind and you'll do fine.
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$1000.00????? Damn it, I am sitting on a gold mine!! Are you serious? I am changing professions today. I do hate to get out of bed. Hey Poohlive, Bigger Jigger sounds very familiar. Was that you??????? 
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Don't be surprised PowerOfOne... in my area I've seen many websites of women that you can just tell are housewife's who childern have gone off to school. They are in their early 40's and know how to please a man. Sure they aren't exactly looking like a tight light 20 year old, but they keep busy. Kinda interesting if you ask me. If I were able to just jump in the sack with anyone I'd probably try to get into that business... but alas... I have to actually know the person a little bit. LOL
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Yeah, I have to know someone also, PBW. <sigh> I guess I will keep my job. BTW, I do not mind my body being compared to any 20 year old. I may be 35 but the body has not been told that yet. 
I would post some pics here to prove my point but I have them other places along the Literotica Avenue and I have forgotten where...LOL!
I may be 35 but the body has not been told that yet. I would post some pics here to prove my point but I have them other places along the Literotica Avenue and I have forgotten where...LOL!PowerOfOne
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poohlive said:
ROFL! Double or nothing works for me. You cannot cheat by telling me you had a climax when you really faked it, Poohlive...ROFL!!
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horny_virgin said:
You dont realize how important this is. Dont waist it on a hooker. They only care about your money no matter how good they are or it seems. Go find someone you love and make love. It is much more fulfilling. ......
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I am a 22 year old male and I am waiting until MRS. Right. I want my first time to be making love, not sex. I was with a group of friends that were talking about sexual fantasies. We were going around the circle and telling what your sexual fantasy is. I did not want to say anything but they "made" me. Actually one of the girls already knew and said it. My sexual fantasy right now is my wedding night. Each one of us is going to know that we waited for the other. I want the experience to be one that both of us will remember for the rest of our lives. I have had numerous friends that have had sex already and they all say they wish they had waited. Their first time meant nothing for them. I want mine to mean something. I want it to be an almost spirtual experience.
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Well i agree with some of the other lads on this here BB. For women it might be this all remebered all embracing special "1" time, but imho if you arent having much luck with your local girls, try out the hooker avenue. I havent been there yet; - only coz i've been lucky enough to have other willing participants! But i've got plenty of mates who have told me of there experiences of going to the local "knocker" shop and doing the "job". For a guy its a six and a half minute time of bliss. Provided the girl is averagely good looking and knows what she is doing this is always going to be fun!
As far as i'm concerned sex is sex. You pay one way or another. Its just that for most of us - the cost is a little more disguised - in the form of taking her out to dinner or the movies in the hope of getting a bit later!!!
Have fun and enjoy enyouself whatever you decide to do...
- only coz i've been lucky enough to have other willing participants! But i've got plenty of mates who have told me of there experiences of going to the local "knocker" shop and doing the "job". For a guy its a six and a half minute time of bliss. Provided the girl is averagely good looking and knows what she is doing this is always going to be fun!As far as i'm concerned sex is sex. You pay one way or another. Its just that for most of us - the cost is a little more disguised - in the form of taking her out to dinner or the movies in the hope of getting a bit later!!!
Have fun and enjoy enyouself whatever you decide to do...
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There are strings.
I'm actually considering using a hooker, now, myself.
The thing is, I feel that my first (and only) lover became a greater object of attachment than perhaps she deserves. In terms of our relationship, it has meant that I often feel sexually manipulated due to this attachment. (Bear in mind that I said that I feel manipulated. Her motives have nothing to do with it.) I feel, that as a result of my feelings about this "relationship," I have built up a certain resentment towards flirtatious women, in general. I suspect that many women seem to just consider flirtation to be another tool in their toolbox.
Naturally, I wonder if things would have been different if I had been able to have an no-strings, short-term sexual experience as my first. Perhaps I would have been better able to separate the sexual experience from the relationship and saved myself a great deal of grief.
It's a harsh world out there. I had a friend once who used to say that "all women are whores." When I asked him to explain, he basically said that women invariably want something other than sex from a "relationship," and ultimately trade sex for what they want. If that is even partially true, at least a whore is honest about it.
Here's an interesting website from the point of view of a man who evidently patronizes prostitutes:
http://sex.perkel.com/escort/index.htm
I'm actually considering using a hooker, now, myself.
The thing is, I feel that my first (and only) lover became a greater object of attachment than perhaps she deserves. In terms of our relationship, it has meant that I often feel sexually manipulated due to this attachment. (Bear in mind that I said that I feel manipulated. Her motives have nothing to do with it.) I feel, that as a result of my feelings about this "relationship," I have built up a certain resentment towards flirtatious women, in general. I suspect that many women seem to just consider flirtation to be another tool in their toolbox.
Naturally, I wonder if things would have been different if I had been able to have an no-strings, short-term sexual experience as my first. Perhaps I would have been better able to separate the sexual experience from the relationship and saved myself a great deal of grief.
It's a harsh world out there. I had a friend once who used to say that "all women are whores." When I asked him to explain, he basically said that women invariably want something other than sex from a "relationship," and ultimately trade sex for what they want. If that is even partially true, at least a whore is honest about it.
Here's an interesting website from the point of view of a man who evidently patronizes prostitutes:
http://sex.perkel.com/escort/index.htm
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Horny Giraffe,
Those are most excellent points. While the 'best', what is our first choice, is clearly sex and genuine affection, life often offers less. And, imo, it's good to know the difference between 'plain sex' (commercial or casual) and loving sex. Those of the 'saving-myself-for-my-fiance'(e) school are going to lack this ability and perspective.
They will be like pre-teens who have trouble deciding , Is it love, Is it lust, Is it 'a crush', or what, exactly? And, as you say, in some cases, as with preteens, that leaves the person open to manipulation. The person with the 'crush' who doesn't know it, can easily be fooled.
I think it's also true that all relationships involve 'exchange', though I would not say wives, in general, are whores. The point has been made many times that a woman typically keeps a baby and raises it, and has fewer options, here. It is only good sense to look for a 'good provider' and part of that is money. So she is, in many cases, trading sex for the male being committed and hanging around and paying the bills for the kids. One might equally say, 'Husbands are Johns' if their primary interest in the woman is sex, and they merely pay the bills and put up with the kids and with her requests of 'talk to me.'
Those are most excellent points. While the 'best', what is our first choice, is clearly sex and genuine affection, life often offers less. And, imo, it's good to know the difference between 'plain sex' (commercial or casual) and loving sex. Those of the 'saving-myself-for-my-fiance'(e) school are going to lack this ability and perspective.
They will be like pre-teens who have trouble deciding , Is it love, Is it lust, Is it 'a crush', or what, exactly? And, as you say, in some cases, as with preteens, that leaves the person open to manipulation. The person with the 'crush' who doesn't know it, can easily be fooled.
I think it's also true that all relationships involve 'exchange', though I would not say wives, in general, are whores. The point has been made many times that a woman typically keeps a baby and raises it, and has fewer options, here. It is only good sense to look for a 'good provider' and part of that is money. So she is, in many cases, trading sex for the male being committed and hanging around and paying the bills for the kids. One might equally say, 'Husbands are Johns' if their primary interest in the woman is sex, and they merely pay the bills and put up with the kids and with her requests of 'talk to me.'
