looking for the ladies help

[poolplyrndrunk]

is there such a thing as getting your girl to like giveing head..the girl iam dateing will only suck it for like a min or 2 just for 4 play but wont finish..is there any thing i can do?

second neither one of us has done anal she kinda curious but unsure..afriad it will hurt to much.. and doesn't think it belongs..lol... any help the people of lit can give?

 

[Alvaro]

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[SexyChele]

Have you thought of asking her if she dislikes giving head? There could be a number of different reasons for this. She may have an aversion to it, period. Maybe her upbringing lead her to think it was "bad". She might be thinking that this is the same thing you use to pee through. How often do you wash yourself? Do you wash just before you expect her to blow you. (It amazes the number of men who can work all day, getting hot and sweaty and icky, then whip down their pants and say "suck me". Damn, but that is NASTY!) Do you have a strong odor or scent? Do you go to the bathroom, give yourself just a couple of shakes and come back with urine still on the tip. (I've known of a couple of men like this - again, NASTY!)

As far as anal sex goes? Well, you need to work out the communication between you and your girl about giving a blowjob before you can really tackle anal sex. Anal sex takes a lot of communication, very open communication. A couple must be able to tell each other everything when it comes to this. And the onus of what to do really does fall on the man, so you are the one who needs to be educated as to the right way to go about doing this.

It can be very painful if done wrong. So painful that she will never want to do it again. So learn about it first. As much as you can. Work on communication between you. Then begin to explore.

 

[paintergrl]

How does the oral come about? There are some candies, and gel that can be used to give her some insentive to give that to you. The whole clenliness is a big thing...it has to be appealing to her, and if there is any smell, or something, then that can be fixed. Don't push her though, because if you do, you might not get even a min. or two anymore.

Anal, there is a key to it. The starting with small items such as fingers is a great way to get used to it. They say that it takes 10-15 times for a woman to enjoy it...so you have to be understanding about that. When you finally do try it, be sure that you are lubed up, and her "area" is lubed up as well...it would be helpful if she was cleaned up there, because that can be really embarassing for both of you. And go really, slow, working it in inch by inch. When I did it my first time, we couldn't finish because if felt really auqward and the only reason I tried it again, was because he was so comforting, and understanding about it, and now I love it. I hope that helps you.

 

[poolplyrndrunk]

ty ladies

well i kinda took some advice and i got a finger some what in there tonight and it seemed like she loved b/c she had a nice orgasm..i was fingering her in both holes at the same time..so ty for the help

 

[sporty]

Hey there....as far as the anal thing ........ way to go !......It's definitely something to work up to slowly......my guy first penetrated my ass with his well lubed thumb as he fucked me doggie style......he gently persisted in his initial attemps despite the fact that i was a little uncomfortable at the idea........

I now cum with his cock in my ass.....i love it !.

as far as the BJ goes.....maybe she's not very experienced in giving them....and is unsure of what to do as you start to reach orgasm......Cocks can be intimidating to those of us who doesnt have our own !!... ...she may just need practice and reassurance and time ....

good luck...

 

[horneyhydster]

I am one who doesnt particularly like giving blow jobs to my hubby either so I understand. I can do it for a min or two as well but the minute the pre-cum starts to flow the salty taste of it grosses me out. Also like someone else pointed out my hubby has to be clean. About the only time he gets a bj is right after we get out of the hot tub and he has NO idea he is going to get one otherwise the pre-cum starts flowing before I can get down there and it grosses me out. I know it isnt fair cause women emit juices as well but it doesnt seem to gross him out. I feel badly but I just cant stand the taste of pre-cum. I can suck him off forever if he has a condom on though so I have decided it is just the taste. We dont really know what to do about that whole thing so we just get a min or two and I call it quits.
As for the anal play....the first time we tried it I HATED it and swore I wouldnt ever do it again. I decided after watching a porn show with anal sex in it to try it again but I decided to go about it the "right" way. I gave myself a warm water enema to get cleaned out and feel clean for myself. Then we used ALOT of lubrication and we actually used some Anal Ease cream which has a little numbing solution in it just to ease the pain a little bit. Now I prefer anal sex to regular sex most of the time and especially during that time of the month. The key with Anal is to go REALLY REALLY slow. We bought various sizes of butt plugs ranging from fingertip size on up....and I started very small and stretched myself out slowly...now I can do it "on demand" so to speak and it is awesome!!!! Start slow, listen to her and when she says OUCH she means it!!!! Anal ease may really help though..you may want to look into it. I know it really helped me stretch out and be able to take bigger ones until they were at least the size of my husband. Now I am hoping to find someone to do a mmf where hubby and another man use both holes!!!

Heidi

 

[poolplyrndrunk]

thanks for the info...as for your mmf 3 some i have done 2 of them thhey are fun but i never did the 2 hole on her ..its just kinda weird for 2 guys to be that close to each other but iam sure if u where persistent u would find a guy who is willing to do it...shit if u lived here id give it a shot lol...and btw i see her this weekend so we will see what happens she ows me 2 b.js from a pool game we played and i already payed off my looseing bets to her lol...so i will keep use informed