Looking for Linda...

[sultrysam576]

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[Saint_Ann]

I've debated writing this for a while now, but I need clarity. Every single day since I found out my husband of 10 years was cheating on me I have been battling the most severe depression I have had since I was raped as a teenager. I trusted my husband with every fiber of my being. I knew something was wrong, but because my husband kept pulling away from me, I just tried to handle everything internally. My husband will not tell me anything about this situation and all that I know for sure is your name, and that you obviously knew about me because the only thing I saw on his phone before I lost it was you asking where I was and him saying that I was in the other room, but he was right there with you. I feel like as someone who stepped into someone else's marriage, and a grown woman, you could please clue me in as to what your relationship with my husband entailed. He at first told me that it meant nothing and it was only about a month, but after seeing my bank statements I realize that he was buying you gifts before that time period, so I know that it went on much longer than he is admitting to. He did say that he met you on this site, but I'm not even sure that is the truth either. Please, Linda, please talk to me. I will not attack you or anything, I am simply looking for clarity that my husband is unwilling to give at this time. Please help me, I feel so lost and I need to talk to you.

Better schedule a trip to the gyno for a check-up. Just sayin'.

 

[jomar]

Sounds like you owe him a new phone.

 

[Roleplay_Mom]

Why??????

Why do you think this is going to help you??? Any answers you get will still leave you emotionally unbalanced.

If it was an online thing, you'll be hurt that hubby bought gifts for someone so insignificant. If it was a full-on romantic lovefest, you'll be upset about that.

If she's uglier, dumber, less classy, etc., you'll be hurt that hubby lowered his standards and choose her over you. If she is prettier, smarter, more elegant, you'll be hurt that you can't compete with that.

There are NO answers you are going to get that will make you feel better. If you think I'm wrong, then ask yourself honestly, "What could I discover that will make me feel better about this situation"? And if you have trouble coming up with positive possibilities, then it is logical you will only open yourself up to more hurt than you already have.

To me, this is like a battered woman who obsessess on WHY her husband beats her. Does the why really matter? Is he ever going to have a good reason?

Rather than drain your emotions on worrying about all the why's, I humbly suggest you focus on how you react to the affair, whether that is divorce, reconciliation, counseling, or whatever you choose. But running amuck searching for why is a lost cause.

 

[Heathers_Front]

Linda is busy right now, she is having sex with your husband.

 

[BotanyBoy]

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[Heathers_Front]

What was your husband's username here?

 

[jdc38]

Just my humble opinion but you should be talking to your husband vice Linda.

 

[Bas_van_Fraassen]

I've debated writing this for a while now, but I need clarity. Every single day since I found out my husband of 10 years was cheating on me I have been battling the most severe depression I have had since I was raped as a teenager. I trusted my husband with every fiber of my being. I knew something was wrong, but because my husband kept pulling away from me, I just tried to handle everything internally. My husband will not tell me anything about this situation and all that I know for sure is your name, and that you obviously knew about me because the only thing I saw on his phone before I lost it was you asking where I was and him saying that I was in the other room, but he was right there with you. I feel like as someone who stepped into someone else's marriage, and a grown woman, you could please clue me in as to what your relationship with my husband entailed. He at first told me that it meant nothing and it was only about a month, but after seeing my bank statements I realize that he was buying you gifts before that time period, so I know that it went on much longer than he is admitting to. He did say that he met you on this site, but I'm not even sure that is the truth either. Please, Linda, please talk to me. I will not attack you or anything, I am simply looking for clarity that my husband is unwilling to give at this time. Please help me, I feel so lost and I need to talk to you.

Shaddup, Conager.

 

[thør]

Linda from Jersey?

 

[silver gurl]

My name is not Linda.

 

[thør]

Whatever you say, Shelby.

 

[silver gurl]

You catch on!

 

[FL30]

I've debated writing this for a while now, but I need clarity. Every single day since I found out my husband of 10 years was cheating on me I have been battling the most severe depression I have had since I was raped as a teenager. I trusted my husband with every fiber of my being. I knew something was wrong, but because my husband kept pulling away from me, I just tried to handle everything internally. My husband will not tell me anything about this situation and all that I know for sure is your name, and that you obviously knew about me because the only thing I saw on his phone before I lost it was you asking where I was and him saying that I was in the other room, but he was right there with you. I feel like as someone who stepped into someone else's marriage, and a grown woman, you could please clue me in as to what your relationship with my husband entailed. He at first told me that it meant nothing and it was only about a month, but after seeing my bank statements I realize that he was buying you gifts before that time period, so I know that it went on much longer than he is admitting to. He did say that he met you on this site, but I'm not even sure that is the truth either. Please, Linda, please talk to me. I will not attack you or anything, I am simply looking for clarity that my husband is unwilling to give at this time. Please help me, I feel so lost and I need to talk to you.

Your trouble is NOT with Linda, it is WITH YOUR husband.

He is the one that betrayed you, NOT Linda.

If your husband is not opening up to you then you need to seek counseling otherwise all the what's and what if's are going to drive you crazy.

Linda can never answer the questions that you have about your husband ONLY HE can.

Go talk to your husband and if he's not going to talk to you, then again, seek counseling!

They won't have the answers either as they're NOT your husband, but at least they can help you through this rough spot.

 

[Debbie]

I am sorry you are going through this but I really think you need to talk to your hubby and look after yourself and perhaps talk to your friends or a counsellor about your depression.

I hope you can get through this and be ok.

 

[sygn]

That Linda is most probably a skank and a bitch, so you'd probably be better off not having anything to do with her.

Most women here know that 90% of the men on this site are either old-fashioned misogynists/incels, or middle aged to old-iish married cheaters.

There are exceptions, of course, couples who found love or women duped by lying assholes.