Looking for a mentor

[nyandyss]

Uh, hello there. I really don't know what to write since this is my first time even posting an ad or joining a forum like this.

I'm not really looking for a master, or a dominant at the moment; I'm looking more or less for a teacher. I've been lurking anonymously in the stories, and I find BDSM and the whole lifestyle really intriguing. I want to learn more about it, and it is really an erotic thing that probably will develop into a fetish.

But foremost, I want to know my facts about it and what goes on in a typical d/s relationship before getting into any commitments so that there won't be any future problems. Advice would be cool too.

I guess PM works?

-nyandyss

 

[mutato]

Uh, hello there. I really don't know what to write since this is my first time even posting an ad or joining a forum like this.

I'm not really looking for a master, or a dominant at the moment; I'm looking more or less for a teacher. I've been lurking anonymously in the stories, and I find BDSM and the whole lifestyle really intriguing. I want to learn more about it, and it is really an erotic thing that probably will develop into a fetish.

But foremost, I want to know my facts about it and what goes on in a typical d/s relationship before getting into any commitments so that there won't be any future problems. Advice would be cool too.

I guess PM works?

-nyandyss

In my own experience there is no such thing as a "typical" D/s relationship; it is as infinitely varied as "vanilla" relationships. My own relationship with my pet resembles a 1950's style household. She is submissive but not a slave. I would also suggest joining FetLife as there are plenty of resources and opportunities to learn all you wish about the BDSM and D/s lifestyles. Feel free to PM me and I'll do my best to answer any questions. There are several others here who have far more experience than I.

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

I'm open to answering what questions that I can. I would suggest checking out the Library section and lurking in the BDSM rooms on here. As long as you don't act like a jerk or know-it-all people are pretty darn welcoming. Everyone's got to learn sometime, right? Biggest suggestion at the moment? Don't make assumptions or generalizations. The lifestyle is like anything else - what you make of it. Hope that makes sense.