Long Distance in BDSM

[LyricalMiss]

Hello all,
I looked through some of the threads and online on different sites but nothing really stuck out to me. I am in a long distance relationship where I am the dominant, but I want to hear any advice I can. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to provide play and punishments that a sub can accomplish on their own. I've thought of most of the obvious ones like writing. I guess I just don't have that much creativity but I just feel very limited by the distance. This isn't a relationship I'm willing to stop exploring though. I know there are quite a few people out there in a long distance relationship so I was just hoping to hear any advice on how to keep things sexy.

Thank you,
Lyric

 

[Nezhul]

well, each sub is different, everyone have diffeerent needs and limits. It's really hard to make suggestions based on what you have provided. At least describe the relationship a little bit - how often do you communicate? Is it more like a session plays or daily routines he/she has to accomplish? What about pain? What control do you have over them?
stuff like that. Otherwise all the suggestions will be general and uninventive.

 

[Emerson40]

Hello all,
I looked through some of the threads and online on different sites but nothing really stuck out to me. I am in a long distance relationship where I am the dominant, but I want to hear any advice I can. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to provide play and punishments that a sub can accomplish on their own. I've thought of most of the obvious ones like writing. I guess I just don't have that much creativity but I just feel very limited by the distance. This isn't a relationship I'm willing to stop exploring though. I know there are quite a few people out there in a long distance relationship so I was just hoping to hear any advice on how to keep things sexy.

Thank you,
Lyric

You may want to have a wee wander through the BDSM Talk Forum, where you may find some tips and bits on keeping things sexy.

 

[midwestyankee]

You may want to have a wee wander through the BDSM Talk Forum, where you may find some tips and bits on keeping things sexy.

In fact, the Distance Domination thread had over 7,500 posts when it was popular.

Idea: consider having your errant submissive take a highly embarrassing photo for your private consumption. Unless she doesn't ever get embarrassed, in which case you'll have to consider other possibilities. You could make her spank herself and record the effort with her phone, again for your private consumption later.

 

[Hard_Rom]

I would think that Skype would be good. Or some sort of web camming. You can see and almost interact with your subbie. Can you have a nanny type cam going all day/night/session?

writing, pictures, public pics sent to you, pics posted to a sight for public and your eyes, one act plays done for you over Skype, send them your foot wear thru mail they can return properly showing signs of worship