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[throathummer]

Can anyone relate to this? I'm involved in a relationship with a woman who is the perfect soulmate. I really love her, but the sex between us is mediocre to nonexistent. I feel that I would like to explore the "other" side of my sexuality. I know that she would not be very accepting of this. I want to keep this relationship and still explore my other side, even if only online or in fantasy. I am otherwise very honest with her. Am I kidding myself in thinking that I can keep this relationship and explore too?

 

[Guest]

just a thought!!

Well if she is ur "Soul mate" then things should b perfect in every area of ur realtionship... Shouldn't it?! Seems to me if u were that in love with sum1 u wouldnt b looking 4 others to help u explore!! I mean i might be wrong.. this is just a thought on how i feel... I am a very sexual person and wouldn't get into a realtionship were i wasn't able to explore all my options and b able to talk to the other about any sexual Fantasie i might or he or she might b having!! With my partner he gains 2 cause im also Bi and he has to b open to that!!! Melissa!!

 

[TheOlderGuy]

IMHO

i maintain that if you are to have a successful relationship, the trust must be maintained, and for the trust to be intact, you must both be honest with each other, AND accept total honesty from the other. it isn't easy to do, and most loves fail because of that. i am fortunate to have a partner who is both honest and accepting. we understand each other's histories and fantasies, and we are able to allow the other to breathe in whatever ways necessary. we are truly faithful to each other, tho we may have sex with someone else, becasue we don't lie about it, and we don't punsih each other for it.

that's jus how i've always felt about it. most of my life i thought i was whistling in the wind, but now we have a working model.