Lonely and depressed

[siddhartha757]

hi there, I dont know why im posting this. Im sure ill regret this in the morning, but I feel so damn lonely right now. I havent been close to anyone in over 2 years and I got to thinking aboiut things and now I cant sleep and I feel like im on verge of cracking. I have this hollow pain in my stomach and I just want to hang my head and cry. Like I said I dont know why im posting this, I hoped it would be cathartic but I think it just makes me feel pathetic on top of lonely. I realize most people will skip right overt this to look for pics to jack off to, but if anyone empathizes i would love to talk. Hell i dont even know why im posting this in a forum for sex.

 

[ShyNymph]

It's okay, I'm not feeling particularly great myself right now. And there's no reason to think this is a bad place to post because it's a forum about sex, that just means it attracts lots of people because people like sex, but they are normal as well. Although this may actually get more attention in the personals forum.

Anyway, here's a funny story for you to maybe make you feel better. I just got off of work tonight about an hour ago, so I got out pretty late, and I had to walk to my car which is pretty far away in a huge parking lot. So this guy is yelling at me out the window of an SUV saying "hey hun, excuse me," to which I almost stop to see if he needs help then thinks, wait, walking up to a strange SUV in a parking lot in the middle of the night by myself, don't think so, so I keep going. Eventually I hear the car drive on past me behind me and the lovely driver calls out "hoe" after me. I thought it was semi funny because I had just been a "hun" a minute ago.

People make me sad. And it's okay to cry, I've been doing it non-stop for a few days.

~ShyNymph

 

[iluvumommy]

Buck up

Nymph: that was very sweet of you. Very impressive.

Sid: Buck up kid. Get out of the house, get some sunshine. Sun actually DOES make you feel better. proven fact. So does human contact, so Nymph? you need to pay this kid a visit before he blows his god dammed brains out. Give up the nappy dugout, the life you save just might be SIDS!

It's okay, I'm not feeling particularly great myself right now. And there's no reason to think this is a bad place to post because it's a forum about sex, that just means it attracts lots of people because people like sex, but they are normal as well. Although this may actually get more attention in the personals forum.

Anyway, here's a funny story for you to maybe make you feel better. I just got off of work tonight about an hour ago, so I got out pretty late, and I had to walk to my car which is pretty far away in a huge parking lot. So this guy is yelling at me out the window of an SUV saying "hey hun, excuse me," to which I almost stop to see if he needs help then thinks, wait, walking up to a strange SUV in a parking lot in the middle of the night by myself, don't think so, so I keep going. Eventually I hear the car drive on past me behind me and the lovely driver calls out "hoe" after me. I thought it was semi funny because I had just been a "hun" a minute ago.

People make me sad. And it's okay to cry, I've been doing it non-stop for a few days.

~ShyNymph

 

[siddhartha757]

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luvmommy, I really appreciate the input, its nice to see people care. However I couldnt help but not you vernacular and grammar seemed abit odd. That post sounded like a 1930's radio announcer. I expected you to sell me war bonds and tell me how were kicking the krauts back to Germany. I do appreciate it though, you gave me back my sense of humor.

 

[angelkitty7888]

i get lonely myself even though i have my SO.... she has a boyfriend along with me and he is always at her house when i drop her off and stuff so it's almost like he's trying to stress her into just having one of us....

acctually before my SO i was the same way... i was always alone and all my friends had SOs and crushes and i didn't so i felt unnatural like i didn't belong at all i almost broke down a few times but thankfully (or should i say unfortunately?) i bury better than i should so i just locked it down.... my so has delt with me when my locks break she says i shouldn't do that because it could have been too strong for me and she could not be there the next time it happens...

Basically what i'm trying (badly) to say is cheer up you will find someone for you don't let your lonliness get the better of you and don't bury it like i did... if you need to cry or scream, do it... you'll feel better...

and like Nymph said this forum, while for sex, is still full of normal people that are pretty nice i'm willing to post if i need support or a shoulder for my woes and i'm willing to offer my own shoulder if needed... that's how i see this place

 

[shy slave]

Loneliness is a hard thing to cope with.

Its a common saying but you can be lonely in a crowded room.

The idea of getting out in the sunshine is a great idea, but sometimes it is hard to find the motivation.

When I am low I sit and eat, don't dress and generally feel terrible.
Finally I will go and put some old clothes on and clean in the house, or one room or one item in the room. That seems to help as it allows my head to focus on one thing and nothing else.

I found it got easier, but finding an activity to lose myself in helped the process.

I hope your feeling better today

 

[Lester_Hammond]

Well loneliness can be a real killer! Did you know that people who live on their own can actually die sooner than people who live with others? It's true! You need other people - and not just people on the Internet either.

I find the Internet a lonely place. Even when I visit these forums and the occasional chat room. I have never actually met anyone in person who I have originally met online. Considering I have used the Internet since 1995 on a regular basis, that is a pretty depressing outcome. My point is that the Internet is no substitute for real life.

You can make a friend online but can you really connect with that person like you could in real life? That person could be called Tony Johnson online but could be called something entirely different in real life. Plus their whole personality could be based on fiction. So Tony - my example - could come across as outgoing and confident online but in reality he could be very shy and nothing like the person you think he is.

Get out there and meet people for real. Join a club. This is the best way to pull yourself out of a rut. You can still enjoy the Internet but it should be a small part of your life and not all of it. Everything should be done in moderation.

Most of all - have fun!

 

[bluebell]

Into the night

Lester, what a perfect way to sum it all up. Not to take any credit away from all the wonderful people on Lit, but I just mean that I understand what you're saying.
I actually became friends with a guy I chatted with on AOL and we either e-mailed or talked regularly for five or so months before we decided that he wanted to come visit me (this was not even romantic in any way).
We didn't get along at all in person. In fact, I think I was having such an awful time that my displeasure voided out almost all my guilt about his having come on a six hour bus ride to see me and have an icky time
That's very unlike me.

So it just seems like a kind of mental thing- keeping your head in both the internet and the real world...balanced.

But one incredibly important thing Lit people have taught me is that you honestly do have to put yourself out there. Even if it's only slightly more than usual, or the bare bones of just not doubting yourself. The sheer number of people in the world who don't even think to live by those tenets are the poorer for it, which is sad. I'm so thankful for the internet in this instance, because it was like a wake-up call from all the awesome people in the world who, duh, do not just live next door to me. It's a supportive gathering place, and it's already made me feel a trillion times better in my everyday life (thanks, by the way).

Not that Sid needs my best Dr. Phil impression...
Sorry
I wish you the will to fight, though. Kick its ass

 

[siddhartha757]

i really want to thank all the people who replied to this thread. Im feeling much better now and am starting to get back to my old self.

 

[poppy1963]

i really want to thank all the people who replied to this thread. Im feeling much better now and am starting to get back to my old self.

Hey sid...c'mere. Come sit with the crazy, stupid Poppy for a minute and let me hug ya.

I might be nuts...but I'm a great hugger!

 

[angelkitty7888]

i really want to thank all the people who replied to this thread. Im feeling much better now and am starting to get back to my old self.

i'm very glad for you hun time and effort can put a dent in almost any bad mood or situation (i don't think that came out quite right....)

 

[poppy1963]

We hugged in poet's ways...that's so cool, sid!

You got atmas to post again I think! I miss him when he's gone. But he's got some good things going in his life...which require his attention more!

If we keep posting...they will come.

 

[TomsPen]

i really want to thank all the people who replied to this thread. Im feeling much better now and am starting to get back to my old self.

I'm glad your feeling better sid, and I'm sorry I didn't get to comfort you in your time of need.. but if it will be any consolation I feel eternal sympathy for your current situation as I've often isolated myself from everyone around me and have completely prevented myself from any kind of emotion. It's a feeling of desperate lonliness and though our situation may seem bleek we need to continue to look forward.