Loneliness

[PacificBlue]

How do you deal with loneliness? Where do you meet new people?


and before I see flaming posts...I am not trying to start a depressive thread. I'm genuinely interested in how you pull yourself up by your bunny slippers and get out there and try again...

 

[Demian]

Everywhere...

[whispers] I see Dead People...

And they're pretty damn friendly and Well mannered...

 

[Demian]

I get out and around...

It's the only way to beat loneliness. I tend to retreat into my music, beer, and...well, here...But I also get out and around...

Lonliness is all through the best of Art...ever noticed?

I've learned to live with Loneliness...

You're looking for something you may never find...

Are you Lonely in a room full of people?

 

[Demian]

You?

Let me Know...

Wut kind of Music are listening to right now?

 

[Guest]

 

[Morden]

<sighs>

"Are people still flaming..."

<sighs>

"Ah well I personally get out and about and just hang with good friends. I find they like to drag you out when your bored."

 

[registered "^^"]

i agree

with mistress, volunteer. many great ways to help out others and your community, and meet new people at the same time. one of my favorites is to just go to the hospital and rock the littles ones in I.C.U., hmm haven't been there lately, i better go again. if you have love to give, no better place to give it.

 

[Guest]

and before I see flaming posts...

guess this sounds just a "tad" defensive. I've been reading through old posts and I didn't want to come across as someone who was just looking for attention or sympathy and thus be flamed.

That said:

I happen to be single and most of my friends are married and in the having babies phase. Soooo...I'm attempting to make new friends. The kind that breath on you and can physically hug you, not just friends who can type back at you, although I like those too. I just don't wanna get stuck behind the monitor, know what I mean?

Things I have tried so far...volunteering, taking classes at the community college, and sewing classes. (Side note: My EX-boyfriend used to tell me to NEVER tell anybody that I liked to sew he said it made me sound "granmotherishly" ...ah well, his opinion.) Point being, although I manage to develop acquaintance like friendships with these people, they never seem to go any farther. When the class ends, that's usually the last I ever see or hear from that person. What could I do differently? Or is it just perseverance that's the key to finding people you truly connect with?

I've tried calling people to initiate things..."hey wanna go bowling?" usually they go but then I never hear anything more. Unless I continually initiate the phone doesn't ring, which makes me think that there just being nice. I've been told that maybe I try to hard, so I attend functions, socialize then try to chill and sit back and wait...nothing, nada, zilch. (I do bathe daily, honest I do )

Thoughts and comments appreciated...

 

[PacificBlue]

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[His Whimsicality]

How do you deal with loneliness? Where do you meet new people?

I try not to be, which brings us directly to your next question: the internet. Apart from that, I´ve recently taken to accosting women that I find interesting - nothing to lose, everything to win. Doesn´t really matter how you do it, the important part is that you do it.

 

[pabloback]

i just split up with my partner about 10 hours ago , i am feeling all those negative thoughts right at this moment
london can be a very lonely city

 

[PacificBlue]

i just split up with my partner about 10 hours ago , i am feeling all those negative thoughts right at this moment
london can be a very lonely city

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[pabloback]

thanks pacificblue
its nice to know people are on your side sometimes

 

[MissTaken]

Loneliness....

Today is a fine example.....

I battle deep loneliness by engaging in repartee on the internet

and by phoning my voice mail just so I can hear a kind human voice say

"You have NO new messages!"

*sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*

 

[PacificBlue]

{{{{{{{{{{{BIG WARM COMFORTING HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[nasty]

Well,

I read, ALOT!!!! I also listen to music. AND, if I'm not doing that, I watch TV, or on the net. People in my building aren't the greatest with their social skills, so when I go out it's with my Mom or Dad. I usually go to a movie on Friday or Saturday. Afterwards, I may go to the bar and have a drink or 2

 

[willfulbrat]

Re: Re: Loneliness

I've tried calling people to initiate things..."hey wanna go bowling?" usually they go but then I never hear anything more. Unless I continually initiate the phone doesn't ring, which makes me think that there just being nice

I think that if people will do things with you if you initiate, that's a good sign. Don't get too hung up on who does the initiating. If they'll go off with you, they like you.

 

[MissTaken]

awww sheesh

Thanks Pacific!


*smile*

 

[Nicole]

How do you deal with loneliness? Where do you meet new people?


and before I see flaming posts...I am not trying to start a depressive thread. I'm genuinely interested in how you pull yourself up by your bunny slippers and get out there and try again...

For me personally, I turn the computer off and go do something with my son.

OR, I call my friend in the States and have a good cry to her, and no matter what she makes me laugh ... God bless Angelique eh?

I was once so depressed that I didn't know what to do, and when I finally walked away from the computer for awhile, I felt better, I found that this place (as good as it is) was contributing to my problem, so I walked, and now I feel that I don't need to come here as often, and when I do I find that not that much has changed.

Just my opinion, but if you know someone with kids, see if you can maybe get together with them and their kids go have a picnic or something, get some fresh air and laugh a lot ... it's what helped me.

Good Luck.

 

[pabloback]

lonliness

if only i were 5000 miles closer i would ask you to go bowling

 

[PacificBlue]

aaawwwww thank you Don't stand behind me though...I've been known to release the ball in the wrong direction. LOL

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks Nicole

For me, my bouts with loneliness occur when my children are with their father, which doesn't happen very often.

Actually, whether it is loneliness, stress or frustration, I often turn to my children. Getting involved with them and having a good laugh or a funny conversation can relieve all sorts of negatives!

They are three and five, so there is often something amusing popping out of their mouths!

And, they are home again. So, all is well with us.

 

[Nicole]

MissTaken, I fully know what you mean, I took my son (5 and a half) and my niece (4 and a half) to the playground today, and they took my mind of all the bad in my life right now. The things they said and the things they did while playing just made me laugh so loud.

Pacific Blue, you need to chat to some kids, they'll make you laugh. The things they come out with and the innocence in which they are said just make you laugh beyond all the pain you feel.