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[Lord Pmann]

the kind of rude where you're checking your cell phone at lunch..
or the kind of rude where you're letting the sales clerk know that you're a snob?

and to whom are you apologizing? you don't need to apologize to me if you were rude to the waiter. apologize to the waiter and I'll be impressed.

Would you be more impressed if we weren't rude to the waiter in the first place? Or do I need to slap them silly for assuming I would want Béarnaise sauce instead of Hollandaise on my filet? You know, so you can see how classy I am first, then see that I have a heart.

I'm always thinking ahead.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Using the proposed hierarchy, not being rude at all would be the most impressive.

truly, there isn't enough difference between béarnaise and hollandaise to raise such a fuss. let the chef feel a little artsy for heavens sake... like a tarragon chiffonade would kill you..

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I like to give a look and the barely audible "mmm-hmmm." Or if I'm annoyed as hell, I've been know to say "just can't wait, huh?!" This of course followed up with a ruthless smile that screams I'd love to punch your face in.

**shrugs, I'd never really punch someone. Trip 'em, yes. Never punch.**

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Luckily, I've pulled back way more punches than I ever had to throw. I've gotten mad enough to act on it twice. I was young. Both times the other person ended up needing medical care. Knowing what you are capable of is a very powerful incentive to maintain your composure. Self-control is a blessing, a gift. I wish more people understood that the only thing stopping us from self-destruction as a species is our ability to refrain from doing everything we are capable of.


Eta: the above referenced rough housing was not related to any waiter/waitress incidents..

 

[ChainedUp]

It's the rude to society type of thing "i apologizing for being on my phone on the hotel shuttle, I never do that" or "I'm sorry I'm late, I hate it when other people are late"

 

[GiggLeGasm]

It's the rude to society type of thing "i apologizing for being on my phone on the hotel shuttle, I never do that" or "I'm sorry I'm late, I hate it when other people are late"

hmm.. I do not see any advantage in pretending to apologize for an action that was intentional or in suggesting that I should forgive you for something that you might not treat as graciously if the tables were turned.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Being late is a pet peeve of mine. Fuck. I've made several people cry over that. There is no excuse for chronic lateness. Being late here and there is understood. Being late because you suck, nope.

Using the proposed hierarchy, not being rude at all would be the most impressive.

truly, there isn't enough difference between béarnaise and hollandaise to raise such a fuss. let the chef feel a little artsy for heavens sake... like a tarragon chiffonade would kill you..

I think it's rude when someone says Béarnaise sauce isn't different enough to warrant a slap.

Next you're going to be telling me that a 25 day aged filet is the same as a 28 day.

 

[Little_Sister]

It's the rude to society type of thing "i apologizing for being on my phone on the hotel shuttle, I never do that" or "I'm sorry I'm late, I hate it when other people are late"

*shurgs* It seems polite to me, apologizing for things that are rude.

Sometimes you can't help checking your phone (waiting on an important message) or you are late, so you should apologize.

I don't really get this question.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

*shurgs* It seems polite to me, apologizing for things that are rude.

Sometimes you can't help checking your phone (waiting on an important message) or you are late, so you should apologize.

I don't really get this question.

*wipes brow*

Phew.. I'm glad I wasn't the only one..

 

[ChainedUp]

*wipes brow*

Phew.. I'm glad I wasn't the only one..

It's not about the apology but the disclaimer that comes along with it.

 

[Little_Sister]

It's not about the apology but the disclaimer that comes along with it.

So you take issue with excuses?

I feel apologies are more meaningful if you give a reason like "I am so sorry I am late. The little man was up puking all night." Does it excuse my actions? No, but it lets them know it was not because of my lack of respect for them but there was some unforeseen circumstance.

 

[Endless_Night]

When someone is being rude in public is there any added advantage of saying "I normally never do this" as part of the apology? Will you give them a little wider birth or do you just see it as false words that are said to make the offender feel better about themselves?

Whenever someones says, "I normally never do this," the words hit my brain and are translated into, "I really always do this."

How it affects my view of them varies. Like Little_Sister I appreciate a more detailed apology, but only if it seems...real. Being offered an apology that's obviously just a toss off, a quick out to excuse some behavior, that kind of thing just leaves me cold. If the latter happens too often I might easily start to give them a wider berth.

 

[Endless_Night]

Wow! I haven't heard that v in forever.

Memories....

At one point during our early years, my sister and I nicknamed the whole "bless their heart" routine as "the kiss of death". It started slow but tended to escalate. Once an individual reached somewhere between 15 to 20 BTHs from the same person things were likely to come to a head. When the determiner changed: "bless their heart" to "bless your heart" things heated up fast!

Those words, involving the right participants, could send us and any other children in a five mile radius diving for cover. Ten miles, if said in a public place. Yikes.

I think those qualifiers are pretty useless.

Here in the south, a common saying is "bless their heart". It's usually said by bitchy southern women in an attempt to make themselves sound less bitchy. It usually goes something like, "Did you see that denim jean jacket she wore? It made her look like the skank out of an 80s teen romance, bless her heart." It is as if the "bless her heart" tag line gives someone carte blanche.

 

[Suz_anne]

I don't like hollandaise. Or Mondays.

 

[ChainedUp]

What about rainy days?

 

[Suz_anne]

What about rainy days?

I like those. I'm complex.

 

[ChainedUp]

Apparently you are.......nothing wrong with that, keeps boredom at bay

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't like hollandaise.

Classless.

 

[ChainedUp]

So Saturday's have been kind of slow around here. Yeah, yeah, I get it, weekends are busy and you've got better things to do than hang out around here. But I also know tha everyone here has checked Lit when they really shouldn't have. Out for dinner, while at work, sitting at a stop light.....I see you all out there peeking at your phones. Lol

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

 

[DarkSimian]

So Saturday's have been kind of slow around here. Yeah, yeah, I get it, weekends are busy and you've got better things to do than hang out around here. But I also know tha everyone here has checked Lit when they really shouldn't have. Out for dinner, while at work, sitting at a stop light.....I see you all out there peeking at your phones. Lol

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

I know in my case, it is growing. I've been away for several years, and although I would occassionally peek in, I never stay to post. Now, if I could, I would be here 24/7 because there is always something going on, and I have made some new friends that I only can chat with on here. If only there was a way to have Lit beamed directly into my brain.....

 

[DayMaker]

Lit is all about the people here - they make or break the experience.

However, my life is what determines how often I pop into Lit. For me, it ranks as a hobby. The time I typically spend on Lit is what I would have spent reading, doing a puzzle, etc. I would much rather spend time on Lit than browsing social media. I also may check into Lit, while out and about or at work...when I need a smile. I always check over my shoulder first though, to make sure no one is peeking at my phone.

 

[Trekka]

So Saturday's have been kind of slow around here. Yeah, yeah, I get it, weekends are busy and you've got better things to do than hang out around here. But I also know tha everyone here has checked Lit when they really shouldn't have. Out for dinner, while at work, sitting at a stop light.....I see you all out there peeking at your phones. Lol

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

Where would I rank the importance of a porn bulletin board? Hmmmmm

But I do look slant-ways at folks in line at the grocery wondering if they're up to naughtiness as they check their phones. Wondering if that guy in the madras shorts and pink loafers buying aged filet and Châteauneuf-du-Pape is Pmann...

I'm guilty of checking lit in all manner of inappropriate places. It's like a tic. Like how some people compulsively check their Facebook. Except, I'm checking racy PMs. Similar, right?

There is nothing that could get me to come here more or less often than I already do. I've been frequenting Lit since ~ '97 reading stories so I think I'm staying But sometimes I'm social, sometimes I'm not. Sometimes I lurk deep in my cave, sometimes Im blabbing all over town, embarrassing myself. For me, the amount of time I spend here is directly proportional to my mental health. Less sane? Cave. Feeling decent? Commence tailing my favorite peeps around the boards.

*scampers off to assess tailing options on this slow Saturday...

 

[Little_Sister]

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

Importance, low.

I have been know to take an extended break or two. If things are crazy IRL, the first thing to go is Lit. Things need to be relatively calm with the home life, and I lit for something fun to do, some me time so to speak. There is nothing anyone here could do to make me stay or go. It just is what it is. Lit is fun. Chatting, flirting, dirty PMs are fun and that is what brings be here. I only lit from my tablet, or computer. Never from my phone, and never out and about. I only lit in the privacy of my own home.

 

[Suz_anne]

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

At the moment, it isn't growing or waning... it has been pretty consistent. I've been busier at work, so I don't check in much from there. I have had gaps of time where I haven't checked Lit for weeks/months, but it has never been caused by anyone here. I don't think it would be healthy for me to be here more. And I hope I never get involved in a situation here that makes me leave.

*scampers off to assess tailing options on this slow Saturday...

Yay, scamper! Nice to see you.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

Lit is all about the people here - they make or break the experience.

However, my life is what determines how often I pop into Lit. For me, it ranks as a hobby. The time I typically spend on Lit is what I would have spent reading, doing a puzzle, etc. I would much rather spend time on Lit than browsing social media. I also may check into Lit, while out and about or at work...when I need a smile. I always check over my shoulder first though, to make sure no one is peeking at my phone.

I like this. I enjoy interacting with others far more than watching tv or reading.

It ebbs and flows. Sometimes I am spending a lot of time here and sometimes I don't. It just depends on what's happening in real life.