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[ChainedUp]

Denial never made sense to me. Edging for a while, I get. Riding that ragged edge of desire can be quite the sensation. But not "allowing" your partner to go over the edge doesn't compute for me. Sure, it's a control thing but isn't there greater control fulfillment in bringing a person to orgasm as opposed to denying them one?

 

[rubydlite]

Safe words are good...you can always pretend you don't have one and see how far your partner will go until you use it. I'd rather have one and not use it then not have one and be hurt.

Edging and denial....*Ummm. ..daydreaming*
Seriously though...can't you imagine being teased in the morning before work...then maybe a quick visit at noon...but not quite getting the release you want...pleasantly distracted all day...mad with desire...?!?!
Chained...come on

Clearly I'm okay with it!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

meh...
If you want to tease me for a little while...great..have at it.

If playing with me involves not letting me cum for days on end? I'd have to chalk that up to a hard limit.


An extended tease can be exquisitely tortuous, but outright denial is for extremists, imo. I'm not saying it doesn't work for them, but I think it involves a little sadomasochism which definitely requires a unique level of communication between partners.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Denial never made sense to me. Edging for a while, I get. Riding that ragged edge of desire can be quite the sensation. But not "allowing" your partner to go over the edge doesn't compute for me. Sure, it's a control thing but isn't there greater control fulfillment in bringing a person to orgasm as opposed to denying them one?

Hmmmm ... isn't the whole point of edging is to heighten your partner's pleasure? Seems counterintuitive to me to deny them altogether. Hey, to each their own. *shrug* There's enough fetishes out there that I understand the appeal and some that I can't fathom.

 

[MissBlondie]

just 1

 

[Mayberrygirl]

Quite simply...yes. Fun and games...fetishes so to speak and behold. They have their place. But at the end of the day or session...such a crass word. Pleasure is the point. For yourself and your partner. Be it emotional or physical or when it all cums together and both are fulfilled.. Well....

 

[Lord Pmann]

Edging and denial....*Ummm. ..daydreaming*
Seriously though...can't you imagine being teased in the morning before work...then maybe a quick visit at noon...but not quite getting the release you want...pleasantly distracted all day...mad with desire...?!?!
Chained...come on

This sounds like my hell. Holy shit. It would be like having Meatloaf's "I Would Do Anything For Love" played on repeat over and over.

 

[Suz_anne]

Safe words. The great security blanket of sex. Used to let one partner know when the fun & games have gone far enough. How many actually use them?

We use "black hawk down". But it is in jest and a reference to the movie "The Campaign". It is usually used to jokingly indicate discomfort like a muscle cramp or you're on my hair. I've not had to use one seriously - maybe I'm not doing it right.

Denial never made sense to me. Edging for a while, I get. Riding that ragged edge of desire can be quite the sensation. But not "allowing" your partner to go over the edge doesn't compute for me. Sure, it's a control thing but isn't there greater control fulfillment in bringing a person to orgasm as opposed to denying them one?

I like edging for awhile. It is nice to draw it out and feel yourself on the precipice and enjoy that feeling without rushing to the finish line. And it does usually lead to a very intense orgasm that then takes place with the slightest stimulation.

But flat out orgasm denial pisses me off and I think has the opposite effect of what is intended. I'm not a very good submissive.

 

[ChainedUp]

It's the Sunday of a holiday weekend. Go ahead, take the day for yourself, do what you want, do what you need to. Use this space as you need. Share that frustrating family story, the dish that was a disaster this week, make us laugh, make us cry.

 

[ChainedUp]

Is the 12 hr rule in effect?

 

[Suz_anne]

I got nothin'.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I'm not familiar with the 12 hour rule...

Now, the'12 inch' rule? That I'm more schooled in..

 

[Endless_Night]

I got nothin'.

I actually have a couple, but...oddly, every time I try to put them to paper the retelling seems likely to be offensive.

 

[ChainedUp]

I got nothin'.

Runs and records, this may be a first

 

[ChainedUp]

There is an exquisite torture in orgasm denial.... I am, under the right circumstances, a great fan.

As you seem to be the only one who has responded in the affirmative for orgasm denial, care to elaborate for those of us who don't share that experience?

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy cyber Monday everyone. I guess that means that in these parts there'll be a whole lot of online fucking going on, not that it makes today any different than any other day.

If I could post another poll I would ask whether there's a preference for spontaneous, both parties find they are available, play versus set aside play dates? While it's nice to make a date, I find that online those seem to be pretty darn tough to reliably meet. Maybe someone is late, or life springs up. Is that just me?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Raises hand, I'm late more often than not.
Not intentionally, but I'm told I'm deserving of something like this.
Now, tell me why I'd even ponder the silly idea of being on time?!

http://41.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m18xcvw9gQ1rsnx73o1_500.jpg

 

[Endless_Night]

< If I could post another poll I would ask whether there's a preference for spontaneous, both parties find they are available, play versus set aside play dates? While it's nice to make a date, I find that online those seem to be pretty darn tough to reliably meet. Maybe someone is late, or life springs up. Is that just me? >

It’s just you.

I’m tempted to say only play dates. There’s the flirty messages, the little thrill of anticipation, the slow build of heat. All add to the erotic tease, the rising excitement. My play interests are also rather specific, and require a certain emotional environment. Without that little extra anticipatory something…meh.

I have a lot of control over my time, which may color my attitude. Flexibility, too. Bumping things a half hour, or finding a new window, is usually an easy accommodation.

Now once a relationship is well established, grabbing an unexpected window can, on occasion, add to the thrill.

 

[JoyDyan]

Happy cyber Monday everyone. I guess that means that in these parts there'll be a whole lot of online fucking going on, not that it makes today any different than any other day.

If I could post another poll I would ask whether there's a preference for spontaneous, both parties find they are available, play versus set aside play dates? While it's nice to make a date, I find that online those seem to be pretty darn tough to reliably meet. Maybe someone is late, or life springs up. Is that just me?

All of mine were spontaneous, though I had an online 'relationship' in which the time he would contact me was pretty consistent from day to day.

I think it's just easier for people to blow off commitments to play dates online - a message rather than face to face or just not show. Anonymity and all of that. Plus, real life creeps in.

 

[ChainedUp]

As usual, I'm a day late and a dollar short.

Well pony up and enlighten us. And no draw string pants shit, save it for that other thread

 

[ChainedUp]

Mmm nah, the world's moved on Chained. Having said that, I'm not the one who keeps bringing up the jeans.

Accepts your graceful bow out and notes for the record the jean debacle is not of your doing.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Did someone mention rainshine's hideous pants????

 

[ChainedUp]

Super heros and super powers seem to the the rage. We all want to be something more than we are, super hero seems as good as anything. So what super power would you like to have? Just one. Tell us why you chose it and how you would use it in your daily life. For me the lure of Batman's tool belt is strong. So many gadgets, so many cool things. But also traveling faster than a speeding bullet would have some pretty cool upsides. Would make airplanes pretty unnecessary. 1500mph could become a very useful

 

[numeniusa]

My superpower would be to 'come home instantly'. By which I mean, I love the journey to somewhere, whether new or familiar, for a holiday or adventure of some kind, or even an evening out a drive away. But often coming back is tedious - a suitcase full of dirty washing, delays, that last leg on the train you have to wait forty minutes for...

So I'd like to still enjoy the journey there, with all its anticipation, but be able to teleport home in an instant once the fun is done.

 

[rubydlite]

Invisibility for me as well. I'm with Rainshine on people watching.