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Lit is a world of alts. How many Lit identities have you posted under?

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    Votes: 378 78.6%
  • 2 - 3

    Votes: 86 17.9%
  • 4 - 5

    Votes: 7 1.5%
  • > 5

    Votes: 10 2.1%

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*listens for Papa C*

*hears only crickets*

*rubs hands together like an evil dictator* Mmwahahahahaha!
 
$1.58? Not enough. :p

First off, my dick is trading at $1.58 a share. Why so low, you ask? Because my stock has split more than Apple. Even with today's shitty earnings, my dick stock is up 2.3%.

Secondly, you all wish my lips were near your arses!
 
I'll show my my interest usually right away. (Well after a few pms or so.)
Though I did make someone dance a bit. We explored each others table of contents a bit. I was a bit reluctant, he was pretty insistent. It all worked out quite nicely.
If asked to do it again, we'd both say yes.

Looks around, looks like C Diddy left your happy ass stranded Pmann. :eek:
He'll come around in the morning and scoop you up, well maybe.
 
The dreaded relationship dance... Fuck that shit.. I like you..you like me..lets fuck and see how THAT works.. ;) If the connection is there.. great...that is the necessary thing..everything else either works or it doesn't.

In the meantime...no popcorn tonight..sick of it..going with some trailmix and and a front row seat... * munch, crunch and lmao* Gawd how I love free entertainment...and you all do it so well... :)
 
Jealousy. It's probably one trait we all wish wasn't part of us. We all have it to varying degrees. It may be the most irrational of all the emotional responses, and the hardest to fend off. I know people will say that aren't the jealous type but they don't exactly claim to be free from jealousy.

But on the other hand, the person that is the one being jealous upon, always sees it favorably to some extent. (Taking the crazed types out of the equation). We all like that someone likes us enough to be jealous, and sometimes that jealous response is cultivated a bit.

But where's the fine line drawn? What level is healthy? Do you find yourself cultivating?
 
Top of the page post, always ups the ante for the topic/question.

How soon do you show your hand in a relationship? It's always such a dance, initially wanting to be interested but coolly not too interested. You you want the other person to know you like them; too much, too early is bad. Then we start looking for signs that the feelings could be reciprocated. Both parties playing off each other.

How soon will you let someone know your interest in them is more than cursory. And is it any different in RL?

I'm not shy about telling someone I like them if I like them. It's good to let your intentions and feelings be known, right off. The trick is to just play it cool, don't add pressure to the situation. Remember when Scarlet told Joseph Gordon Hewitt in the movie Don Jon she liked him. "You're cute, I like you." Didn't make a huge gesture, just confidently said it without fanfare. I think it's all in HOW you say it. (RL and lit)
 
Oh, the green-eyed monster. What a bitch.
I'm totally familiar with this - I think it's the most ugly female emotion. I said female because I associate it with women. Do men get jealous the same way that women do? (I know I'm stereotyping....it's the catalyst to generate responses to my wonderment).

I hate it. I don't get jealous often*, but it's uncontrollable sometimes, and it feels rotten. I think the healthy response is one where you recognise that it's completely irrational and stop yourself from acting on it.

The batshitcrazy starts where a person can't see the jealousy for what it is, acts like a psycho, and is able to rationalise totally non-appropriate behaviour. <shrug>




*somewhere out there, a bloke just laughed aloud.

**I just realised that the majority of my jealousy comes from other women....but that tends to manifest as a girl-crush. And I don't think there's anything BSC about that.
 
Jealousy. It's probably one trait we all wish wasn't part of us. We all have it to varying degrees. It may be the most irrational of all the emotional responses, and the hardest to fend off. I know people will say that aren't the jealous type but they don't exactly claim to be free from jealousy.

But on the other hand, the person that is the one being jealous upon, always sees it favorably to some extent. (Taking the crazed types out of the equation). We all like that someone likes us enough to be jealous, and sometimes that jealous response is cultivated a bit.

But where's the fine line drawn? What level is healthy? Do you find yourself cultivating?

The key to jealousy is to take it and turn it into productivity. Like in my experience...I've had friends go off and do great things in the music business. At first it enraged and made me jealous. Like "Why them and not ME??" So what I ended up doing was to work harder on my own stuff and get out there more. So I didn't stay jealous for very long. Because I was too busy with my own stuff.

Jealousy is healthy to admit you have and it's good to acknowledge it and recognize it but it's not at all good to stay there.
 
Jealousy. It's probably one trait we all wish wasn't part of us. We all have it to varying degrees. It may be the most irrational of all the emotional responses, and the hardest to fend off. I know people will say that aren't the jealous type but they don't exactly claim to be free from jealousy.

But on the other hand, the person that is the one being jealous upon, always sees it favorably to some extent. (Taking the crazed types out of the equation). We all like that someone likes us enough to be jealous, and sometimes that jealous response is cultivated a bit.

But where's the fine line drawn? What level is healthy? Do you find yourself cultivating?

When it becomes an anger issue, it crosses the line from complimentary to unhealthy.
 
Jealousy. It's probably one trait we all wish wasn't part of us. We all have it to varying degrees. It may be the most irrational of all the emotional responses, and the hardest to fend off. I know people will say that aren't the jealous type but they don't exactly claim to be free from jealousy.

But on the other hand, the person that is the one being jealous upon, always sees it favorably to some extent. (Taking the crazed types out of the equation). We all like that someone likes us enough to be jealous, and sometimes that jealous response is cultivated a bit.

But where's the fine line drawn? What level is healthy? Do you find yourself cultivating?

Ugh. Jealousy. It's an irrational feeling and I detest feeling it. I'm not usually the jealous type, but I'm not immune to it either.

I will admit that I don't always know how to handle it when I'm jealous largely due to the fact that I don't always know that it is jealousy. I have to dissect how I feel and then realize that I'm jealous! LOL! Annoying.

Some level of jealousy is healthy for as long as it isn't out of hand where every little thing causes you to come unglued. It means that you value your relationship and the person you're in it with.

If you find yourself in the batshitcrazy level, there's usually an underlying cause and it's something you need to deal with for yourself. Otherwise, you will never have a healthy relationship. More importantly, you will end up pushing people away due to your inability to get a grip.
 
Ugh. Jealousy. It's an irrational feeling and I detest feeling it. I'm not usually the jealous type, but I'm not immune to it either.

I will admit that I don't always know how to handle it when I'm jealous largely due to the fact that I don't always know that it is jealousy. I have to dissect how I feel and then realize that I'm jealous! LOL! Annoying.

Some level of jealousy is healthy for as long as it isn't out of hand where every little thing causes you to come unglued. It means that you value your relationship and the person you're in it with.

If you find yourself in the batshitcrazy level, there's usually an underlying cause and it's something you need to deal with for yourself. Otherwise, you will never have a healthy relationship. More importantly, you will end up pushing people away due to your inability to get a grip.


I think I got a bit shorted on the jealousy gene, or else I haven't been with someone that brings it out in me.

But I have been in an abusive relationship, and jealousy was a trigger in him.
 
Jealousy can be an ugly thing. One thing I like to be is logical. And most times, jealousy is rooted from insecurity and a lack of reason. And those are two things I find so off putting. So, jealousy is a nasty thing in my eyes.

However, just a little bit can be endearing. Just enough to know the person gives a shit. But when jealousy causes trust issues... Yuck.

And for what it's worth, jealousy isn't always an unfounded feelings. Sometimes it's justified.

It's easy to be an over thinker on things. I certainly can be. But there is something I find cute about a girl who is, especially when they first meet someone, running scenarios through her mind maybe more than she should. Or maybe avoiding thinking about just HOW much she's thinking about the guy. I find that to be warming.
 
Jealousy can be an ugly thing. One thing I like to be is logical. And most times, jealousy is rooted from insecurity and a lack of reason. And those are two things I find so off putting. So, jealousy is a nasty thing in my eyes.

However, just a little bit can be endearing. Just enough to know the person gives a shit. But when jealousy causes trust issues... Yuck.

And for what it's worth, jealousy isn't always an unfounded feelings. Sometimes it's justified.

It's easy to be an over thinker on things. I certainly can be. But there is something I find cute about a girl who is, especially when they first meet someone, running scenarios through her mind maybe more than she should. Or maybe avoiding thinking about just HOW much she's thinking about the guy. I find that to be warming.

Question- is it jealousy if, say, your SO is shamelessly flirting inappropriately with others at a party? Or Is is justified disapproval?
 
I have never suffered much from jealousy, and have always been quick to shut it down in a partner. I’ve seen plenty of it though, friends of both sexes. Rather horrifying, where it can lead. One friend has been known to sit in her car outside an ex’s residence, watching their comings and goings, unless forcibly removed. :eek:

Unpleasant, having to cajole, wheedle, and threaten a grown - usually quite sane - woman into not stalking. In fact, seriously disturbing. And the behavioral manifestations don’t even begin to cover her mental anguish. :(

So, jealousy. No thank you, not interested.

At least that was my position until recently. Since starting to explore D/s things have…shifted. I don’t know if it’s an aspect of my personal sexual kink or simply a facet of being online, where it’s so much more difficult to read people. Whatever the case, I have…noticed…stirrings of jealousy. Not pleasant. Not. :i

Terrifying actually, having seen where it can lead. And particularly unnerving as I have so little experience in handling the emotion. It makes me very leery of engaging….
 
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Question- is it jealousy if, say, your SO is shamelessly flirting inappropriately with others at a party? Or Is is justified disapproval?

I'd say maybe a little of both. But I'd say that's mostly justified disapproval.

I think of the good jealousy as, "Hey, he/she 'belongs' to me so back off."

I think of the bad jealousy as, "Hey, are you trying to fuck someone else?"

Just my opinion.
 
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