Litiquette VI

[Lord Pmann]

As you all know, I’m the friendliest guy here. No... friendliest person.

But I keep just a few friends. I’ve said this many times, but it’s my rule... Jesus Christ had 12 friends. One of them betrayed him for 30 pieces of silver. So, I should definitely keep less than 11 close friends.

I care about going deep. *hi five* I don’t like surface stuff very much. I prefer conversation that makes me think. I have met some really good friends here. But I keep my list small.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

haha mine is kind of similar. "Who would help me move?"

I'd help you move

 

[Booboobear84]

Growing up I always had a close best friend. After college that changed. Partly, because that's when I met my wife. I'm friends with people who all have some other best friend, often both are friends of mine. I have had a lot of friends for a long time, and most of them I would help move or shovel out (sorry warm weather folks it's just hard to understand moving tons wet heavy stuff if you haven't done it).

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

“A friend to many is a friend to none”

Someone mentioned this quote to me on here a while back and it stuck with me. It’s a really good quote and I believe it’s rather accurate. If you’re a person of many friends, how can you really be a good friend? Your time will be spread thin and you’ll not be able to be that good friend you should be.

That’s one way of thinking. The other is “I want to be friends with everyone”. The problem here is that it only gets surface deep.

So what’s your opinion? Are you a lots of friends kind of person? Or a few close friends kind of person?


It’s a Little Help From My Friends by Joe Cocker

https://youtu.be/nCrlyX6XbTU

I'm definitely in the "few, super-close friends" camp. In part, because I don't like people.

In part, because I'm fucking weird enough that I don't appeal to a wide cross-section of people.

But mostly because when I care about you, I care a lot. And that kind of focus doesn't translate well when spread out among a lot of people.

I don't want acquaintances to small talk with. I want that small handful people whom I love who I can talk about anything, as deeply as we wish...and then still laugh at a fart joke after.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

It catches me off guard when someone refers to lit as a place people come to hook up. It's definitely not my experience.

I'm like Parker- friendly with most and friends with a few.

Sooo...... we aren't going to make out after I help you move?

Just kidding. I don't help anyone move. But I'll chip in for movers.

 

[Lord Pmann]

In the world of Lit, I'm a curmudgeon. But a kind of adorable one. So I have made a friend or two.

There are lots of people here who I enjoy and like reading what's on their mind. There are lots of people here who annoy me and I don't seem to connect with in any way.

See? Curmudgeon.

For once I’m the least grumpy poster here.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

In the world of Lit, I'm a curmudgeon. But a kind of adorable one. So I have made a friend or two.

There are lots of people here who I enjoy and like reading what's on their mind. There are lots of people here who annoy me and I don't seem to connect with in any way.

See? Curmudgeon.

For once I’m the least grumpy poster here.

Agree with Parker.
And I’m in the same boat with Suz but she said it way nicer than I woulda.
High five sista.
Guilty of being cheeky sometimes and my tolerance for XYZ is rocking a zero.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sorry for the late question, but I've been busy today.

Sometimes we think people are amazing. Everything they do is magic. But then, something happens. And your opinion can sour so quickly. The things they did that once seemed amazing, now suck ass.

Let's hear stories of people (or things) that once seemed absolutely amazing to you, but turned south. What things got on your nerves? What behaviours really got your goat?



Rootless Tree by Damien Rice

https://youtu.be/Xzq34YD3T8E

 

[Orchidea73]

Sometimes we think people are amazing. Everything they do is magic. But then, something happens. And your opinion can sour so quickly. The things they did that once seemed amazing, now suck ass.

I'm not sure if people really do turn south, so to speak. I think it's more about our expectations.
Or maybe a bit of both...I haven't made up my mind, yet, on the subject.

 

[Matthew82]

I'm not sure if people really do turn south, so to speak. I think it's more about our expectations.
Or maybe a bit of both...I haven't made my mind up, yet, on this subject.

Agree - expectations may have been unrealistic to begin with

 

[Cyberbella]

I was friends with someone online for about 4 years. I enjoyed his company and we had a lot in common. We both were very busy, so when he would disappear for months at a time I thought nothing of it. I honestly thought he was the bees knees...we just clicked. One day I was home sick and he messaged me and told me he’d check on me periodically through out the day. I thought it was sweet but unnecessary. Later he stepped up his game with this romantic scene that included a waterfall and frolicking in the waves. lol It felt awkward at first because I had only been friends with him. Things continued to heat up and then he ghosted on me. When he returned, a whole web of deception unfolded. So the guy I thought was this fantastic human being was basically very FAKE.

 

[Suz_anne]

Sorry for the late question, but I've been busy today.

Busy celebrating your biiiiiiiiiiiiirthday????

Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy Birthday to the self-proclaimed Darling of Lit!



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[85Ironman]

As you all know, I’m the friendliest guy here. No... friendliest person.

But I keep just a few friends. I’ve said this many times, but it’s my rule... Jesus Christ had 12 friends. One of them betrayed him for 30 pieces of silver. So, I should definitely keep less than 11 close friends.

I care about going deep. *hi five* I don’t like surface stuff very much. I prefer conversation that makes me think. I have met some really good friends here. But I keep my list small.

But you are not Jesus Christ.

Wait. Are you?

 

[Suz_anne]

But you are not Jesus Christ.

Wait. Are you?

Be nice - it is his birthday. Or did you miss my sparkly rainbow post? It took several minutes for me to change the font color on all of those words and letters and to find an appropriately sparkly gif.

But I'm a good friend, so, you know - I give until it hurts.

Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy Birthday to the self-proclaimed Darling of Lit!



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[SMNaughtywife]

But you are not Jesus Christ.

Wait. Are you?

Laughing ....
Fuck a duck, I thought I was a cheeky handful.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Be nice - it is his birthday. Or did you miss my sparkly rainbow post? It took several minutes for me to change the font color on all of those words and letters and to find an appropriately sparkly gif.

But I'm a good friend, so, you know - I give until it hurts.

This is beautiful Suz!!
Good job spilling the beans.

 

[85Ironman]

Be nice - it is his birthday. Or did you miss my sparkly rainbow post? It took several minutes for me to change the font color on all of those words and letters and to find an appropriately sparkly gif.

But I'm a good friend, so, you know - I give until it hurts.

Aw, now I feel bad.

OK, that's not true. Happy birthday, Darling.

Laughing ....
Fuck a duck, I thought I was a cheeky handful.

*looks at my hand*
*looks at your buttcheek*

 

[Suz_anne]

This is beautiful Suz!!
Good job spilling the beans.

I wouldn't want anyone to think switching between "Dark Orchid" and "Royal Blue" is easy. And I had to do a google search for that gif.

This shit doesn't come easy, you know.

 

[85Ironman]

This shit doesn't come easy, you know.

Good shit never does.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Happy Birthday Pmann. I hope your day as been spent daydreaming of your redhead bombshell.

https://i.imgur.com/dJ92vX7_d.jpg?maxwidth=640&shape=thumb&fidelity=medium

 

[catherinewheel77]

Sorry for the late question, but I've been busy today.

Sometimes we think people are amazing. Everything they do is magic.

1. Celebrating with a phenomenally beautiful nurse, no doubt.

2. An apt description of said RN.

 

[Sh75]

1. Celebrating with a phenomenally beautiful nurse, no doubt.

2. An apt description of said RN.

Every little thing she does is magic ❤

 

[LizVegas79]

It's your birthday LordPmann? Then HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

“A friend to many is a friend to none”

Someone mentioned this quote to me on here a while back and it stuck with me. It’s a really good quote and I believe it’s rather accurate. If you’re a person of many friends, how can you really be a good friend? Your time will be spread thin and you’ll not be able to be that good friend you should be.

That’s one way of thinking. The other is “I want to be friends with everyone”. The problem here is that it only gets surface deep.

So what’s your opinion? Are you a lots of friends kind of person? Or a few close friends kind of person?


It’s a Little Help From My Friends by Joe Cocker

https://youtu.be/nCrlyX6XbTU

I have huge trust issues. Even with people I've known for 20-25 years. I wish I had as close a friend as many of you have described, but I'm not sure that I can really say that I do.

Other than my husband. My husband is def my BF(Hopefully)F.

I didn't have a ton of friends in school because I was different from most of the other kids (brown). But I thought my volleyball teammates were my friends. But after I quit volleyball to focus exclusively on tennis, my former friends/teammates sort of ghosted me. I was good at tennis, some said "very good", but tennis is very much a solitary sport. Especially when you're a girl and you cream all the guys on the court. My coaches became my "best friends", until I blew out both my knees and words like "nationals" and "when she turns pro" disappeared.

Re-integrating into high school without sports as a major part of my life was very weird and definitely made me a loner. Until one of the most popular girls in school took me under her wing. I was uncompromisingly devoted to her and we ended up going down a pretty dark path together. So, viola, trust issues.

I try to be nice to everyone I meet and work with but people do get on my sh^t list (some say without much effort ) so I would say that I have lots of varying degrees of acquaintances rather than outright friends in the RW.

Ironically, one of the things that has kept me a Litster for these past few years is some of the so called virtual friendships I have formed on here. Virtual or not, I have been able to tell certain people things on here I've hardly ever admitted to myself, much less anyone else.

In many ways, opening up to friends on here has enabled me to be more open and trusting with other people in the RW - especially at work.

And for that I thank both them and Lit

Sorry for the late question, but I've been busy today.

Sometimes we think people are amazing. Everything they do is magic. But then, something happens. And your opinion can sour so quickly. The things they did that once seemed amazing, now suck ass.

Let's hear stories of people (or things) that once seemed absolutely amazing to you, but turned south. What things got on your nerves? What behaviours really got your goat?

Rootless Tree by Damien Rice

https://youtu.be/Xzq34YD3T8E

As I mentioned re: the last question, years ago someone who I thought was my BFF turned out not to really have my best interests at heart. And it wasn't a sudden thing. It just took me over ten years to realize it.

Long story short (many of you already know it from previous posts): her and I met in HS and even before graduation decided we wanted to be in the music business. She as a performer, me as her agent/manager.

She was the first person other than my family I ever kissed. I thought she was incredibly talented as a songwriter and singer. I loved listening to her play the guitar but would eventually admit if pressed hard enough that she wasn't as talented a guitar player as other singer/songwriters making it or trying to make it. But I loved listening and watching her play. I also loved listening to her work out a melody or song on the piano too. I could and did listen and watch and even help (we both played about equally as bad - even with four hands lol) her. We lived together for years, me openly bi-sexual, her maybe/maybe not depending on the crowd we were with.

I took a few talent management courses and seminars. She took a singing lesson here and there but decided to keep her sound more natural and "authentic". It wasn't a great decision. We "toured" with other musicians but kidded ourselves about our rising success for years.

We pretty much slept our way straight to the bottom, but had one hell of a time doing it! LOL

Looking back at it with the clarity of 20/20 hindsight I can now admit that she basically pimped me out for concert tickets and drugs in the beginning and then we both became known as the party girls who stayed after the party was over but before all the guys went home. I didn't always appreciate it but I told myself we were a team and I had to do my part. But things went from magical and hopeful to dark and dire pretty fast after we adjusted "our strategy for success" in our mid-20's and decided to both focus on signing and representing other acts. We made grand promises and fulfilled almost zero of them until we ended up falling in with a pretty tough crowd and had to do what they said instead way more often than what we wanted.

It wasn't pretty. And when I decided I wanted to get sober she basically turned on me, making the decision 1000x harder. That was my final deal breaker. When I needed her most she wasn't there.

It took about 15 years, but the shine had finally worn off the most popular girl who school who I couldn't believe wanted to be my friend.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Thank you all for the kind birthday wishes. I couldn’t ask for a better group of fuckers to dwell in my thread that I stole.

But you are not Jesus Christ.

Wait. Are you?

I have Lord in my name...

But that’s my point... I need less than 11 because I’m not as good as Jesus. 10 max.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I will just join in on the Happy Birthday May Birthday friend. I hope your day has been great.