Litiquette VI

[StacyLeigh]

Simple question today-

Have you ever been catfished? I want all the details. Also, Stacy needs to tell us how she's friends with her catfish still. This is amazing.

Fishing In the Dark by The Nitty Gritty Dirt Band

https://youtu.be/8u7-Ht05v2M

It's actually not that interesting of a story - if anything it simply shines light on how naïve I can be.

When I first joined Lit I became close to and quite enamored with a man I met here. If anyone frequented Photo's Playroom back in the day, you may have encountered him - let's call him FF. He and I got very close very quickly but after some sudden life changes for him, he turned into someone I didn't much care for. Being the honest person I am, I told him this when I called it quits. I should note here that he was in the Air Force and had just been transferred to South Korea. About a month after this, I received a PM from another man. We got to know one another and he seemed too good to be true - my 29 year old self was too bright-eyed to see the red flags. I wouldn't say we got too close as I was a bit guarded after FF. But we...enjoyed each other....a time or two.

One day I received a voice mail from FF telling me he heard a story about me from a man in his Air Force division about a girl he met online that he had fun with the night before. I'm not so naïve to have not put 2 and 2 together at this point and I confronted him about pretending to be this other man. He, of course, denied it...in a very aggressive and disrespectful manner.

About a year ago, FF reached out to me via email to admit what he had done and apologize. I try to not hold grudges so I was accepting of it and remained friendly-ish with him...until about 6 months ago when his newlywed wife found all the emails and photos of me that he had kept for 7 years...and then tracked me down on Facebook and attempted to post several heinous messages about me on my page.

There was also another guy on Lit that I really never cared for but became so obsessed that he created at least 3 different accounts just to try and find the personality that would capture my attention. I never fell for it - I was a very wise 34 at this point but it was still creepy as hell.

 

[Richard_C]

Catfished - no


Ghosted - all the dam time. About done with dating apps!!!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Totally been catfished years ago. A girl I went on a few dates with, and broke it off with cuz there was no chemistry, later showed up in my messages and pretended to be someone else to fuck with me. She said she did it to "teach me a lesson" which is never not a psychotic thing to say. She's still tried adding me on social media today, thinking we can let bygones be bygones (???) And i block her every time.

I had plans to meet someone I was close to on here and had a supposedly had a thing with (posted as livnmylife, I don't give a fuck, I'll name names). 3 days before she was going to come out she sent me a hige rambling text at 4am basically saying "it's over, I'm breaking up, I don't love you, don't write me back". I later found out from other people that she did this kind if thing regularly. So, not sure if its officially a catfishing. Because to this day I don't know what her deal was or if she was truthful about who she was. Scary shit.

So yeah, my trust doesn't come easy.

Thank you for naming names, bro!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

OMG guys.

This is awful. What a violation of trust

 

[85Ironman]

I knew what "ghosted" was.
I had to google "catfish", though.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

It's been 5 years, she's long gone. But yeah, I'm of the mind that if someone intentionally does you wrong it's perfectly okay to say that's what happened.

I agree. Once someone violates your privacy or trust I don’t think you owe them anything.

 

[85Ironman]

It's been 5 years, she's long gone. But yeah, I'm of the mind that if someone intentionally does you wrong it's perfectly okay to say that's what happened.

You're good.

If they don't want to get called out for being shitty, they shouldn't be shitty.

 

[Lord Pmann]

If anyone hasn’t seen the movie/documentary Catfish (from where the term originated), please watch it. It’s absolutely amazing.

 

[The_gladiator]

I'm sure I've been catfished, but I'm having trouble thinking of an example off hand. I think I had it done by an ex honestly trying to catch me cheating on her or something.

 

[default24]

Yeah it was rough. But live and learn. Pick up and move on and all that.

She said it was 'to teach you a lesson'
NRJ were you sluttin'?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Here’s the source of the name for Catfish:

https://youtu.be/uuxbK925q14

Slight spoiler if you’re gonna watch the movie.

 

[default24]

Lol I, uh, don't think so?

Oh well then that's total bullshit, that chick sucked

 

[StacyLeigh]

OMG guys.

This is awful. What a violation of trust

I think it just takes trust off the table. There are very few people I can say I truly trust, and maybe one here on Lit. There are just too many who find joy in playing games.

Going back to your comment yesterday about avatars - I go on the assumption that I’m the only one who’s avatar is legit.

 

[StacyLeigh]

I'm sorry you were fucked with. That really is genuinely awful. Trust is a thing that should be earned. And some people just plain don't earn it. But they can't all be fuckers. Some people are great too.

Also, that is absolutely me in my avatar.

Oh, well sure, of course that’s you Mr. Stamos.... and we all know Pmann is an anorexic man with a 3ft black penis

 

[The_gladiator]

I think it just takes trust off the table. There are very few people I can say I truly trust, and maybe one here on Lit. There are just too many who find joy in playing games.

Going back to your comment yesterday about avatars - I go on the assumption that I’m the only one who’s avatar is legit.

this is why I have an av that is clearly an elf, so no one will remotely be fooled into thinking it's me, since you know... elves are fiction.

 

[Trekka]

I y'all kinky fuckers

 

[Sweet_Cupcake]

Simple question today-

Have you ever been catfished? I want all the details. Also, Stacy needs to tell us how she's friends with her catfish still. This is amazing.

Fishing In the Dark by The Nitty Gritty Dirt Band

https://youtu.be/8u7-Ht05v2M

I don't think I've ever been catfished, but OMG after reading what others have experienced, should I start to worry?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I heard about it retroactively and almost died laughing.

I'm terrible like that.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I have two albino catfish in my fish tank, Frankie and Francis. That’s my contribution.

 

[85Ironman]

I have two albino catfish in my fish tank, Frankie and Francis. That’s my contribution.

If they're albino, they also could qualify as ghosts...

 

[Suz_anne]

I heard about it retroactively and almost died laughing.

I'm terrible like that.

Is this the thing that involved a horse?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Hahaha. God, that's a mental picture I needed right about now

 

[Trekka]

Phallic shaped veggies. Let's discuss.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Pmann has a tiny penis and likes to lick pickles on his cam sessions?!

How did YOU know, huh?

 

[Suz_anne]

Hahaha. God, that's a mental picture I needed right about now

We all need to laugh during this corona craziness. And if it involves laughing at Pmann, even better.