Litiquette IV

[jezzilee]

Pm sent!

*giggles*

 

[ChainedUp]

FYP, you're welcome.

What are you talking about?

 

[jezzilee]

What are you talking about?

I see what you did there

 

[beachbaby179]

I don't send a lot of pm's. I answer most of them unless they're rude. Once in a while someone will post something that I have a thought about (imagine that...) and I respond just to them in a pm. But mostly it's my besties who I have pm conversations with. If the back and forth goes on for a while it's because they're really intriguing.

But I post more on the threads than pm. For sure.

 

[fishyfingers]

Damn, I stay away from this place for a few days and miss the pic show!

That's probably the most intriguing dance of all here, turning the conversation. Making that decision to turn a little sharper to the left and she how your PM responds. Of course leave enough wiggle room that you can back out gracefully if need be.

Is taking that turn in Lit any different than in real life? Go too fast = fast rejection. Go too slow and the friend zone emerges. How have you gauged when the right time is to go from inmuendo & flirt to play?

I don't think I try to turn the conversation at all. Quite often it evolves naturally, with my random brain tangents it's really not that difficult to believe. Having said that, I quite enjoy the journey between flirty innuendo and play - even when it has happened many times before.

are you a chronic PM'er? Do you send a PM when what you're saying would fit just fine in a thread? Which gives you more satisfaction, seeing a PM in your inbox or reading a reply on a thread? And if you are a chronic PM'er do you know when to not send a PM, that's almost as important as the PM sent.

Currently I seem to be spending much more time in PMs than commenting in threads. I'm trying to be more social, but sometimes it is much easier (for me) to respond in a PM to that person. Also, it keeps certain topics out of the searchable realm, so I don't get some random PMing me about a comment I made six pages back in a thread and wanting to discuss it further.

 

[DarkSimian]

That conversation turned really well for her.

That's probably the most intriguing dance of all here, turning the conversation. Making that decision to turn a little sharper to the left and she how your PM responds. Of course leave enough wiggle room that you can back out gracefully if need be.

Is taking that turn in Lit any different than in real life? Go too fast = fast rejection. Go too slow and the friend zone emerges. How have you gauged when the right time is to go from inmuendo & flirt to play?

As a champion of "That's what she said...", I am fluent in innuendo. And while my boyish charm and natural good looks and sexual prowess get me far, the ability to make someone laugh, and even blush, has helped me more in life, and on Lit, than anything. That and the fact that I don't take myself seriously; so why should you? This has allowed me to become friends, FWB, lovers, and "whatever" with so many here and IRL. That, and I'm mostly harmless....

 

[Endless_Night]

I was once told I was a prolific PMer. Does that count?

PMs fly with my Bestie, though these days we’re both busy so neither of us is on the board much. I have a few more casual friends I occasionally message. Otherwise, besides the occasional “question” PM if I’d like more information on a subject or a “nicely done” PM when someone handles a sticky situation with grace, I am more likely to keep it to the board.

And, nope. I have no sense of delicate nuance when it comes to PMs (Rather like my approach to real life conversation ).

When the spirit moves me, I PM.

 

[ViciousTease]

are you a chronic PM'er? Do you send a PM when what you're saying would fit just fine in a thread? Which gives you more satisfaction, seeing a PM in your inbox or reading a reply on a thread? And if you are a chronic PM'er do you know when to not send a PM, that's almost as important as the PM sent.

Preview for tomorrow's topic: The PM'er you just can't shake

Before Lit, I frequented a different adult story site. On that site, the playground was for games. Personals had their own space. There were boards for discussions about a particular topic. There were also boards for casual conversation. But the playground area was always just for games. I know it's different here and I do engage in conversation to some extent on the Playground, but I find myself slipping back into that old mentality of "that doesn't belong here", so I turn to PMs for conversations. Particularly if the conversation is not inclusive. If everyone who visits the thread can (and would feel comfortable) weighing in on the topic, that's fine. If it's a long conversation just between two people, I take it off the boards.

 

[Bitesback]

are you a chronic PM'er? Do you send a PM when what you're saying would fit just fine in a thread? Which gives you more satisfaction, seeing a PM in your inbox or reading a reply on a thread? And if you are a chronic PM'er do you know when to not send a PM, that's almost as important as the PM sent.

Preview for tomorrow's topic: The PM'er you just can't shake

I respond to the few PMs sent to me but I don't tend to send many, especially to people with whom I've not interacted in the PG. People with whom I am friendly occasionally get a PM in the hope it raises a smile, however, as these seem to get ignored of late, maybe I'm the PM'er they're trying to shake.

Thanks, Chained, that was not a perspective I'd considered until now

If I am keen to share something with an OP or a commenter in a thread and I'd rather not have it out there for all to see, usually I'm comfortable putting it into a PM. Most people have been receptive and friendly.

Seeing a PM in my inbox is more likely to get my attention, not sure about it being more satisfying than a thread reply, both are nice but I wouldn't say I found either satisfying. Generally, I don't follow up my posts to see if anyone makes a comment about it. I might do here, or shortly after I post, but usually I don't get around to following through.

 

[Paul_Chance]

are you a chronic PM'er? Do you send a PM when what you're saying would fit just fine in a thread? Which gives you more satisfaction, seeing a PM in your inbox or reading a reply on a thread? And if you are a chronic PM'er do you know when to not send a PM, that's almost as important as the PM sent.

Preview for tomorrow's topic: The PM'er you just can't shake

No, I tend to post to the boards far more than I PM. I PM back and forth with people I've gotten to know, and I'll generally send some random PM to express something either doesn't really fit into the thread, but I wanted to comment on. I'll also just generally send a PM with a compliment when I have one. I'm happy with either a PM or a reply in a thread.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I'll send an occasional PM out of the blue. Just depends on what triggered the need. I'm not even close to a chronic PMer when I see someone is online from my buddy list. Maybe I'm bad for not sending them out and saying "hi" more often. Slaps my own ass for being neglectful.

 

[GentlemanWithNaughtyThoughts]

PM's are... "special"... or the intent is to make the intended recipient feel special..

i.e. sharing something privately rather than publicly...

But then again... I am a virgin PMer..

So who wants to be my first... make me feel "special"..

Disclaimer: The use of the term "special" in this context should not be misconstrued as "yellow short bus special." That is a whole different topic/discussion for a different thread.

 

[Suz_anne]

Not a chronic PM'er. I probably would be considered the opposite of that.

 

[ChainedUp]

Thinks a warning citation is in order for GentlemanWithNaughtyThoughts for PM solicitation. I guess it was only his fourth post but after being around 6months, I think the citation is in order.

You know me, I like to flash & wave my badge around.

 

[beachbaby179]

Thinks a warning citation is in order for GentlemanWithNaughtyThoughts for PM solicitation. I guess it was only his fourth post but after being around 6months, I think the citation is in order.

You know me, I like to flash & wave my badge around.

Just your badge? Damn. Nothin to see here... *pouts and stomps away*

 

[ChainedUp]

Just your badge? Damn. Nothin to see here... *pouts and stomps away*

Well, if you PM and ask nicely.....laughs

 

[beachbaby179]

Well, if you PM and ask nicely.....laughs

Well done...giggle...

 

[Lord Pmann]

My PMs are fucking awesome. Every one I send is the shit. Not to be confused with just a shitty PM.

I'm pretty sure those of you who have received PMs from me can attest. I have good stories. I'm charming as hell. You'll be calling your mother telling her you met the best guy- and he's a stick figure.

 

[jezzilee]

My PMs are fucking awesome. Every one I send is the shit. Not to be confused with just a shitty PM.

I'm pretty sure those of you who have received PMs from me can attest. I have good stories. I'm charming as hell. You'll be calling your mother telling her you met the best guy- and he's a stick figure.

I think I was confused.

 

[Corbal]

My PMs are fucking awesome. Every one I send is the shit. Not to be confused with just a shitty PM.

I'm pretty sure those of you who have received PMs from me can attest. I have good stories. I'm charming as hell. You'll be calling your mother telling her you met the best guy- and he's a stick figure.

Your music blows.

 

[Suz_anne]

Your music blows.

I think he does, too. He just won't admit it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think I was confused.

As they say on the GB, "eat a AIDS dick".

Your music blows.

Your mother blows (me).

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think he does, too. He just won't admit it.

Perv. You wish!!!

 

[Suz_anne]

Perv. You wish!!!

Not even once? At summer camp? Or a highway rest area?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think I was confused.

Not even once? At summer camp? Or a highway rest area?

Ne'er have I sucked on a dick.