Litiquette IV

[fishyfingers]

Do you enjoy your hands on the wheel, or would you prefer to be driven?

I don't drive. There's a myriad of reasons behind it, but I am quite comfortable being a passenger/navigator - as long as the driver has confidence and skills on their side.

Do people lie more while at lit/online than they do in real life? Or is online just an extension of who they really are in real life?

I try not to lie - both in real life and on here. I may use sarcasm or humour to deflect or avoid the question - or I may just ignore it altogether and not answer it, but lies have a tendency to snowball - especially if you can't manage to keep track of the lies you have spun.

 

[pvt_addiction]

Just an observation...

On the "above you" threads, there are certain Litsters and Litettes who don't respond to those above them, but instead to an individual who posted 5 or more posts above them. Rules people, follow the rules! Lol

 

[Mrtenant]

There are all sorts of statistics out there regarding the frequency with which we lie on any given day. I've seen from as low as a couple a day to as many as 5-6 every 10mins of conversation. I'm not sure which statistic is most accurate and for the purposes of my topic the exact number doesn't really matter. Oh, the topic you ask?

Do people lie more while at lit/online than they do in real life? Or is online just an extension of who they really are in real life?

I think many people do lie or at least exaggerate the truth a bit. I like to think if you know me, then you can tell what is my true voice vs. one of my tall tales. And I do a ton of said tall tales. Here are a couple....oddly enough, I did get replies and PMs from people that did think it was truth. I didn't say one way or the other, simply found it amusing. So, question? Are tall tales also considered lies and can you tell the difference?

What Made You Say Fuck?

And followed by...

What Made You Say Fuck Cont'd?


I always also tell people that do come to know me, any doubts about what I post? Just ask. I'm friendly, I'll tell you.

 

[Paul_Chance]

There are all sorts of statistics out there regarding the frequency with which we lie on any given day. I've seen from as low as a couple a day to as many as 5-6 every 10mins of conversation. I'm not sure which statistic is most accurate and for the purposes of my topic the exact number doesn't really matter. Oh, the topic you ask?

Do people lie more while at lit/online than they do in real life? Or is online just an extension of who they really are in real life?

I think that a persons online persona is an exaggerated extension of who they are in real life. It arises because at it's core all online interaction is self-reported. Without intention it allows people to present themselves in a certain light by what they choose to post or comment upon and then the contents of those comments. Sort of a "larger than life" version of themselves. Over time, a fairly accurate picture of a real person will emerge, unless they're deliberately crafting a fake persona - and even then the real person peeks through at times simply because it is very difficult to remain consistent in deception without training and experience.

As for how often people lie - I'll pull a Clinton here and say "it depends on what lie means". If you're categorizing it as "deliberately false statements with the intention to deceive" - a lot of people don't lie, or lie very infrequently. But, if you're categorizing it as any statement that is not true and valid - then people, almost all people, lie often and with glibness. A statement that simply is not factually true is a very common thing - from the many white lies of social graces, to the deliberate withholding of truth because the speaker (or writer) perceives it as irrelevant to receiver, on down through simple or complex exaggerations (and tall tales fall into that category).

I'll give you an example from my own life. If a person were to ask me today "How are you doing?", depending on my relationship with the person and the circumstances of the conversation I'd give answer that would range from "Bright and shiny, it's a beautiful day, and I'm looking forward to this meeting" if it came from one of my work associates or clients. Is it a lie - yes, it's an intentional deception because of the nature of the relationship - as a project management consultant it is my job to keep the teams focused on the task at hand, keep morale up, and keep the projects moving.

However, the same question from a personal friend would elicit a different answer - "I'm freaking burned out, I have to meet with a bunch of people who're more interested in scoring corporate political points than actually completing the project, we're getting battered by fierce change resistance. Additionally, a close friend lost his mother to bone cancer over the weekend, so I'm heart sick and contemplating mortality."

Yet, at the same time I exist in both states, so each statement contains a core of truth, and yet at the same time, each statement contains elements of deception and technically, both are lies.

 

[Suz_anne]

What word or phrase here at Lit has jumped the shark for you. No offense to Trekka but "gigglesnort" is my selection. Runners up are "pounce" & "boob squishes". What say you?

I think we need to get "testicle squishes" to be a thing.

Slightly off topic, a pet peeve of mine is when someone posts on a question thread, but refuses to answer the actual question. For example - the thread that asks you to name your Lit crush and people who try to be coy and post "There are too many to name" or "I will never tell"… well, then don't post in the frickin' thread!

Do people lie more while at lit/online than they do in real life? Or is online just an extension of who they really are in real life?

I would like to think for most people it is just an extension (and maybe a slight exaggeration) of who they are in real life. Although I'm sure there are fair number of people who lie to put on a persona of who they want to be.

 

[Corbal]

I think we need to get "testicle squishes" to be a thing.

Slightly off topic, a pet peeve of mine is when someone posts on a question thread, but refuses to answer the actual question. For example - the thread that asks you to name your Lit crush and people who try to be coy and post "There are too many to name" or "I will never tell"… well, then don't post in the frickin' thread!


I would like to think for most people it is just an extension (and maybe a slight exaggeration) of who they are in real life. Although I'm sure there are fair number of people who lie to put on a persona of who they want to be.

I'm actually a bigger asshole in real life.

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm actually a bigger asshole in real life.

*swoon* That just makes my girl crush grow stronger.

 

[Corbal]

*swoon* That just makes my girl crush grow stronger.

I promise to be mean. Cruel even.

 

[thejabber27]

I'm actually a bigger asshole in real life.

It's why it's fun to watch you destroy people.

 

[Mrtenant]

I'm actually a bigger asshole in real life.

Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap

Its why we love you Corbal.

 

[TheSilverLining]

There are all sorts of statistics out there regarding the frequency with which we lie on any given day. I've seen from as low as a couple a day to as many as 5-6 every 10mins of conversation. I'm not sure which statistic is most accurate and for the purposes of my topic the exact number doesn't really matter. Oh, the topic you ask?

Do people lie more while at lit/online than they do in real life? Or is online just an extension of who they really are in real life?

Off-Lit I call people cunts and they say "thank you".
On-Lit people flounce.

Remember your manners, folks!

 

[ChainedUp]

For the night owls and early birds.....

I watched President Obama's speech tonight and without regard to his politics, he's one of the best speakers our country has ever had. There's been a lot of rhetoric around "Making America great again" and while i don't want this to turn into a GB political forum, I will steal from the national debate for my topic.

What makes or would make you great as a person, other than your role as parent or spouse?

 

[cascadiabound]

For the night owls and early birds.....

I watched President Obama's speech tonight and without regard to his politics, he's one of the best speakers our country has ever had. There's been a lot of rhetoric around "Making America great again" and while i don't want this to turn into a GB political forum, I will steal from the national debate for my topic.

What makes or would make you great as a person, other than your role as parent or spouse?

I think this is a difficult question to answer without sounding the braggart. And one of the things that I appreciated about Pres. Obama's speech was his list of heart land characteristics that I think most would agree would be desirable to instill in our children - hardwork, humility, helping each other out, kindness, etc.

I mostly do not think of myself as a "great person" ~ however, I recall long ago as a young person, setting a goal for myself, not to become famous, but to be famous with my friends. To be known as a person who is trustworthy and reliable. Good to my word, generous with my knowledge, my hospitality, my gifts, my blessings. A hard worker and loyal. Able to keep confidences, and trusted to be a sounding board. Humble enough to recognize what I don't know and to ask for help when I need it. To be gracious to others - when they offer their help and their compliments - for to refuse these things is a form of rudeness. These are principles that I have tried to live by and around. I do not always succeed. But I count among my blessings abundant friendships. I am not famous. Nor do I seek fame. I am grateful for the respect of those who know me best. This seems more than great enough to me.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Agree, he does have a certain energy within him.

What makes me a great person - my integrity for sure. Yup, it's a short and simple answer, but it's embedded deep within me. Always there in my every action and thought. Never questioned.

 

[Suz_anne]

What makes or would make you great as a person, other than your role as parent or spouse?

A. I cannot wait to hear Pmann's answer to this question.

B. I agree that it's difficult to answer this question without sounding like an asshole or like someone with self-esteem issues. Do most people view themselves as a great person? I don't. I think of myself as an every day, average person when I'm not helping old ladies cross the street, feeding the hungry, building shelters for the homeless and teaching immigrants to speak English. Not to mention the booties that I knit for dogs to wear during the long, cold Midwest winters.

 

[Mrtenant]

For the night owls and early birds.....

I watched President Obama's speech tonight and without regard to his politics, he's one of the best speakers our country has ever had. There's been a lot of rhetoric around "Making America great again" and while i don't want this to turn into a GB political forum, I will steal from the national debate for my topic.

What makes or would make you great as a person, other than your role as parent or spouse?

Might be great if we could all just come together and have a little Happy Hour together, I'm hosting and serving it up. Just because I love you guys. While we're at it? That old boy looking hungry outside the door? Someone give him a sandwich.


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[beachbaby179]

Ooooh. Looks like I got here just in time. Mojito please. I've grown my own mint this summer so I brought you some.
Always prepared. That's me.

 

[Corbal]

What makes or would make you great as a person, other than your role as parent or spouse?

Haha. Not a fucking thing. Those things are the only things I'm good at.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Haha. Not a fucking thing. Those things are the only things I'm good at.

You're not good at those.

 

[Corbal]

You're not good at those.

Your mother taught me. Slap yourself for her fuckups.

 

[Trekka]

Slap yourself for her fuckups.

I want video.

 

[Corbal]

I want video.

Quickest Vine ever.

 

[ChainedUp]

Friday festivities. Whose got big plans for tonight? Me, I got nothing. So go ahead, be a social planner and find me something fun for tonight. It's a free-for-all Friday with a theme.

 

[Mindfondler]

Friday festivities. Whose got big plans for tonight? Me, I got nothing. So go ahead, be a social planner and find me something fun for tonight. It's a free-for-all Friday with a theme.

If you can get yourself over to London, UK, then I can recommend a Munch tonight and a kinky picnic tomorrow afternoon.
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[Suz_anne]

Don't judge me...

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