Litiquette IV

[Mindfondler]

Poor Papa, it looks like the Lit Scandals and Dear Litster threads are distracting everyone.

*shakes head*

Don't recognise either of those. I guess they must be on The Playground; I don't spend much time in there any more (apart from this thread). Have I missed something important?
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[ChainedUp]

I'm going to be a tad late in the morning so like any good and responsible OP I thought I would put out my topic a little early. Better early than late, isn't that how the sayings go.

Interesting topic I heard today went something like this: where is it better to walk into a bar all by yourself? a big city where people come and go all the time so the fact that you aren't a regular is no big deal or in a small town with a tiny tavern where it's clear "you ain't from around these parts".

Is it safer in a small town or do they just do a better job of the cover up?

 

[LWulf]

Like any good poster, I thought I'd answer the topic question early to allow me to sleep late... Well, that's the plan for now.

I've been in the big city bar, and the small town bar, many, many times. Believe it or not, the big city bar is just as easy to realize you are aren't a regular. Whether it's safer in one or the other, depends on a lot of conditions. I once put down the six time State champ bronco buster by arm wrestling in "his" bar.
He didn't take too kindly to that.
I was in another small town bar and while I was "white," the guy I started playing pool with a black fella. The locals, as one stopped doing everything and just looked at me.

I was in a bar in a big city and the locals were latinos who didn't like a gringo was in "their" bar. I was in another big bar, different location again and this time it wasn't me, but some local guys stopped in the bar who never went there before. The people running the bar didn't recognize them neither, but as soon as the two guys held each other's hands, the bartender came over themself to bring their drinks, smiled and said "drink up! the drinks are on the house, we just provided you drinks as we are legally required to, so then you can now get the fuck out now." They didn't bother drinking their drinks and just left. I didn't blame them, the drinks were probably spiked.

I was in another small town bar and it was down south, well up south compared to where I am now. The guys didn't like it I was making better time with the local girls. I wasn't also a neanderthal like one guy who said "a woman's place is in a home watching after kids" I said "I believe that too", but then I added "if she wants to." The girl we were both trying to impress, just smiled at me big time. That guy tried to run me off the road when I was on a bicycle. Also tried to put a stick in my back tire while his brother was driving their car. Somehow I managed to evade all of that and managed over to the sheriff's station. I made a complaint against bother guys, and found out they were off duty sheriffs.

I was in a big bar, different northern location again, and someone didn't like the way I was talking or some such. It probably had something to do with my making better time with the local girls. All I know is, when I was driving home, I spotted a tire whizzing by me. It also looked kinda familiar. Apparently, someone had taken off the lugs off of one of my rear tires.

There are many other stories. I've lived in over forty different places in my adult life and another 20 or so in my youth. One factor is always the same, if nobody knows you, they act like assholes. Hell, they sometimes act like assholes even if they do know you. I can always depend on one person, my-self.

Big city, small town, northern, southern, western, eastern, white, black, spanish, all the same. They don't know you, they are gonna fuck with ya one way or the other. None are safe.

 

[LWulf]

oh my gosh, did I break the thread???

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I'm going to be a tad late in the morning so like any good and responsible OP I thought I would put out my topic a little early. Better early than late, isn't that how the sayings go.

Interesting topic I heard today went something like this: where is it better to walk into a bar all by yourself? a big city where people come and go all the time so the fact that you aren't a regular is no big deal or in a small town with a tiny tavern where it's clear "you ain't from around these parts".

Is it safer in a small town or do they just do a better job of the cover up?

Eh, either or. The places I go to people tend to know me. That's a nice feeling. Like I'm Norm from Cheers.

 

[BlackCashmere]

Eh, either or. The places I go to people tend to know me. That's a nice feeling. Like I'm Norm from Cheers.

And you are a much cuter Norm...

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

And you are a much cuter Norm...

Awww you're sweet!

 

[Bookishleigh]

I'm going to be a tad late in the morning so like any good and responsible OP I thought I would put out my topic a little early. Better early than late, isn't that how the sayings go.

Interesting topic I heard today went something like this: where is it better to walk into a bar all by yourself? a big city where people come and go all the time so the fact that you aren't a regular is no big deal or in a small town with a tiny tavern where it's clear "you ain't from around these parts".

Is it safer in a small town or do they just do a better job of the cover up?

If I'm going to a bar by myself I don't really care if it's in a big city or small town - I just want a nice, quiet(ish) pub environment so I can read my book in peace.

There's a fantastic place called Books and Brew here that really does promote reading - it's becoming my new favorite place when I'm not quite ready to come home to an empty apartment but don't want to spend time with anyone either.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

If I'm going to a bar by myself I don't really care if it's in a big city or small town - I just want a nice, quiet(ish) pub environment so I can read my book in peace.

There's a fantastic place called Books and Brew here that really does promote reading - it's becoming my new favorite place when I'm not quite ready to come home to an empty apartment but don't want to spend time with anyone either.

Now that sounds like a damn cool place. Anything combined with driving King is usually a winner for me.

 

[ChainedUp]

Holiday weekend, that's deserving of a late start, isn't it?

When you need to get away, unplug, recharge, where do you go? And does it last or does it only last until the next thing in life that adds stress? Can you really manage stress in such a way to reduce it or do you just adjust to its impact on you? Maybe those are both the same thing?

I better go put on my thinking cap.

 

[LWulf]

I come to Lit to unplug, relieve stress and recharge...

...I'm a dead man.

 

[DarkSimian]

I go to Tahiti....it's a magical place

 

[Katie_80]

I watch movies, binge watch tv series, play on lit, take a long bath....anything to get out of my head. I'm obsessive about eeeeeverything so I try to escape my over thinking brain.

 

[Mindfondler]

When you need to get away, unplug, recharge, where do you go? And does it last or does it only last until the next thing in life that adds stress? Can you really manage stress in such a way to reduce it or do you just adjust to its impact on you? Maybe those are both the same thing?

I go for a run. Sometimes I just keep running until I feel the physical need to stop. I find that it's a great way for me to escape temporarily from the burdens of the past and the anxieties about the future by immersing myself fully in my feelings and thoughts of the present.

Unfortunately, the escape from stress rarely lasts for long after I return. I'm not lucky enough to experience huge endorphin hits. I've had a few bouts of mild euphoria during a long (17+ mile) run, but nothing that justifies the run by itself. For me, the more noticeable up-side in the long run D) is the physical conditioning that it gives me, which I believe makes it considerably more healthy than many other measures that people resort to as a counter to anxiety and stress.
.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Holiday weekend, that's deserving of a late start, isn't it?

When you need to get away, unplug, recharge, where do you go? And does it last or does it only last until the next thing in life that adds stress? Can you really manage stress in such a way to reduce it or do you just adjust to its impact on you? Maybe those are both the same thing?

I better go put on my thinking cap.

If I wanted to get away, I'd go to Hawaii - Maui to be exact. I don't need to physically remove myself to *escape* most days, I can live inside my head and be perfectly happy.

My life and job are pretty stressful. It's fast paced and there is no opportunity to raise your hand to get off the ride in the middle of it. I do however, make it a point to relieve stress any way I can. Stress affects the body in harmful ways and at the end of the day, one has to take care of themselves before they can take care of others.

Life is too short not to enjoy it. It sounds preachy, but it changes so fast that I intend to enjoy it as much as I can.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Holiday weekend, that's deserving of a late start, isn't it?

When you need to get away, unplug, recharge, where do you go? And does it last or does it only last until the next thing in life that adds stress? Can you really manage stress in such a way to reduce it or do you just adjust to its impact on you? Maybe those are both the same thing?

I better go put on my thinking cap.

Play some guitar, play some Xbox, go see a movie, go see a show, spend some time someplace new, hit up some old friends. Basically just relax and shift gears.

 

[ChainedUp]

A simple question:

Who will you remember this weekend?

 

[Azuldrgon]

A simple question:

Who will you remember this weekend?

I remember my dad. He's still on my mind after almost five years.
I'll remember the men I served with.
I'll remember my best friend's dad who served many years in the Corp.

That's good for now from a personal standpoint.
For those who served, thank you.

 

[LWulf]

I have an uncle who died on the Arizona.

There are others who served, but they came back and I'll remember them on Veterans day

 

[BlueEyedGent]

I try to remind myself on a consistent basis , not just a patriotic holiday... that our Freedom in America is never free.

Thank you to the brave soldiers , men and women, who have fought for our country...who have protected us...who have been injured ...who have died for us...

To the families who have lost an American Hero...your loved one did not die in vain....for we Americans will always remember and never forget the sacrifices they made for us.

Thank you for my freedom....

 

[ChainedUp]

One more quick hitter for the holiday weekend - would you rather be where you are, where you've been, or where you're headed?

 

[jezzilee]

One more quick hitter for the holiday weekend - would you rather be where you are, where you've been, or where you're headed?

At this very moment i am where i have been and ilove where im headed.

 

[Wife of Bath]

One more quick hitter for the holiday weekend - would you rather be where you are, where you've been, or where you're headed?

If I look back, I'm lost. I am happy where I am, but the future brims with exciting opportunities.

 

[beachbaby179]

Definitely where I'm headed. I'm not in a good place right now.

Unless you're being literal. I'm at the beach at the moment and there's no place in the world I love more.

 

[LWulf]

...The question is, would you change today for yesterday? Knowing what you know about yesterday, and not knowing much about today, are you willing to trade? What about today for tomorrow, and even less sure entity. Is the enemy you know better than the enemy you don't know? Or is the dream of a better tomorrow worth having today?

One more quick hitter for the holiday weekend - would you rather be where you are, where you've been, or where you're headed?

It suddenly feels like 'yesterday' all over again