Litiquette IV

[AKentuckyLady]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

My first instinct was to say "Yes". However, it's not friends or family holding me back, or my job - like BB, my job is stressful and comes with a lot of responsibility.

What holds me back is self-preservation, a sense of independence. I can't put my life into someone else's hands. As recently as January, I was given this choice - leave everything you know, come live with me in a different country, I'll give you everything you want or need, I'll take care of you in every way possible.

No. Fucking. Way.

There's a quote running around these days - "Don't be a woman that needs a man - be a woman that a man needs.". I pretty much live by this.

 

[Trekka]

Not even a consideration. Without my kids there is no "happier."

Agreed.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

Nope. All that glitters is not gold and all that crap. I worked very hard and went through awful shit to get to where I'm at now, this fragile balance of happiness. While I know I could be happier, I wouldn't want that handed to me. Sometimes it's about the pain before the pleasure....

Now I'm starting to sound like a sadist or masochist or whatever.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

My first impression was it sure sounds like an invitation to join a cult.

I actually made that decision twenty years ago - walked away from almost every thing and everyone and just restarted my life because I wasn't in a good place. My default feeling these days is simple happiness.

For me to accept the offer there would have to be a lot more specifics, simply because I am pretty happy as is. For me, it would be trading one form of happiness for another, which would be a more nuanced negotiation.

 

[LWulf]

Could I? yes, in a heart beat, in fact I've tried a few times before.
Would I? No, for two reasons.
First, I highly doubt anyone that comes along and says they have a miracle cure all.
Second, I'll describe it as "river rock" syndrome, which was a concept that an ex-cop/ex-drug addict turned motivational speaker essentially spoke about.

He explained it as, when you are in a river that has rapids, it's a lot like life. Sometimes, you get tossed around, battered and such. When you come across a rock in the river, it's a moment of safety and security, even though you might still get battered up against the rock, you cling to it, desperate not to let go. Even if you're told that a little further down the river, the rapids end. You fear that things will only get worse, so you instead cling to the rock.

The point is, my life isn't perfect, but it's also not that bad. Everything has a trade off.

 

[LWulf]

Nope. All that glitters is not gold and all that crap. ...

All is not gold that glitters,
all that is pure; divine,
follow your mo-other's teachings,
and happiness, will, be thine
Will be thine!

Gods, I love that old barbershop quartet song.

 

[Trekka]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

In addition...

1- why bother power-washing? i think the smut really jazzes the place up.

2- upon closer inspection of this question -- i have traded in one life for another. i am happier. but i did it of my own accord. and it took a lot of work-- in fact it's a work in progress, like everything. but it's work i gotta do myself.

suspending belief, if someone showed up with a magic wand? i'd still want to go through the process of doing the work myself.

i agree with FD. no pain no gain.

and pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

 

[rubydlite]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

If it wasn't for my kids...yes. but my kids are a deal breaker.

 

[Lord Pmann]

No. I've got a nice life. All things aren't perfect, but that does make life interesting. Right now, there is really only one big thing I would change about my life. Other than that, I can't imagine switching.

 

[ElasticMermaid]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

Yes. My family would understand.

 

[DarkSimian]

http://66.media.tumblr.com/83840ed72ccbdc87d4b39896588b45df/tumblr_o4470jgW5c1utdgeco1_1280.jpg

I'm putting this on MY bucket list!

 

[DarkSimian]

I almost said "in a heartbeat ". I'm getting divorced, I have a really stressful job. But no. I'd have to leave behind my friends and siblings and kids. So that's a paradox. Unless you use the Men in Black little flashy thing to make me forget. I could never leave the people I cherish. I couldn't possibly be happy.

I agree with you; I'm in the same boat with the divorce and job situation. But I have built a life, such as it is, and I've worked hard, sacrificed, to have what I have. To let it all go and leave it behind would make everything that came before seem....hollow, and empty.

But there are mornings, when I dream of a beach, somewhere.....where the sand is warm, the drinks are cold, the sunscreen is plentiful, and she is all mine

 

[tnman03]

My first impression was it sure sounds like an invitation to join a cult.

I actually made that decision twenty years ago - walked away from almost every thing and everyone and just restarted my life because I wasn't in a good place. My default feeling these days is simple happiness.

For me to accept the offer there would have to be a lot more specifics, simply because I am pretty happy as is. For me, it would be trading one form of happiness for another, which would be a more nuanced negotiation.

Pretty much parallels my own experience and I've no desire to submit myself to another's whims and wishes. Overall I'd say it sounds good at face value and thanks but no thanks.

 

[jezzilee]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

Absolutely not. My life is far from perfect but I am probably the happiest I have been in a really long time.

 

[ChainedUp]

Will you ever have that fantasy that's deep within your mind, the one that through it all, is always there? Is that fantasy best left as just that, a fantasy? Why hasn't it faded, why does it still excite you? Will you ever actively pursue it or will it only happen if fate allows? So many questions for a Sunday morning.

 

[yellowrocket]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

If I told you that I could make you significantly more happy than you are right now, happier with every aspect of your life but told you that to achieve this happiness you had to walk away from your life as you know it, would you take the swap? Could you trade in one life for another?

No. I am who I am because of the bad stuff I've been through. It's left me strong enough to not break in my darkest moments. The fellowship I have with my brothers is a bond said to not be replicated anywhere else.

 

[RacyRedLips]

Saunters in, power washer in hand. This could be an all day job.

Gosh darnit! Fashionably late, as always.

 

[jezzilee]

Will ever have that fantasy that's deep within your mind, the one that through it all, is always there? Is that fantasy best left as just that, a fantasy? Why hasn't it faded, why does it still excite you? Will you ever actively pursue it or will it only happen if fate allows? So many questions for a Sunday morning.

You're kind of nosey aren't you?

Some of my fantasies have been realized. Some of them have not. Some have morphed into something different from which they started. I have one that I have never shared with anyone. Will I? Who knows? Why does it excite me? It's taboo. Will I pursue it? When the time is right...the stars align in just the right way, yes. I will.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Mmm, pain and suffering.... you just described my weekend.... in a good way

 

[rubydlite]

Will you ever have that fantasy that's deep within your mind, the one that through it all, is always there? Is that fantasy best left as just that, a fantasy? Why hasn't it faded, why does it still excite you? Will you ever actively pursue it or will it only happen if fate allows? So many questions for a Sunday morning.

Oh I want it...I'll get it eventually. ..and if I could figure out why it excited me I'd be a therapist! I haven't done this much self reflection and inner work to ignore what makes me tick.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Oh I want it...I'll get it eventually. ..and if I could figure out why it excited me I'd be a therapist! I haven't done this much self reflection and inner work to ignore what makes me tick.

Hey, I'm pretty sure midget clown bukakke fantasies are plenty common. Don't deny yourself. When they hop out of that tiny clown car for you, just spread 'em.

 

[rubydlite]

Hey, I'm pretty sure midget clown bukakke fantasies are plenty common. Don't deny yourself. When they hop out of that tiny clown car for you, just spread 'em.

Me and my red foam nose will be ready, don't you worry!

 

[ChainedUp]

Hopefully wveryine has recovered from the weekend. Maybe you had a nice, relaxed casual weekend, maybe you were on the go, go, go. But whichever it was, or combination, it's now back to Monday. Maybe it's summer now for you, kids home, no more school, changing up your daily routine.

The question is, would you change today for yesterday? Knowing what you know about yesterday, and not knowing much about today, are you willing to trade? What about today for tomorrow, and even less sure entity. Is the enemy you know better than the enemy you don't know? Or is the dream of a better tomorrow worth having today?

 

[beachbaby179]

Nah. Take it as it comes. Always a surprise, always an adventure.

 

[Lord Pmann]

No, not today for yesterday. Maybe today for Saturday.

There are certainly times when I wish I could go back and redo days. Either to experience them again or to redo some stuff. I know that's not really possible until I am able to get my time machine up and running, and that's at least six months away.