Litiquette IV

[All_4_Love]

If you say it in a gruff, gravelly voice, while wearing a cape and cowl, it will come off much more believable

I'm gonna have to find a way to carry these items around, so they are readily available. Seriously, I hear the "you're too sensitive" stuff all of the time!

Now, please don't ask me how many times I've been accused of being batshit crazy. That's a little too personal.

 

[DarkSimian]

I'm gonna have to find a way to carry these items around, so they are readily available. Seriously, I hear the "you're too sensitive" stuff all of the time!

Now, please don't ask me how many times I've been accused of being batshit crazy. That's a little too personal.

now all you need is a young side kick and a cool car, and you're in business!

 

[Azuldrgon]

What's the difference for you between being in touch with your feelings vs being emotional. I've always viewed emotion as a good thing, reveals passion and desire. Without it, life seems to be a cold fish approach. But contrasted, too much emotion makes life pretty difficult to wade through.

Being in touch with your feelings to me means you can be sensitive to others when necessary. There's is nothing unmanly about being able to be sensitive no matter what society seems to think.

On the other hand, being emotional means you are too sensitive about a topic, an issue or whatever. In society, emotional equals bad. It makes it seem like you are not in control of yourself and that you are unstable. In reality, we are all human and we all have emotions. It is not wrong to cry when it is needful. It is not wrong to be angry although taking it out on property is probably not in your best interest. There is nothing wrong with being emotional. There is something wrong with not allowing the emotions to flow naturally.

Would being too far one way or the other be enough for you to end a relationship?

This depends on the relationship. My wife was very passionate when we first started dating. You could tell her emotions very easily. Through all the things we have gone through over our time being married, she has learned to keep her emotions in check more. This came in handy a few years ago when I lost my dad and she had to be my rock. Nowadays, I'm the emotional wreck and she's the rock.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Thank you! I finally have a diagnosis! Next time someone tells me I'm too sensitive. I'm gonna look right at them, do the eye squint, and say "No! I'm batshit crazy!!!" Then, I'm gonna snarl. Or growl. Or grunt. Something to make it look authentic.

You're welcome. I don't even charge for my diagnosis.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Barely lunch and people are already talking about kicking me in the giblets. My nuts are popular.

And, Pmann... being "overly" emotional does not make someone batshit crazy. Just the same as being logical versus emotional doesn't mean someone doesn't have emotions.

Being batshit crazy makes someone batshit crazy. It has nothing to do with being ruled by either logic or emotion. Some of the most brilliant, logical minds in history could be people deemed batshit crazy.

I don't know. We have to agree to disagree. Because I do think someone who, for the most part, can't be in control of the way the react to situations to be batshit crazy.

Some internet dictionary defines crazy as:

Mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.

Oxford defines batshit as:

Extreme emotional swings. A term usually combined with crazy or insane to indicate an overwhelming amount of emotion or feeling.

It's that wild and aggressive way. The crying and the temper tantrums. If one can't control their emotions and react proportionally to a situation more often than not, then they need to check their emotions. Hopefully to limit the batshit crazy part.

 

[Little_Sister]

Not true. No way. Because, Slash from Guns N Roses. Also, cowboys. *meow*

I prefer my cowboys in jeans and a baseball hat. They also have to have a truck bigger than mine. No pointy toed boots either. I have cowboy rules.

I know it's early to derail a thread but I really wanna talk more about men in leather pants. They make me feel... Emotions.

If those are emotions... I am the most emotional person here.

I tend to be turned off by overly emotional people. Men, in particular. It's exhausting for me to deal with an overabundance of feelings.

And I suppose there's an element of being attracted to a man who keeps a strong upper lip and all of that. I agree that being too far the other way isn't good either - I don't like emotionless cyborgs. But I would be more turned off by a man who is ruled by his emotions. That is probably true for my female friendships, as well.

This. I totally agree with Sexy Suzy, here. Too many emotions will get you friend zoned, esp on lit. Lets be real. I am here to flirt and have fun and sometimes.. get off. I really dont want the other stuff. I have that at home with my very own man child when he feels like I am not paying him enough attention.

Last night he was all "Good of you to finally notice me" thank god it was dark so he didn't see my eyes nearly roll out of my head. He is very possessive of my time and attention but when it is me, paying attention to my kids, OUR kids, that he gets jealous over... ugh.



Unlike A4L, no one has ever told me I am too sensitive. Does that mean I am B??

 

[All_4_Love]

Barely lunch and people are already talking about kicking me in the giblets. My nuts are popular.



I don't know. We have to agree to disagree. Because I do think someone who, for the most part, can't be in control of the way the react to situations to be batshit crazy.

Some internet dictionary defines crazy as:

Mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.

Oxford defines batshit as:

Extreme emotional swings. A term usually combined with crazy or insane to indicate an overwhelming amount of emotion or feeling.

It's that wild and aggressive way. The crying and the temper tantrums. If one can't control their emotions and react proportionally to a situation more often than not, then they need to check their emotions. Hopefully to limit the batshit crazy part.

Okay, on a serious note, we don't have to disagree. I just think there's confusion between what I see as being very emotional and what you see, which is actually emotional instability.

Pmann, I'm emotional to the extreme. It's the depth of feeling. It's something that can hardly be articulated because it's emotions. Some things can't ever be explained. Hence, the most beautiful of poetry, or art, or music.

And funny as it seems, in my experience, it's the ones who suppress their emotions that end up expressing them in unstable ways. In other words, they deny their feelings to begin with, and like a volcano, they have no choice but to erupt.

Anyhow... (hugs)

 

[Paul_Chance]

Ahhhh, emotions.

McCoy: "Some people that never talk about their feelings got 'em deeper than anybody. Other people never talk about their feelings 'cause they ain't got any." (Bonus points if you can name the movie.)

Emotional stability matters in a relationship. If I find myself in a relationship where my partner is emotionally unstable - where they have inappropriate emotional responses or emotional responses far out of the normal range, well, for me, that is the death knell. If it's temporary due to circumstances, such as a significant life/death event and they're working through it, then I'll stand by them and weather the storm. If it's just the way they live - then I'm out. I've been in relationships with an emotionally unstable person and it's a quiet (or not so quiet) form of hell, never knowing "who" is going to be waiting for you when you walk through the door is no way to live.

As for me, I'm an emotionally stable person - I have 'em, I experience and express them, but they're appropriate in both the timing and range. I've been accused of being unemotional, but that comes from a general life philosophy strongly influenced by Buddhism and it's kissing cousin from the west, Stoicism. I tend to roll with life's punches and so far, I've always come back up swinging.

Life, in general, can be a rough trip and no one gets through it without suffering and loss, what the Buddhists call "The Ocean of Tears". Once you understand that, and you realize it isn't personal, it's just the way it is, then the emotional reactions subside and you end up back at your own center soon enough when you experience traumatic events.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Okay, on a serious note, we don't have to disagree. I just think there's confusion between what I see as being very emotional and what you see, which is actually emotional instability.

Pmann, I'm emotional to the extreme. It's the depth of feeling. It's something that can hardly be articulated because it's emotions. Some things can't ever be explained. Hence, the most beautiful of poetry, or art, or music.

And funny as it seems, in my experience, it's the ones who suppress their emotions that end up expressing them in unstable ways. In other words, they deny their feelings to begin with, and like a volcano, they have no choice but to erupt.

Anyhow... (hugs)

Why are you trying to force your hugs on me? Am I gonna have to blow my hug whistle?

 

[Scout44]

Why are you trying to force your hugs on me? Am I gonna have to blow my hug whistle?

Somebody needs a group hug...

 

[Suz_anne]

Just refer to hugs as boobie squishes and Pmann will be the huggiest hugger you've ever hugged.

 

[Scout44]

Just refer to hugs as boobie squishes and Pmann will be the huggiest hugger you've ever hugged.

That is a valid point

 

[All_4_Love]

Why are you trying to force your hugs on me? Am I gonna have to blow my hug whistle?

*grumbles*

Uhh...if you blow your hug whistle on me, I'm gonna take out my feelings stick and beat you like a pinata!

 

[Little_Sister]

*grumbles*

Uhh...if you blow your hug whistle on me, I'm gonna take out my feelings stick and beat you like a pinata!

I totally support this. That sounds hot.

 

[All_4_Love]

I totally support this. That sounds hot.

I've always heard girls that were batshit crazy were supposed to be hot.

 

[Lord Pmann]

No one is hitting me with a feelings stick or any of that nonsense. I've got feelings. I just like to be in control of them.

I always hear girls talking about boobiesquishes. While I have no idea what the fuck that is, it sounds better than a forced hug.

 

[Trekka]

My man will hug me on demand for as long as I need it, no questions asked, and it's one of the many reasons I'm crazy about him.

Sometimes I'm reasonably emotional. Sometimes I lose my shit. What can I say? I'm human.

 

[All_4_Love]

My man will hug me on demand for as long as I need it, no questions asked, and it's one of the many reasons I'm crazy about him.

Sometimes I'm reasonably emotional. Sometimes I lose my shit. What can I say? I'm human.

Heh... I love it.

 

[Trekka]

Heh... I love it.

He gives the best hugs

 

[Lord Pmann]

Perhaps some good advice for the more sensitive among us:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unkIVvjZc9Y

This was sent to me some time back by an Aussie friend. I love this video.

 

[Suz_anne]

I shave my lady bits with bowie knife. Does that make me hard?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I shave my lady bits with bowie knife. Does that make me hard?

*swoon*

 

[Little_Sister]

He gives the best hugs

If I ask for a hug, hubs says "Hug only, keep your hands above my belt " stupid, hug rules. I mean really, what fun is a hug with no groping? I totally playfully grope/ass slap, my girlfriends when I hug them too.

 

[Suz_anne]

If I ask for a hug, hubs says "Hug only, keep your hands above my belt " stupid, hug rules. I mean really, what fun is a hug with no groping? I totally playfully grope/ass slap, my girlfriends when I hug them too.

It's official, your husband is crazy.

 

[Trekka]

I mean really, what fun is a hug with no groping? I totally playfully grope/ass slap, my girlfriends when I hug them too.

Hey you... C'mere