Litiquette IV

[ChainedUp]

Oh the pressure............

Steps to the plate, big, heavy bat in hand. Lifts it, pointing to something, somewhere......and grins slightly.

Imagery is so powerful. There are those that believe visualization help make the moment be just as you see it. Both are pretty important for phone sex. But do you need them. Do you need your partner to paint rheum age for you or is just being with them in the moment good enough.

And as a follow up, if you finally met you phone sex mate but the physical sex did not live up to expectations, could you go back to phone sex with them?

 

[Amalgamation]

Oh the pressure............

Steps to the plate, big, heavy bat in hand. Lifts it, pointing to something, somewhere......and grins slightly.

Imagery is so powerful. There are those that believe visualization help make the moment be just as you see it. Both are pretty important for phone sex. But do you need them. Do you need your partner to paint rheum age for you or is just being with them in the moment good enough.

And as a follow up, if you finally met you phone sex mate but the physical sex did not live up to expectations, could you go back to phone sex with them?

Hmmm. Ok, so in the rare occasions that I have had phone sex, I've already had pictures, so the visualization aspect was covered. In the moment of phone sex, I know enough about my partner that she is all that I need. No matter how it goes, I can picture her and imagine her reactions without seeing her. I would have already decided that she was enough, or we would not be engaging in phone sex at all. There has to be sufficient connection.

As to your second question, I don't think I would want to go back. I would rather keep working on the physical aspect, so that we could eliminate the fantasy and focus on crafting an amazing reality. Not that the fantasy isn't important, but sometimes it can hurt the actual experience if it doesn't measure up.

 

[Endless_Night]

I don’t know that imagery and visualization are important.

My phone sex experience has been limited to kink play, a way to work out my D/s needs. For me, it’s more about the mental finesse, the ability to seduce me to the point where I want to hand over control. Even then it can be tricky to stay in a state of compliance. I want, crave the control, but I also resent and am embarrassed by it. It all requires a rather elaborate dance, where intellectual engagement is key. Otherwise I just bolt at the drop of a hat.

Not that pretty visuals aren’t nice, but it’s the little thrill of fear I get from capitulation that revs my motor.

Of course all that^ may just be specific to my particular style of submission. I’ve have yet to explore my interest in consensual non-consent. In that case imagery and visualization might reign supreme.

Hmmm. I suspect that moderate or bad physical sex would probably kill the great phone sex. Though, considering how much I hate to give up on things I’d probably continue to try, at least for bit.

 

[Little_Sister]

Oh the pressure............

Steps to the plate, big, heavy bat in hand. Lifts it, pointing to something, somewhere......and grins slightly.

Imagery is so powerful. There are those that believe visualization help make the moment be just as you see it. Both are pretty important for phone sex. But do you need them. Do you need your partner to paint rheum age for you or is just being with them in the moment good enough.

And as a follow up, if you finally met you phone sex mate but the physical sex did not live up to expectations, could you go back to phone sex with them?

There is no good way to answer this question.

Yes, I need to be physically turned on by the person I am playing with. I also need to be turned on by their voice if we are voicing. If those two things don't happen, I will never finish. No, them just wanting it is not good enough to get me off.

Bad sex would not lead to more cyber play. The bad sex would stick with me. A long time ago I had a friend I played with. One time our playtime kinda sucked. Well it sucked a lot as he was the only one to get off. He was in a hurry to get off because he had somewhere to be. It was our last time. I never could get past it.

 

[Amalgamation]

There is no good way to answer this question.

Yes, I need to be physically turned on by the person I am playing with. I also need to be turned on by their voice if we are voicing. If those two things don't happen, I will never finish. No, them just wanting it is not good enough to get me off.

Bad sex would not lead to more cyber play. The bad sex would stick with me. A long time ago I had a friend I played with. One time our playtime kinda sucked. Well it sucked a lot as he was the only one to get off. He was in a hurry to get off because he had somewhere to be. It was our last time. I never could get past it.

I think there is a way back from bad cyber or phone, just because it can't be great everytime. It just takes more work to get back to that point.

 

[Little_Sister]

I think there is a way back from bad cyber or phone, just because it can't be great every time. It just takes more work to get back to that point.

I disagree. That's like saying sex can't be great every time. It can be great if you put in the work to make it great. That said, all it takes for sex to be great for me is us both getting off. I don't need a 10 minute marathon, but I need to cum.

For the record, I am not talking about RP PMs that are drawn out over a few days but good old fashion skype or kik cybering.

 

[Amalgamation]

I disagree. That's like saying sex can't be great every time. It can be great if you put in the work to make it great. That said, all it takes for sex to be great for me is us both getting off. I don't need a 10 minute marathon, but I need to cum.

For the record, I am not talking about RP PMs that are drawn out over a few days but good old fashion skype or kik cybering.

I guess I'm looking at this differently. Someone that I am willing to cyber or phone with is someone into which I am invested. So, a sucky interaction would not dissuade me, because I am invested in the person. I'm odd in that fashion. Then again, in those kinds of interactions, I could care less about my own orgasm. I want to do evil deeds to cause yours...err...whoever she is.

 

[Little_Sister]

I guess I'm looking at this differently. Someone that I am willing to cyber or phone with is someone into which I am invested. So, a sucky interaction would not dissuade me, because I am invested in the person. I'm odd in that fashion. Then again, in those kinds of interactions, I could care less about my own orgasm. I want to do evil deeds to cause yours...err...whoever she is.

My motives for cybering are not nearly as altruistic as yours.

 

[Amalgamation]

My motives for cybering are not nearly as altruistic as yours.

I'm just strange. Comes with the package.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Oh the pressure............

Steps to the plate, big, heavy bat in hand. Lifts it, pointing to something, somewhere......and grins slightly.

Imagery is so powerful. There are those that believe visualization help make the moment be just as you see it. Both are pretty important for phone sex. But do you need them. Do you need your partner to paint rheum age for you or is just being with them in the moment good enough.

And as a follow up, if you finally met you phone sex mate but the physical sex did not live up to expectations, could you go back to phone sex with them?

Too many words can be as dangerous in phone sex as too few. Sitting here on this beautiful California morning thinking about it - it's a good question. Being in the moment sure helps and in terms of the content, good phone sex needs several things - the right voice (just like physical attraction, I think there is a level of aural chemistry - pitch and tone in the sweet spot - that serves to arouse people.

Then, you need to have the right rhythm that works for both (either one after another, or alternating exchanges). Feedback as appropriate so you don't wonder if you're talking to yourself while they went off to get a cheese sandwich. It's a regular performance art form.

As for going back to phone sex if it physically didn't work - I could (and have). I think of phone sex as it's own act. Just like if you have sex in person and one position is totally hot - but another position is not, I don't stop having sex because they have one bad position in their lineup.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Geesh....so quiet.

Imagery is nice, but not necessary all the time and for the whole time.
I'm a fan of a little imagery mixed in with some hot, dirty phone sex.
It's the tone of his voice and the sounds of pleasure that sneak from his lips that I find most erotic. The perfect balance of power and feedback between the two of us is what creates a hot play session. Commanding one another's attention, listening (or not) to instructions, the building up and then the sweet release of letting go. Sprinkle in some video of him stroking his cock for me or showing him how hard my nipples are and voila!

I'm certain the physical sex would live up to the expectation. Hands down.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Imagery is so powerful. There are those that believe visualization help make the moment be just as you see it. Both are pretty important for phone sex. But do you need them. Do you need your partner to paint rheum age for you or is just being with them in the moment good enough.

And as a follow up, if you finally met you phone sex mate but the physical sex did not live up to expectations, could you go back to phone sex with them?

I do think the visual plays a big part in the experience.
When i talk about gently biting a pet's nipples, I want to imagine the taste of her skin, the gentle intake of breath as she reacts, etc.
Sometimes, in the moment works, especially when my voice makes them climax....I love that part.

As for part two, rarely does fantasy match up to the actual. I would take the opportunity to enjoy what we have, then return to the fantasy as long as they want to. Obviously, if it didn't live up to mine, it is possible it didn't live up to hers either.

 

[ChainedUp]

Ebb and flow, there certainly is a bit of that here. And always interesting to watch.

When you are out in public and you see a couple pushing the boundaries of affection, where it seems something a little more is about to happen, are you the type that watches to see it, or do you turn and give them their semi-privacy. Would it matter if you knew they saw you watching? Would you be turned on or embarassed if they gave you a little show? Is it PDA when they are practically having sex or is it just a kink?

 

[rubydlite]

Ebb and flow, there certainly is a bit of that here. And always interesting to watch.

When you are out in public and you see a couple pushing the boundaries of affection, where it seems something a little more is about to happen, are you the type that watches to see it, or do you turn and give them their semi-privacy. Would it matter if you knew they saw you watching? Would you be turned on or embarassed if they gave you a little show? Is it PDA when they are practically having sex or is it just a kink?

Displays of PDA freak me out...for two reasons. One I get so embarassed and two I get envious. The embarrassing part is that i automatically think of him telling her something like...'kiss me right now in front of everyone'...or 'this is my ass and i'll grab it when i want' type of deal.
The envious part of me loves that the world dissappears for those people when they see each other. It's like a train wreck for me...I shouldn't watch but I can't stop myself.

 

[Suz_anne]

Ebb and flow, there certainly is a bit of that here. And always interesting to watch.

When you are out in public and you see a couple pushing the boundaries of affection, where it seems something a little more is about to happen, are you the type that watches to see it, or do you turn and give them their semi-privacy. Would it matter if you knew they saw you watching? Would you be turned on or embarassed if they gave you a little show? Is it PDA when they are practically having sex or is it just a kink?

It depends. If I find the couple appealing (which can come from a wide variety of factors, not just conventional physical attractive traits) , then I very much enjoy being a voyeur to their PDA. I'm envious, I'm excited, I'm thinking about where it's leading, what wound them up before they got here, their story in general... all of that.

But if the couple doesn't appeal to me, then I'm thinking "Ugh, get a room. No one wants to see that shit!"

And as a side note, I always love seeing an older couple being affectionate. I saw a couple who appeared to be in their 70's at the grocery and the man put his hand on her butt and kissed her cheek after putting something in their cart. My heart melted and I thought "You go get some, grandpa." Completely adorable.

 

[Lord Pmann]

And as a side note, I always love seeing an older couple being affectionate. I saw a couple who appeared to be in their 70's at the grocery and the man put his hand on her butt and kissed her cheek after putting something in their cart. My heart melted and I thought "You go get some, grandpa." Completely adorable.

A sea of grey and wrinkles and broken bones... Hawt.

I'm not really a voyeur. Unless I expect to see someone getting a blowie or maybe some boob. I don't care to see random people kiss.

I wouldn't mind being watched though. Maybe one day my wife won't wear a blindfold. Hasn't happened yet. But I bet she will one day!

 

[ViciousTease]

Ebb and flow, there certainly is a bit of that here. And always interesting to watch.

When you are out in public and you see a couple pushing the boundaries of affection, where it seems something a little more is about to happen, are you the type that watches to see it, or do you turn and give them their semi-privacy?

I watch. Well, if they are adults. When teenagers are making out it kind of grosses me out. But two consenting adults who are so focused on each other that the rest of the world fades into the background? Hotness!

Would it matter if you knew they saw you watching?

Not in the least.

Would you be turned on or embarassed if they gave you a little show?

Turned on.

Is it PDA when they are practically having sex or is it just a kink?

PDA, in my opinion, is more like kissing or a butt grab. If it's more than that, it falls into the kink category for me. Of course, watching is my kink of choice so I have no problem with that. Carry on, pervs!

 

[Lord Pmann]

PDA, in my opinion, is more like kissing or a butt grab. If it's more than that, it falls into the kink category for me. Of course, watching is my kink of choice so I have no problem with that. Carry on, pervs!

Dirty girl! You probably even like watching people fuck on camera. Ewwww!!!!

 

[ViciousTease]

Dirty girl! You probably even like watching people fuck on camera. Ewwww!!!!

Gosh, I don't know. Send me a home video and I'll let you know.

 

[DarkSimian]

Gosh, I don't know. Send me a home video and I'll let you know.

come over, and we can set up my video camera, then watch it and see

 

[Little_Sister]

I love to watch PDA and will openly stare. I love to watch, so yeah.

I have a love-hate relationship with PDA personally tho.

Hubs is not super affectionate if he is somewhere he feels safe, home, at a family get together, etc. He rarely even kisses me good bye it the morning, or when he gets home from work.

Put us in a bar, where there are other men and he is ALL.OVER.ME. Anytime his friends are around, whatever. His hands are under my shirt on my back, like he will push up the back of my shirt and always keep his hand on my bare skin. Always, kissing me, touching me, and damn near peeing on my leg.

Do I like it.. Hell yeah, does it irritate the heck out of me because I know he is only doing it to make his claim, yep.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I love to watch PDA and will openly stare. I love to watch, so yeah.

I have a love-hate relationship with PDA personally tho.

Hubs is not super affectionate if he is somewhere he feels safe, home, at a family get together, etc. He rarely even kisses me good bye it the morning, or when he gets home from work.

Put us in a bar, where there are other men and he is ALL.OVER.ME. Anytime his friends are around, whatever. His hands are under my shirt on my back, like he will push up the back of my shirt and always keep his hand on my bare skin. Always, kissing me, touching me, and damn near peeing on my leg.

Do I like it.. Hell yeah, does it irritate the heck out of me because I know he is only doing it to make his claim, yep.

He should pee on your leg.

 

[rubydlite]

He should pee on your leg.

That's a whole other kink

 

[Trekka]

What's the big deal with PDAs? I don't mind seeing demonstrable affection, and if a couple is really going for it? That's amusing as hell. More power to them. I don't get particularly turned on or off. I guess I am PDA neutral.

I don't even really think about PDAs... If he touches or kisses me, that's lovely. I feel warm fuzzies. If I want to kiss my man, I kiss him.

I mean, I don't dry hump him on my parents' couch at Thanksgiving dinner or anything...

*Thinks* But if my brother did that with his girlfriend?! I'd be fucking howling! I imagine we'd start throwing turkey and stuffing at them, and it would make for a memorable family meal. It would be kinda awesome. I should talk to him about this.

 

[Lord Pmann]

*Thinks* But if my brother did that with his girlfriend?! I'd be fucking howling! I imagine we'd start throwing turkey and stuffing at them, and it would make for a memorable family meal. It would be kinda awesome. I should talk to him about this.

Sounds like you and LittleSister should talk.