Litiquette IV

[All_4_Love]

There's definitely an ebb and flow to confidence. So, I take the off days as they come and make an effort to be gentle and compassionate toward myself. It's a process, no doubt.

My early to mid 30s were pivotal years. That time was more of a realization of how important it was to my growth. It was a seek and you shall find thing at first. It was a deep knowing that something was missing, something was off. I was observing others whom I admired. I started paying attention. I began listening to the advice of others.

Then, I made the commitment to gain clarity, perseverance, and momentum. It was a time for discovering not only how to cultivate it, but also in deciding where I wanted to focus that energy, and how to do it authentically.

I learned that confidence and trust are like one and the same and that they must be built on a solid foundation. Destructive forces will come, often unexpectedly, both from the outside as well as from the inside, and they will rock you. That realization came from reflective knowledge.

I will do many things today that require confidence. No matter how important or even how trivial those things are, it seems to me that almost everything we do requires confidence.

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.

No...wait...

I know I can, I know I can, I know I can.

There, that's better.

 

[ChainedUp]

Kitty litter?

Only if you take responsibility for cleaning it

 

[may_I_please]

I can put it on my cleaners list (I don't do manual labour )

 

[may_I_please]

As for confidence, I've been confident since I was a kid ...with some people it's just innate

And confidence coupled with ability and endeavour breeds success which breeds more confidence

I probably took a slight step back as a young mum, when other areas took over and I was out of the workforce and carrying a little more weight than I was personally comfortable with. But getting my body back to the way I like it and getting strong and fit again has brought back a resurgence of my confidence

 

[DarkSimian]

every time I gain confidence, the universe reminds me why I suck. Some people think I'm a pessimist; I just got tired of fighting the inevitable

 

[All_4_Love]

every time I gain confidence, the universe reminds me why I suck. Some people think I'm a pessimist; I just got tired of fighting the inevitable

DS, the universe is not out to get you. It provides you with the same abundance as it does each and every one of us. You were created; therefore, it is your birthright.

"A man is but the product of his thoughts; what he thinks, he becomes" - Mahatma Gandhi

Nothing is inevitable, other than death. You can always change your mind about anything. (Hug)

 

[DarkSimian]

DS, the universe is not out to get you. It provides you with the same abundance as it does each and every one of us. You were created; therefore, it is your birthright.

"A man is but the product of his thoughts; what he thinks, he becomes" - Mahatma Gandhi

Nothing is inevitable, other than death. You can always change your mind about anything. (Hug)

no, I saw God, the Devil and Fate whispering, then point at me and laugh. It's a conspiracy, I tell ya.....

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sideways, left/right, back/forth, you'd swear yesterday was April Fools' day. I'm sure all you little pranksters will be out in full force. And apparently yesterday was Opposite Day. Learned about that one a little too late, that could have been fun.

What's that? A question? A topic? Oh yeah.

When in your life did you gain confidence? Everybody has a little confidence, even if they think they don't. Without confidence you couldn't function. While some people have a lot, and some not quite so much, everyone has it. But when did you first realize it? Did you know it at the time or is it reflective knowledge? And what will you do today that requires a confidence?

I've always been pretty confident. Shocker, right? I wasn't super shy ever, but I'm also not the most outgoing person in the world. I think I first realized it when I was in school and I was comfortable getting up talking in front of people. Maybe 4th grade or so. I realized other people were terrified. I didn't love it, but it didn't scare me. I felt like I knew my shit. "Fuck yeah, I know what a pueblo is, Miss Lowe." I did it without the profanity though. That would've gotten me in trouble.

I guess I sort of knew. I don't know that I knew it was confidence. But I knew it was different that I wasn't scared.

I don't think I have to do anything today that requires confidence.

I don't think I can point to a moment and say 'THAT is when I became confident'. I've always been confident and comfortable with myself and my abilities. There are moments of ebb and flow, of course, but generally I am a very confident person. I think it depends greatly on the childhood and educational environment.

You were given modly powers above all others. Of course you're confident. Oh, and large breasts. Double confidence booster.

Debating getting a new sandbox for people to play in

My apologies Papa Chained. My poor ass will ignore the cavernous cunt from here on out.

 

[Little_Sister]

#1- May!! I miss you.

#2- I feel the same way about yesterday on lit being the twilight zone. Bizarre things afoot at lit that I don't have the time or desire to deal with, add reading the Dear Litster drama, and I think we just need a do over day.

#3- My oldest told my littles it was a holiday, so they didn't have school today. So I got to deal with two crying, fit throwing littles when I made them go to school. Thinking of grounding the oldest for that headache.

#4- I got electrocuted by my wand this morning. Have a nice little burn on the inside of my thigh.

#5- Seriously considering crawling back in bed but I have to see the trainer at 12. Ugh.

#6- Confidence- I had that pre-kids. Now, not so much.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I had a Shetland pony growing up, that little fucker bucked me off more times than I can count. Or tried to rub me off on a tree or would just lay down. He was really smart, lazy and sweet. And I was a determined, full of energy and always a step ahead. My confidence came at the age of 3yo.

I'm quite comfortable in my skin, not perfect but beautifully flawed. Confident that I know where I want to go and how to get there. Not afraid to ask for help and have no problem standing up for what is near and dear to me.
What will I do today, who knows, it's only 10am. I'm working on a list.

 

[Amalgamation]

Confidence has not been an easy thing for me to come by. I won't go on a violin-laden history, but suffice it to say that I didn't begin coming into confidence until high school when I discovered my singing voice was thought by others to be special. Around that time, I also find out that I could write a little bit, and that I enjoyed sharing that with others. That confidence came from what others thought of me. My confidence in myself eventually came from knowing that I have something to offer, and that it's not my fault if no one else sees it or believes it. It's their loss.

 

[Amalgamation]

#1- May!! I miss you.

#2- I feel the same way about yesterday on lit being the twilight zone. Bizarre things afoot at lit that I don't have the time or desire to deal with, add reading the Dear Litster drama, and I think we just need a do over day.

#3- My oldest told my littles it was a holiday, so they didn't have school today. So I got to deal with two crying, fit throwing littles when I made them go to school. Thinking of grounding the oldest for that headache.

#4- I got electrocuted by my wand this morning. Have a nice little burn on the inside of my thigh.

#5- Seriously considering crawling back in bed but I have to see the trainer at 12. Ugh.

#6- Confidence- I had that pre-kids. Now, not so much.

Gotta love masturbatory injuries. Lol

 

[DarkSimian]

can I it and make it all better?

 

[All_4_Love]

no, I saw God, the Devil and Fate whispering, then point at me and laugh. It's a conspiracy, I tell ya.....

Hahaha! Damn them all! They've done that same thing to me too!

 

[All_4_Love]

I'm quite comfortable in my skin, not perfect but beautifully flawed. Confident that I know where I want to go and how to get there. Not afraid to ask for help and have no problem standing up for what is near and dear to me.

Beautifully said... *swoons*

 

[DarkSimian]

Hahaha! Damn them all! They've done that same thing to me too!

we need to form a club or something, to fight them....we could have a secret handshake, an initiation ritual, a clubhouse....

 

[Amalgamation]

we need to form a club or something, to fight them....we could have a secret handshake, an initiation ritual, a clubhouse....

This sounds like the makings of a glorious sex club.

 

[ViciousTease]

we need to form a club or something, to fight them....we could have a secret handshake, an initiation ritual, a clubhouse....

I suggest a pillow fort ... just sayin'.

 

[DarkSimian]

This sounds like the makings of a glorious sex club.

shhhh, I'm trying to get All 4 alone

 

[Endless_Night]

My confidence is not a steady thing, though it’s not really ebb and flow. Mine is sporadic. The result of a crappy childhood, I suspect. I left home underage, and proceeded to pick up confidence rapidly. Survival requires a certain amount. Success even more.

These days I’m confident. Some would say to an obnoxious extent. I’m even confident about things I suck at. Someone else can take care of that stuff.

But…there are still blips. My kink stuff is an example. It necessitates a complete flip on my usual behavior. Talk about a dearth of confidence! I’m slowly gaining ground, but it is rather like being dumped in a pool and told to learn how to swim.

 

[Amalgamation]

shhhh, I'm trying to get All 4 alone

You sly beast, you!

 

[Ubiquitious_too]

shhhh, I'm trying to get All 4 alone

Greed is a wonderful thing, huh?

 

[All_4_Love]

we need to form a club or something, to fight them....we could have a secret handshake, an initiation ritual, a clubhouse....

An initiation ritual, eh? I fell for that once in high school, the popular, pretty girls with all the boyfriends, damn them! Hehe

Anyway, it wasn't pretty, but that's how bad I wanted to be part of something and feel like I belonged. Because I thought just being shy little old me who wasn't part of a clique just wasn't good enough. Speaking of which, I know it's popular belief that shyness is an indicator of lack of confidence. I don't always believe that to be the case. It confuses me. I'm shy but I don't lack confidence.

Well, no...maybe I do. In social situations. As I said earlier, that's not where I chose to channel that energy. I guess because that doesn't bother me. *shrugs*

 

[Endless_Night]

Gotta love masturbatory injuries. Lol

LOL! This has never happened to me. Hmmm......

I suggest a pillow fort ... just sayin'.

A Princess fort?

Nice sig, VT.

 

[ViciousTease]

Sideways, left/right, back/forth, you'd swear yesterday was April Fools' day. I'm sure all you little pranksters will be out in full force. And apparently yesterday was Opposite Day. Learned about that one a little too late, that could have been fun.

What's that? A question? A topic? Oh yeah.

When in your life did you gain confidence? Everybody has a little confidence, even if they think they don't. Without confidence you couldn't function. While some people have a lot, and some not quite so much, everyone has it. But when did you first realize it? Did you know it at the time or is it reflective knowledge? And what will you do today that requires a confidence?

I checked out early yesterday. I didn't know what was going on, but figured it was none of my business.

Confidence? Hmm, I'm confident in my abilities. At work, I have total confidence. Physically, it's something I've always struggled with. Some days I feel beautiful and sexy, others not so much. I first began to feel confidence in my appearance in my 30's. At 40, I have more good days than bad. It's progressive.

Today is a work day and we are having our largest event of the year, so confidence will be key to almost everything I do today. I'm good, though. My eyeliner is on point and I'm wearing jeans. I'm damn near unstoppable.