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Which of the following is the most likely reason you post in a thread

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ChainedUp said:
Ahhhh, yes, this is what I missed, the sudden derail, although if it's going to happen, it could be worse than pillow fights.

Do opposites really attract? I mean I know in science it's true with magnetic fields and all, but is it true with people. For as often as I see "opposites" together, i'll see "sames" just as much, if not more. The "beautiful" people seem like a good fit as do the less fortunate. I think for a relationship to work you need to have lots of similarities.
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This is as I've said it before; night and day differences are bad, while it would be certainly "interesting," they would have to have a constitution of 45 (D&D talk for god-like) to make it work.
Alternatively, someone with too many similarities would be utterly boring because anything new you come up with, they already had the same thought.

My grandmother lived it and supposedly some long haired dudes in white robes said it long before her; moderation in all things.

A little same, a little difference, makes a lot of good.
 
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I think all kinds of things attract-- Opposites, similarities... A nice set of biceps ;) I think complimentary personalities mesh well. He's strong where I am weak and vice versa. Not necessarily opposites-- there has to be some common ground-- for me, it's more like a yin and yang situation that seems to work. That's my ideal, anyway.
 
During the reign of Queen Suzanne, there were few derailments. Jussayin.

I think there has to be more similarities than differences. Otherwise, it's a constant battle.
 
I think...
likes need to be similar but personalities can be opposite. It's not uncommon for us to find someone who balances the extremes in our behaviors. Personally, I like the way a partner and I can notice those things about each other that may be missed by everyone else. I like the moderation line/life. It reminds us that it's ok to live in the gray areas.
 
I agree with what others are saying - that having commonality with another person seems to be a factor in overall compatibility. In most of my significant relationships, we probably have had more in common than not.

But I will say that the relationship I had where we were the most dissimilar is the one in which I learned the most. I became more open to a different perspective but also learned quite a bit about my limits. It was the most volatile relationship I have had and it didn't end terribly well, but I'm grateful for the experience.

So I guess I'm saying that I think it's a good thing to dip your toes in uncomfortable water sometimes.
 
Chiming in with the combination of similarities and differences. The first lays a nice base, the second keeps things fresh.
 
I am going to come down on the side of opposites attract. At least for me. I like interesting people - people who open me up to things I've never experienced before, like someone who turns you on to a great band you've never heard, or introduces you to a brilliant writer, or takes you to a great restaurant that was outside your sphere.

I think relationships work best when, through the course of it, you remain interested and engaged with your partner. When you look forward to doing things together because its always a great time. For me, part of what makes that great time is the continual exploration of the world.

I guess I separate attraction (the initial phase) from making a relationship work. I see them as two different beasties. I am often attracted to people I would not enter a relationship of any significance with, simply because while the attraction is there, the personalities wouldn't fit in a traditional relationship. Which is of course why I'm prone to non-traditional relationships.
 
Paul_Chance said:
I am going to come down on the side of opposites attract. At least for me. I like interesting people - people who open me up to things I've never experienced before, like someone who turns you on to a great band you've never heard, or introduces you to a brilliant writer, or takes you to a great restaurant that was outside your sphere.

I think relationships work best when, through the course of it, you remain interested and engaged with your partner. When you look forward to doing things together because its always a great time. For me, part of what makes that great time is the continual exploration of the world.

I guess I separate attraction (the initial phase) from making a relationship work. I see them as two different beasties. I am often attracted to people I would not enter a relationship of any significance with, simply because while the attraction is there, the personalities wouldn't fit in a traditional relationship. Which is of course why I'm prone to non-traditional relationships.
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So... your dream connection would be with someone who didn't speak english or any other language you know, and likewise for you in reverse. Also, they come from an economically and socially different background? Maybe the only commonality is that you are both of the human race born on earth??

Because I think that would net the greatest chance for you to do things you've never done before...
 
ChainedUp said:
I posted something similar in a different thread yesterday but thought I would modify slightly and use it here. Could you go 7 days without communicating with another person? This includes any medium that would allow sending or receiving communication. No email, PMs, reading threads, phone calls, texts...etc. you would be allowed to watch TV, read news and current events but just not communicate with anyone?
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Yes. This for me, is TOTALLY doable.


ChainedUp said:
Ahhhh, yes, this is what I missed, the sudden derail, although if it's going to happen, it could be worse than pillow fights.

Do opposites really attract? I mean I know in science it's true with magnetic fields and all, but is it true with people. For as often as I see "opposites" together, i'll see "sames" just as much, if not more. The "beautiful" people seem like a good fit as do the less fortunate. I think for a relationship to work you need to have lots of similarities.
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People I enjoy are the ones I can learn from. If they're too much like you, what could you possibly learn from each other? Can you push each other's boundaries, offer differing perspectives? BUT, of course there's a but ... there needs to be a commonality. If you're TOO different, it's not going to be a harmonious relationship. Both of you will be pulling in different directions without being able to understand the other. I've been in a relationship like that where the similarities were fantastic, but the differences? It created such a divide that no amount of *love* could bridge.

My bestie's personality is different from mine. She's quiet and reserved (to most) and well, I'm not. But, we both share a lot of core values, therefore our relationship is fantastic. She has helped me soften the edges and I've taught her how to be tougher and take risks.
 
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