Like Big Men?

[Teddy_Bear1990]

reading everybody's posts, I am gaining some confidence, thank you

 

[123hot]

reading everybody's posts, I am gaining some confidence, thank you

ah dude, that's awesome - might be wrong, but you're early 20s, yeah? you've plenty of time and even if it doesn't come when you hope, believe me, life doesn't end.

you'll spend a few days gutted about your plight, remind yourself of the attrocities worldwide, and realise your own life has so much with or, god forbid (wish he would!), without, a girl by your side. this may happen too often, but it'll still follow the same, less desperate as originally thought, outcome

Crack on, listen to what you love, read/research what interests you (no matter how far out there, or normal, your interests may seem) and enjoy it. Knowledge results in good times, a precious lady beside you matters, but doesn't make you.......

 

[chelleb]

Lots of good advice from everyone. Glad you're feeling more confident!

I have always, and still do, believe that it'll happen when you least expect it. That's not to say you shouldn't try, just don't try too hard.

Good luck!

~Chelle

 

[Teddy_Bear1990]

thanks guys, lets keep this thread going, there are societal issues that are being uncovered, its really cool, I've never had a thread last this long, lol

 

[chelleb]

....and really....it's not the end of the world. I am 36 (37 in a few weeks), and I never had a date until I was almost out of college. Not many know this (though after this they will, lol), but I was a virgin until I was 35 (and honestly I wish I still were, but that's neither here nor there).

~Chelle

 

[AbbeyStz]

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[Astaylith]

I wanted to start a thread for people can discuss why some girls do or do not like big men, please ladies and gentlemen, post your thoughts on the subject

I prefer men that are not big. I think it has a little to do with being raised around the military (I blame the military for almost all of my fetishes) and seeing young, fit men exercising and training everyday to stay battle ready. I like the look of lean muscle, and the hard, rugged feel of it. Like a lot of you have said it's nice to feel safe and protected, my idea of that is a strong, toned pair of arms wrapped around me. That's not to say I only have eyes for the "perfect physique", I just prefer men who are in shape. That could be anywhere from tall and lanky to any kind of muscular build.

Reading some of your stories and experiences do make me think. First of all none of you or anyone else deserve to be treated that way, and certainly not to be made fun of just because of a body shape. And I know the type of people you're talking about, my sister and dad are like that. My sister hates overweight people with a passion and has no problem making fun of them. My dad doesn't hate bigger people, he does exercise rigorously everyday and believes that everyone needs to be active. But he's made a few cracks about my mom's weight (she is very overweight) that I wasn't fond of. I use to be overweight and my older brother and sister never let me forget about that.

I don't want to draw this out by saying what everyone else is saying about relationships, confidence, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, etc. I'm just glad there are communities like Lit that honor all shapes and tastes.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I prefer men that are not big. I think it has a little to do with being raised around the military (I blame the military for almost all of my fetishes) and seeing young, fit men exercising and training everyday to stay battle ready. I like the look of lean muscle, and the hard, rugged feel of it. Like a lot of you have said it's nice to feel safe and protected, my idea of that is a strong, toned pair of arms wrapped around me. That's not to say I only have eyes for the "perfect physique", I just prefer men who are in shape. That could be anywhere from tall and lanky to any kind of muscular build.

Reading some of your stories and experiences do make me think. First of all none of you or anyone else deserve to be treated that way, and certainly not to be made fun of just because of a body shape. And I know the type of people you're talking about, my sister and dad are like that. My sister hates overweight people with a passion and has no problem making fun of them. My dad doesn't hate bigger people, he does exercise rigorously everyday and believes that everyone needs to be active. But he's made a few cracks about my mom's weight (she is very overweight) that I wasn't fond of. I use to be overweight and my older brother and sister never let me forget about that.

I don't want to draw this out by saying what everyone else is saying about relationships, confidence, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, etc. I'm just glad there are communities like Lit that honor all shapes and tastes.

I do at least respect your condor and the fact that you don't devalue the worth of a human being because of their shape or size. You know, you're sort of the example I was waiting for. I always wondered if women just instinctively disliked men like me, or if it was social programming and given what you said here about your childhood family and history...I have to say its Nurture, not Nature. Thanks for posting here.Oh and you have a fraking perfect ass. I'd love to worship it sometime. If I were a body builder that is..

 

[kinktastic]

I tried the whole skinny guy thing for a while. After being moderately overweight most of my life, I hit the gym and treadmill HARD and ate little during my late 20's. I looked amazing, could run 6-8 miles a day 4-5 times a week, and had far more attention from girls. The down side was that my sex drive hit the dirt! If I was lucky, I could only get it up once a day. I had mad stamina, but when I had sex (versus jerking off), it would take me two or three days before I wanted it again. At 30, I decided to just be me and be happy. I cut the excercise down to 3 days a week, increased the food, and gained back about 10lbs. My body is apparently happier with me being a bit heavier, because I'm now back to the 3x a day sex drive I used to have, and the women appreciate that more too! All that to say is that not only your mind, but your body and SO may be happy with you being heavier... we're all made differently. Just be happy with yourself, and that confidence will get you the love you want.

 

[Astaylith]

I do at least respect your condor and the fact that you don't devalue the worth of a human being because of their shape or size. You know, you're sort of the example I was waiting for. I always wondered if women just instinctively disliked men like me, or if it was social programming and given what you said here about your childhood family and history...I have to say its Nurture, not Nature. Thanks for posting here.Oh and you have a fraking perfect ass. I'd love to worship it sometime. If I were a body builder that is..

I don't think it's so much instinct so much as a preference. I can't speak for other women, but social programming doesn't have much effect on what I find attractive. Since when did I say only body builders could worship my ass?

 

[webjock]

Do U Like Big Men?

Hi, My cousin just asked me last week.. "why do all you women like walking walls, WTH is wrong with a normal size nice guy"..
i laughed. I really cant answer for all women but I like a man that fills a doorway.
I'm not quite 5'4 and 125lbs.. and I happen to like men that are twice my size.
One: I wont break them.. well probably wont..
Two: I wont pick a physical fight with them. Cause hunny, if your the same size as me, eventualy I'mma knock you the fuck out.
Three: i happen to like not being able to wrap my legs around my man three friggn times.
four: I like looking up to kiss someone. always have, always will.
five: I bite, and I dont like biting bone.

I know theres more.. but my meds have my brain set to scramble...

Are you a vampire?

 

[Nina327]

Are you a vampire?

Some would say "Yes", Some would say "no" and some would say "Hell no, she's an alligator!"

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Since when did I say only body builders could worship my ass?

Ah well then. I'd be happy to show you what I mean by 'worship'.

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

Confidence

Lust factor and Confidence....We all read feelings... I watched a 300 lb woman pick up the cutiest guy in the busy bar because of the way she was arousing him with her words. She said something to him and then turned to me and repeated what she said. She was good. Extremely hot and interesting. I was ready to join them, she got me so turned on. In my opinion, it's not about looks, it's about sexuality. I want a man that looks at my tits with lust, that wants to bite my nipples and pet my kitty for a long time. Being a comedian or exuding confidence and lust are such a turn on. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to get a beautiful woman with a big smile and nice big hard on.

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

yeah baby

The fun part about making love with big men, is we get to ride um cowgirl style.....yeee haaa

 

[Teddy_Bear1990]

The fun part about making love with big men, is we get to ride um cowgirl style.....yeee haaa

you can be my cowgirl anytime

 

[piccicatopolka]

Yes! Really, really big ~ everywhere!

But not super fat. Some chub is ok... everywhere.

 

[Teddy_Bear1990]

sorry I haven't been on lately my friends, just been busy, too bad I don't have a girl to keep me busy, lol

 

[dirty20yearold]

I'm a bigger guy--265lbs/6'0". My confidence has always been a little low, which I blame mostly on my weight. I work out, run, and am pretty muscular, but I've definitely got a gut.

When I was in college 7-8 years ago, I chatted on AIM with an acquaintance I met in class. One thing led to another, and she let on that she wNted to hook up. I asked her--point blank--if my weight was a problem. She didn't categorize herself as a FFA, but he response was similar to that which I've read here and in other things. She liked solidity, firmness, Teddy bear, etc., but she also liked loving something others wouldn't. I didn't know how to take that.

Nonetheless, I enjoyed our many hookups. She was a beautiful woman, confident in her sexuality, and treated me with respect.

 

[WastelandVoice]

So I'm 6'1" and 250- where do I fall on this list?

 

[Nina327]

So I'm 6'1" and 250- where do I fall on this list?

At 6'1... almost anywhere you want to.

 

[WastelandVoice]

At 6'1... almost anywhere you want to.

Haha. Cute.

 

[iwantyoufuckme]

i have always liked bigger guys!
i'm 5'4... a man 6'0 up and stocky..perfecto

 

[Rembrandt500]

Nice to see all the love us big guys are getting haha.. I'm 6'2", 240 lbs., even got some ultra-manly chest hair haha

The fun part about making love with big men, is we get to ride um cowgirl style.....yeee haaa

Mmm I love Canadian cowgirls. You can ride me anytime.

 

[WastelandVoice]

i have always liked bigger guys!
i'm 5'4... a man 6'0 up and stocky..perfecto

sweeeeeet