Life Happens...

[Selena_Kitt]

Do you have someone in your life that you never think is going to change? Past or present... it's funny the beliefs we hold about people and we don't even know it.

I got the news that my ex-husband has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis... he's 35. We've been divorced now as long as we were married, and we've remained civil... not friends, just parents of the same kids kind of thing...

still, it was a blow. I kind of went all "Cher" after Sonny died for a minute there... like, what!? That can't be possible... I just always see him as he was when we were together, young and healthy and invincible... we both were...

 

[Guest]

My sympathies.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Oh damn, so sorry to hear. "Cher after Sonny" is a good thing. Her funeral display of emotion was so genuine and human.

 

[neonlyte]

There are certain shared elements in our lives that we lock into, we don't need to think about them -- they just 'are', and the shock when that zone of comfort is shifted can be wrenchingly painful and upsetting. He'll need courage to face this, as will you and your shared family, my sympathies to you all.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

*big tight hugs*

I'm so sorry

 

[Guest]

I'm so sorry, ex's can be the biggest pains in the ass but you never really want to see anything bad happen to them...hugs...

 

[rgraham666]

*HUGS* Selena.

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* your reaction just shows that you're caring person,when you hear of something like this it's a shock, whoever it is who's been diagnosed with it.

 

[Antfarmer77]

Do you have someone in your life that you never think is going to change? Past or present... it's funny the beliefs we hold about people and we don't even know it.

I got the news that my ex-husband has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis... he's 35. We've been divorced now as long as we were married, and we've remained civil... not friends, just parents of the same kids kind of thing...

still, it was a blow. I kind of went all "Cher" after Sonny died for a minute there... like, what!? That can't be possible... I just always see him as he was when we were together, young and healthy and invincible... we both were...

My dad had MS, but the treatments and support groups are a million times better now than they were forty years ago, I don't know his (your ex)situation of course, but in many cases it can be controlled with meds. In any event here's good thoughts for you both.

 

[Liar]

My dad had MS, but the treatments and support groups are a million times better now than they were forty years ago, I don't know his (your ex)situation of course, but in many cases it can be controlled with meds. In any event here's good thoughts for you both.

Yep. There are different types of the condition, and different levels of severity.

Ten years ago, one of my best friends learned at the age of 31 that she had MS, and immediately foresaw a life in a wheelchair. So far at least, she's as strong as ever. Are married and raising two kids, runs a successful business and ran the marathon last weekend. And with no indication of a worsening condition in the forseeable future.

Like Cancer, it's a bit of a word with nasty connotations, but it contains the best and the worst of the thing.

 

[Guest]

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Yes, yes, right, yes, TOTALLY! I bawled the day I was diagnosed, had it on my mind incessantly for the first six months, and now don't think about it except on the rare occasions I overheat, or when I volunteer at a fundraising event.

There are effective meds (hideously expensive, but that's a different rant), online information & support groups, new & better ways of dealing with exacerbations, all kinds of progress has been made in the last 10 years. PM me if you want links or support or anything.

Thanks...
Occurred to me when you mentioned the expense, I don't even know if he's insured.... :x He was notorious for thinking it was an "unneeded expense" when we were together...

My (current) husband's father has MS and IS in a wheelchair, and of course that's the first thing I thought of... good to know it can be controlled... my ex has fine motor difficulties already (can't do that hold your arms out to the side and touch your nose thing)... maybe it can be improved or even arrested with meds...

and Neo:

There are certain shared elements in our lives that we lock into, we don't need to think about them -- they just 'are', and the shock when that zone of comfort is shifted can be wrenchingly painful and upsetting.

thanks for this... really felt heard... this is it exactly...

 

[Aurora Black]

I'm really sorry, Selena. I'm going to piggyback a little and say that I hope things will go well for him because of all the progress that's been made for MS over the last few years.

 

[Liar]

My (current) husband's father has MS and IS in a wheelchair, and of course that's the first thing I thought of... good to know it can be controlled... my ex has fine motor difficulties already (can't do that hold your arms out to the side and touch your nose thing)... maybe it can be improved or even arrested with meds...

Well, like I said, there are several different variations of it, that targets different parts of the body in different ways. Try to find out which kind this is.

It's like saying "I have cancer". It could mean "My life as I know it is over" or "I have an itsy bitsy cyst scheduled for removal, and then I'm back on top of the world in no time."


But like others have said, the sitation, even if it's the most serious variation, is said to be far better now then it was even a decade or two ago.