Life after Divorce

[Lorindellia]

Hello all,
I was here before, about a year + ago, and was impressed by the site and the intellect here. At the time I knew my marriage was crumbling. Over the past year it did, and now I find myself divorced at the age of 38.

I want to hear from those of you who have been in these shoes before. Some questions I'd like to hear your answers on are:

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again?
2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where?
3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them?
4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?
and finally
5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce?

I will come back later and answer my own questionf from my point of view, and so far in my post divorce life... But I want to hear from you.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorindellia

 

[bknight2602]

Hello all,
I was here before, about a year + ago, and was impressed by the site and the intellect here. At the time I knew my marriage was crumbling. Over the past year it did, and now I find myself divorced at the age of 38.

I want to hear from those of you who have been in these shoes before. Some questions I'd like to hear your answers on are:

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again? No
2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where? Bar Scenes Mostly
3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them? No Resolutions made, Be Careful What You Wish, Though.
4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?
and finally Sex Life Picked Up
5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce? Are You Kidding?

I will come back later and answer my own questionf from my point of view, and so far in my post divorce life... But I want to hear from you.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorindellia

Good luck BTW. And yes there is life after divorce.

 

[huskie]

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again?

Yes. I didn't have any money.

2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where?

I when back to school and met women there.

3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them?

Just that I would NEVER get involved with REAL whight trash women again.

4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?

I wasn't getting laid as often.......

5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce?

Not after the Papers were signed. NO.

 

[Guest]

See you tommorow, yayati.

Bye.

 

[plasticman33]

Hello all,
I was here before, about a year + ago, and was impressed by the site and the intellect here. At the time I knew my marriage was crumbling. Over the past year it did, and now I find myself divorced at the age of 38.

I want to hear from those of you who have been in these shoes before. Some questions I'd like to hear your answers on are:

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again?

Nope!

2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where?

Met my current wife in a bar.

3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them?

Just that I was going to think with my big head not my little one!

4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?
and finally

At first my sex life improved dramatically, I had more women than I could handle. I slowed down when I met her.

5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce?

GOOD GOD! NO!!

I will come back later and answer my own questionf from my point of view, and so far in my post divorce life... But I want to hear from you.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorindellia

I've only been married three times so I'm no expert!

 

[Magical_Mother]

It was very hard for me in the beginning. I had 3 small kids and was working 12 hour shifts. I eventually started going out to bars with a freind, but that is not the best way to meet guys in my opinion. I never had sex with my ex after we split, that would have been a big no no. There is life after divorce, but it takes time. Sometimes it will feel like nothing right will ever happen for you, but you just have to hang in there and ride it out. Things will work out in the end. Don't ever give up and always blieve in yourself.

 

[Rex1960]

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again?

No - I just didn't date after #1 (10 years)

I ran into my very next relation #2 (2.5years) accidentially at a party.

After that I turned into a manslut discovering the one-night-stand horizons for about 2 years before I quit dating.

I met the later mother of my babygirl as #3, again accidentially

Since we split I don't date, I just meet people here and there.

2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where?

Any place is a good place. Depends on what you expect.

3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them?

I've made all kinds of resolutions. Some i kept, some I broke.
When you meet the right person, it just makes no sense to keep the resolution "I won't never ever marry again", just for the sake of keeping that resolution.

4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?

in no specific direction

5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce?

for #1 mentally yes - physically no
for #2 no way
for #3 yes and it was great each time

 

[alltherage]

Hello all,
I was here before, about a year + ago, and was impressed by the site and the intellect here. At the time I knew my marriage was crumbling. Over the past year it did, and now I find myself divorced at the age of 38.

I want to hear from those of you who have been in these shoes before. Some questions I'd like to hear your answers on are:

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again?yes darlin it was
2) Did you go to bars to meet people? sometimes On-line?not yet The bookstore?no Where?school, i teach and am a student as well. school worked best for me.
3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them?i learned not to resolve anything long ago. i am bi and i have spent much of my new free time with women. almost all in fact
4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality?
and finally it freed me.
5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce?nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

I will come back later and answer my own questionf from my point of view, and so far in my post divorce life... But I want to hear from you.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorindellia

 

[LukkyKnight]

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again? Yeah, I was out of practice, but that's OK because I needed some time to get to know me as a single person again.

2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where? A lot of hunting online, none at bars... bookstores don't seem like an ideal place to make social talk, somehow, but perhaps that explains why I don't have more dates.

3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them? None made.

4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality? I didn't have much sex life at the end of the marriage, but I'd say I shrugged off some habits of inhibition which suited the ex.

and finally
5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your former spouse after divorce? Hell no.

 

[cutie pie]

1) Was it very hard for you to start "dating" again? Yes, but not for lack of opportunities. I discovered that I had a lot of issues that I needed to deal with first.

2) Did you go to bars to meet people? On-line? The bookstore? Where? So far, it's been more like re-establishing old relationships than meeting new people. The few new friends I've made have been at the bar. . .

3) What resolutions did you make regarding relationships with the opposite sex for your future. i.e. did you resolve not to marry again? If you made resolutions like that, did you keep them or break them? Being newly divorced, I'm still trying to figure all that out. No marriage in the way foreseeable future, though. . .I do know that!

4) How did being divorced affect your sex life and your sexuality? It has given me the chance to explore aspects that I could not with my ex-husband.

and finally 5) Did you have any intimate encounters with your
former spouse after divorce? Never! Thankfully he has stopped asking.

 

[MissTaken]

HI there,

I intend to answer your questions when I am free to give them some thought.

However, I wanted to share this link with you. You will find that many of us have experienced divorce and separation and that is it is very different for us al.

many hugs!

MissT

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85596&highlight=Divorce+and+Separation