Life Advice

[tnhardon]

What better place to come for the advice you seek in your life than an Internet forum focused on erotica?

I’m here to provide you with advice on whatever topic is on your mind. Sex, relationship, where to eat for dinner, whatever is weighing on your mind.

 

[Stimtheone]

Well, since you are offering...

A pressing issue today is where to even go to find women that are good dating material. I am present on several dating apps and websites, go out often enough and yet... nothing. I know better than to seek anything at the job, but whenever I am at some locale, either people do not wish to talk or those who do are already taken... I get literally no matches on any website, not even replies on those who don't engage in that. Feels like people have become very antisocial and that comes from a guy who stays in his house for weeks.

In terms of looks, not in the high power attractive scale, but neither too far down. I can talk about every subject with good enough input and do try to be considerate of others if they are so back.

So where can a man go to find dates that are after actual relationships rather than another notch on the belt?

 

[Plasmaball]

Why would I go to you for life advice?

 

[tnhardon]

Well, since you are offering...

A pressing issue today is where to even go to find women that are good dating material. I am present on several dating apps and websites, go out often enough and yet... nothing. I know better than to seek anything at the job, but whenever I am at some locale, either people do not wish to talk or those who do are already taken... I get literally no matches on any website, not even replies on those who don't engage in that. Feels like people have become very antisocial and that comes from a guy who stays in his house for weeks.

In terms of looks, not in the high power attractive scale, but neither too far down. I can talk about every subject with good enough input and do try to be considerate of others if they are so back.

So where can a man go to find dates that are after actual relationships rather than another notch on the belt?

I’m glad that you noted you aren’t actually looking for a relationship at work. Not that it will always lead to disaster, but work relationships can be very messy and possibly result in you losing or having to switch your job.

Dating apps have worked for a few people I know, but I think a lot dating apps nowadays lead to dead ends and a lot of wasted time. Either people are looking for flings, or they have so many options that you fall through the cracks.

Age is a pretty big factor in all of this too. The older you get, generally, the harder finding a date can be, just based on numbers. You don’t list your age, but I’d assume you aren’t fresh out of college.

In my experience- organic, long lasting relationships start with a solid connection that comes with getting to talk with someone. This can be hard on a dating app or in a short conversation at a bar.

My suggestion would be to put yourself in social situations that aren’t specifically designed for finding a date, but where you can form relationships that could turn into a date. If you have friends, invite them over to your house for a party/gathering and encourage them to invite some people they know. Join some sort of social club or activity where other people get together and friendships can be formed. The further you branch out your circle of relationships, the more likely you are to stumble upon a potential partner, or someone who would be willing to set you up with someone.

There isn’t a magic formula, but I think that method has a higher success rate than some of the others.

 

[tnhardon]

Why would I go to you for life advice?

Maybe you wouldn’t. Maybe you would.

Some people like their advice from people they know and trust. Others enjoy the anonymity of the internet and like to hear a fresh perspective on the issues they have.

As I said in the intro, very tongue in cheek, this isn’t generally the place you’d expect people to go for life advice. Doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work, though.

 

[Plasmaball]

Maybe you wouldn’t. Maybe you would.

Some people like their advice from people they know and trust. Others enjoy the anonymity of the internet and like to hear a fresh perspective on the issues they have.

As I said in the intro, very tongue in cheek, this isn’t generally the place you’d expect people to go for life advice. Doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work, though.

Plenty of people here have gotten life advice on here.

 

[tnhardon]

Plenty of people here have gotten life advice on here.

Then I hope we only continue to add to the number.

 

[Plasmaball]

Then I hope we only continue to add to the number.

I doubt it

 

[hanban24]

Then I hope we only continue to add to the number.

Ignore them. I think this is a great idea. I really enjoy reading life advice columns online and am really interested to see what submissions you get!

 

[hanban24]

I’ve got one:

I work from home and am in my late 20s. I live alone and am dating a guy, but we only see each other a few nights a week. Given I work from home, I try to cook and save some money rather than constantly eat out. I got into a bad habit of eating out/UberEats during COVID and had the weight and wallet to show it. Problem is I’m tired of cooking the same meals and eating the same things. It seems like every time I cook something new it makes way too much food and I have leftovers that never get eaten, which feels like a waste. What advice do you have?

 

[tnhardon]

I’ve got one:

I work from home and am in my late 20s. I live alone and am dating a guy, but we only see each other a few nights a week. Given I work from home, I try to cook and save some money rather than constantly eat out. I got into a bad habit of eating out/UberEats during COVID and had the weight and wallet to show it. Problem is I’m tired of cooking the same meals and eating the same things. It seems like every time I cook something new it makes way too much food and I have leftovers that never get eaten, which feels like a waste. What advice do you have?

I experienced similar struggles when I lived alone before I got married, and even a bit before we had kids.

Cooking for one can be hard because most of the recipes you’ll find in cookbooks or online are meant for a family. You can probably Google so good recipes for one person, but to allow for more variety, I’d recommend just reducing recipes to 1-2 servings. This requires more work but will save you in the long run.

I’d also recommend doing recipes that share ingredients with other recipes. This will reduce your food waste, as you can buy things like fresh vegetables, without having to throw half of it away. Same thing when it comes to meat- packs of meat generally come in larger containers (1 pound of ground beef, 2.5 pounds of chicken breasts, etc.). You can cook all of the meat at one time and then section it off to use in other recipes over the next few meals. Another solution with meat is to go directly to the butcher’s counter. There they will allow you to buy exactly how much meat you need, without having to buy the extra.

As far as variety, I’d recommend you look at different styles of cooking. Italian, Indian, Chinese, Mexican, African, etc. Trying different styles of cooking is a really good way to learn and explore things that you might not have otherwise tried.

Not sure how much cooking space you have, but having a variety of cooking methods can help too. I got an instapot recently, which opened up a plethora of new recipe options for me. If you have the storage space and money, different pieces can help provide a lot of new opportunity for you in the kitchen.

The last thing I’d mention is freezing. Whether it is freezing fresh or buying frozen ingredients, this can help avoid food waste. Similarly, freezing cooked food can allow you to make larger batches go further, without having to eat the same stuff multiple meals in a row.

 

[hanban24]

I experienced similar struggles when I lived alone before I got married, and even a bit before we had kids.

Cooking for one can be hard because most of the recipes you’ll find in cookbooks or online are meant for a family. You can probably Google so good recipes for one person, but to allow for more variety, I’d recommend just reducing recipes to 1-2 servings. This requires more work but will save you in the long run.

I’d also recommend doing recipes that share ingredients with other recipes. This will reduce your food waste, as you can buy things like fresh vegetables, without having to throw half of it away. Same thing when it comes to meat- packs of meat generally come in larger containers (1 pound of ground beef, 2.5 pounds of chicken breasts, etc.). You can cook all of the meat at one time and then section it off to use in other recipes over the next few meals. Another solution with meat is to go directly to the butcher’s counter. There they will allow you to buy exactly how much meat you need, without having to buy the extra.

As far as variety, I’d recommend you look at different styles of cooking. Italian, Indian, Chinese, Mexican, African, etc. Trying different styles of cooking is a really good way to learn and explore things that you might not have otherwise tried.

Not sure how much cooking space you have, but having a variety of cooking methods can help too. I got an instapot recently, which opened up a plethora of new recipe options for me. If you have the storage space and money, different pieces can help provide a lot of new opportunity for you in the kitchen.

The last thing I’d mention is freezing. Whether it is freezing fresh or buying frozen ingredients, this can help avoid food waste. Similarly, freezing cooked food can allow you to make larger batches go further, without having to eat the same stuff multiple meals in a row.

I’ve tried a few of these things but you’ve mentioned some things I hadn’t thought about before. Will definitely try a few of these things out. Thanks for the help!

 

[12oclocktales]

Dear Miss Lonely-hearts,
It took me 3 weeks but I finally asked her for her number. She gave it to me and told me to call her. I called the number. It was a funeral home. Did she give me the wrong number by mistake? Is there something else she's trying to tell me? Should I be worried?

 

[thør]

Where should I have dinner Thursday evening?

 

[Butterfly377637]

What better place to come for the advice you seek in your life than an Internet forum focused on erotica?

I’m here to provide you with advice on whatever topic is on your mind. Sex, relationship, where to eat for dinner, whatever is weighing on your mind.

so you are 31 yo offering Life Advice ?​

 

[tnhardon]

so you are 31 yo offering Life Advice ?​

Yes. Thanks for the easy question.

 

[tnhardon]

Where should I have dinner Thursday evening?

Try something new. Step out of your comfort zone and eat a type of cuisine you don’t normally have.

 

[tnhardon]

Dear Miss Lonely-hearts,
It took me 3 weeks but I finally asked her for her number. She gave it to me and told me to call her. I called the number. It was a funeral home. Did she give me the wrong number by mistake? Is there something else she's trying to tell me? Should I be worried?

Couple of options:

• She works at the funeral home, in which case you might be able to get a friends and family discount when you pass away. Funerals are expensive, so this could be advantageous.
• She’s dead and her phone was still in her pocket when she got to the funeral home. In this case, I’d say it is appropriate to send her flowers, but probably should move on to the next prospect.
• It might have been a fake.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Yes. Thanks for the easy question.

I would like to give people some life advice. Don't take life advice from someone who is 31.

 

[tnhardon]

I would like to give people some life advice. Don't take life advice from someone who is 31.

Thanks for the input. Seems like this thread might just not be for you.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Thanks for the input. Seems like this thread might just not be for you.

Wow your good...That's pretty good advice.

 

[tnhardon]

Wow your good...That's pretty good advice.

 

[12oclocktales]

Couple of options:

• She works at the funeral home, in which case you might be able to get a friends and family discount when you pass away. Funerals are expensive, so this could be advantageous.
• She’s dead and her phone was still in her pocket when she got to the funeral home. In this case, I’d say it is appropriate to send her flowers, but probably should move on to the next prospect.
• It might have been a fake.

Thanks for the advice. It turns out the lady in question ran off with a guy named Bill, and they're living in another state. The phone call to the funeral home may end up being a good thing; the person I spoke to sounded a bit cold and stiff, but willing to meet. We have a face-to-face this weekend. My fingers are crossed.

 

[tnhardon]

Thanks for the advice. It turns out the lady in question ran off with a guy named Bill, and they're living in another state. The phone call to the funeral home may end up being a good thing; the person I spoke to sounded a bit cold and stiff, but willing to meet. We have a face-to-face this weekend. My fingers are crossed.

Prediction: Their perfume will smell like formaldehyde

 

[12oclocktales]

Prediction: Their perfume will smell like formaldehyde

Thanks again. I'll be sure to bring flowers, lots of flowers.