libido problems

[Luvkitty33]

Ok, so me and a recently single friend were talking. She's struggling with her libido, and I know it's gonna happen when K leaves for Afghanistan. The problem is we have stronger than normal sex drives, and being abstinant is more difficult than it would be for a 'normal' woman. So I said that maybe I'd go on zoloft when K leaves so as to not suffer as much. She said she was sure their were other ways to handle it, but we couldn't find anything through google about lowering your sex drive. All the articles were about getting your sex drive BACK.

So, does anyone here have suggestions or ideas?

I take Zoloft, and trust me, it doesn't lower everyone's libido, if you know what I mean! If I think of anything though, I'll post it here for you.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Thank you. I might drop you a PM anyway, eventhough I don't want to think about it at this point. Their's no point in stressing myself out, when it's another year before he leaves. Nothing I can do about it now. lol And cybersex and other things like that isn't an option - K would not be pleased, and I find it boring. I mean cybersex is just masturbation, but in a chair in front of you computer which is a lot less comfortable than your room. Plus you run the chance of children waking up. "Mommy? What are you doing?"



I think I found the key to a lowered sex drive. LOL

LOL. Cybersex certainly is a very poor substitute. That's when I bought a laptop and moved into my bedroom. We had been married 18 yrs before this recent series of deployments (he was also deployed to Bosnia years ago but I had a 4 month old at the time and PPD so sex was the furthest thing from my mind) I found that yes, I missed the sex. But I missed the teasing, flirting type of foreplay dance that we would do before sex even more. FOr me I was able to get that in an innocent way on-line. No, it's not the same, not even close. But it helped. It helped me feel less alone. It also helped me feel less afraid.


Maybe in a year we won't need him to go. THere is always hope.

 

[saw_man1]

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[graceanne]

So what is K going to do about his needs? Maybe there lies your clue to success at home. If all else fails and it gets too much, you might even get to the stage where you just have an orgasm doing the housework....it is fun.

Catalina

Actually I have plans in effect for him. I was gonna make it a surprise, but when we were seperated for my grandma's funeral I let him in on my surprise.

I'm gonna make him what I called 'married man porn'. I might put it on a cd rom and send it to him, but I'm hoping to be able to email it to him. He's thrilled with the idea, and wants to get some pictures of us *ahem* together before he goes to take with him, or for me to email to him.

 

[graceanne]

I take Zoloft, and trust me, it doesn't lower everyone's libido, if you know what I mean! If I think of anything though, I'll post it here for you.

It does for my mom. Or does she take prozac? Hm. Can't recall. lol

LOL. Cybersex certainly is a very poor substitute. That's when I bought a laptop and moved into my bedroom. We had been married 18 yrs before this recent series of deployments (he was also deployed to Bosnia years ago but I had a 4 month old at the time and PPD so sex was the furthest thing from my mind) I found that yes, I missed the sex. But I missed the teasing, flirting type of foreplay dance that we would do before sex even more. FOr me I was able to get that in an innocent way on-line. No, it's not the same, not even close. But it helped. It helped me feel less alone. It also helped me feel less afraid.


Maybe in a year we won't need him to go. THere is always hope.

Yeah I hope so, but I seriously doubt it. *shrugs*