Levels of painsluttiness

[Ms_Lilith]

I was speaking to someone today about what I like and what I don't, and I said to him "I'm a painslut.. no.. wait.. well I am.. but not really.. I don't dig severe pain, but I like some of it."

Confusing? Yup.

I am curious as to how much pain the submissives out there enjoy taking, and I'd like to know whether the Dom/mes have learned their submissives pain thresholds so well that no safeword need be used, or no drawing back on the part of the sub need occur.

I guess I'm just cuious.

I, myself, in the submissive role, enjoy some pains. I like robe burns, even to the point of blood. I love bruises from cuffs. I enjoy being bruised from spankings and such. I like being held in ways that hurt me, to facilitate his pleasure (obviously safe ways), I like having hair pulled, so much so that I cry, but it's still within my threshhold. I love the idea of being flogged, but I have not yet experienced it. I enjoy being bitten, enough so that I end up with welts and even some bloodshed..

But other types of pain, I can't take.. being whipped or knifeplay, etc.

Tell me what you like, and Dom/mes, tell me what you like inflicting on your submissives, and how well you know their thresholds.. and what it took you to learn that threshhold?

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

It seems to me that we just explored this...How do you like it? or are you looking for something different that what was in this thread? I'm a bit confused....it seems that you're asking the same question.

I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm just trying not to re-invent the wheel.

~anelize

 

[Ms_Lilith]

It seems to me that we just explored this...How do you like it? or are you looking for something different that what was in this thread? I'm a bit confused....it seems that you're asking the same question.

I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm just trying not to re-invent the wheel.

~anelize

Didn't see the thread, feel free to let it die./

 

[Red Menace]

I am not a masochist...

...but most people who have seen me play will say I'm a fairly heavy bottom. I don't crave the pain simply for the sensation... I crave it with Sir because of the bond it creates between us. Pain is the easiest vehicle for me to get to that place where all the walls come down, I'm completely open to him, can feel his soul wrapping around mine and am willing to give him absolutely anything.

So I guess I could say I like taking as whatever he wants to give me... and he has a sadistic streak a mile wide. But he's very careful about not pushing me beyond what he knows I'm capable of taking, mentally and physically. We've never really had a safeword; never really needed it. He's very empathic and has an amazing ability to know exactly how I'm dealing with the sensations and where my head is as and he carefully leads me on the path he wants me to take.

But if I were to play with someone else...? I'm sure I'd be quite a wimp. I'm not really a masochist.

 

[NemoAlia]

My favorite sort of pain is the controlled, planned, testing-your-limits, slow-growing sort of pain that comes with holding a position for a long time or having one smally painful thing done over and over. I don't think I have ever been pushed past my threshhold for this sort of thing.

However, I get really jumpy when the pain is sudden -- makes my response to spankings particularly piquant, I hear. In those situations, I'm a real wuss.

 

[Missconduct]

I like sharp, sudden pain followed by slow oozing relief with the onset of endorphins. I really love it when I'm so aroused that ANY sensation feels erotic and I can be smacked really hard and say, "Mmmmmm...". I also love knowing that the same hard smack is gonna really, really hurt when I'm not in subspace.

I like pain that slowly builds. I don't like achy, irritaing pain or perpetual, chronic pain, like poke-poke-poke. But poke-smack-poke is good.

And, of course, I don't like accidental pain or joint/bone misalignment pain--like when I get a crick in my neck. Oh, and I don't like head pain of any kind, not even my ear lobes.

But I'm still exploring the possibilities.

xx,

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

loves when he holds me cheeks with his hands and tells me what a bad gurl i've been, i love it when he stratches' his nails' down my back, when he pulls my hair, when he bites a part of my body and holds it in his teeth for just that little bit longer, loves when he spanks me loves the way he squeezes' my breasts' am a good little painslut

 

[s'lara]

Masochism Dance

There are varying levels of pain. Controlled, deliberately administered pain can be ... takes a breath ... enjoyable.

To put it clearly ... inadvertent pain is no fun. Examples of such inadvertent pain: slamming a finger in a car door, stubbing a toe, breaking a bone, etc. i think that describes what i mean.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... I'd like to know whether the Dom/mes have learned their submissives pain thresholds so well that no safeword need be used, or no drawing back on the part of the sub need occur ...

i may know them, and quite well, but that doesn't abrogate a need for a safe word, or her drawing back. A submissive ain't a digital device. She, or he, is analog and human, and varies from day to day as do we all.

... I enjoy being bitten, enough so that I end up with welts and even some bloodshed ...

Oh ... i'm just going to shut up ... made my animal's day.

... and Dom/mes, tell me what you like inflicting on your submissives, ... and what it took you to learn that threshhold?

You've touched on one already. i've stated others in other posts.

Learning the rough boundaries of the threshold took time, patience, and willingness.

i haven't stopped learning.