Letting go of your emotions.

[Carl East]

Have you ever just wanted to stop whatever your doing, sit down and ball your eyes out. I suppose it's good that we don't do this, I mean can you imagine being in a supermarket and seeing a few people crying.

However, I do wish at times there was a way of releasing these pent up emotions, other than just talking to people about our problems.

Of course we're not always feeling low, there are ups as well as downs, you just tend not to hear the downs too often. We always tend to hide the things that get us that way, yet for us they are a part of life we could live without.

I'm quite an emotional guy myself, so I wondered how others handle these feelings of sadness?

Carl

 

[cybergirly]

I tell my invisible friends all my problems.

Actually I'm a journal keeper. When I'm very upset I tend to start writing, not worrying about what is sounds like, going back and reading it later I usally can't figure out what I was babbling about, but it helps at the time.

 

[AnnaB]

Depends on what has my emotions on a roller coaster at the time...if it's something someone has done to me I try and talk to them to sort it out. Other than that I have my journal and my writing that I do to release some of the emotions. Sometimes though the only thing that helps is to sit down and cry.

 

[Carl East]

I tell my invisible friends all my problems.

Actually I'm a journal keeper. When I'm very upset I tend to start writing, not worrying about what is sounds like, going back and reading it later I usally can't figure out what I was babbling about, but it helps at the time.

I sometimes use my writing in that way, just to escape the norm even if it's only for a short while.

Carl

 

[Carl East]

Sometimes though the only thing that helps is to sit down and cry.

Been there done that, and am always alone when it happens, so I can sympathise.



Carl

 

[erosman]

A good cry can be a great prelude to extraordinary sex. Sometimes just the clouds can express such deep emotion, and I am lost for a few moments in tears. Those kind of days usually usher in some wonderful nights.

 

[Debbie]

Have you ever just wanted to stop whatever your doing, sit down and ball your eyes out.

YES


I suppose it's good that we don't do this, I mean can you imagine being in a supermarket and seeing a few people crying.

Being stared at isn't fun


However, I do wish at times there was a way of releasing these pent up emotions, other than just talking to people about our problems.

Of course we're not always feeling low, there are ups as well as downs, you just tend not to hear the downs too often. We always tend to hide the things that get us that way, yet for us they are a part of life we could live without.

I'm quite an emotional guy myself, so I wondered how others handle these feelings of sadness?

Carl

I am a very private person. I try to keep my innermost feelings to myself. When I am sad I am quiet. I withdraw into myself.

Reading or watching a sad programme releases the pent up emotion, writing when I am sad causes me to leave tear stains on the paper or trying to type with blurry teary eyes which leaves typos. But that's ok, I don't believe in bottling up my feelings. LOL Or I may become a volcano.

I have ignored how I am feeling emotionally and ended up blubbing in public places. I hastily brush the tears away, take a deep breath and think of how lucky I am. Thoughts of puppies, babies and kitties make me feel cheerful soon enough.

Edited to say i find mumbling to myself helps me vent. "Godamn it why I am I always the one to fix this..." It works big time.

 

[Carl East]

Re: Re: Letting go of your emotions.

I am a very private person. I try to keep my innermost feelings to myself. When I am sad I am quiet. I withdraw into myself.

Although I'm similar in the way I keep it bottled up, the slightest thing can release it. Even the act of reading something sad can open the flood gates for me, not that that happens often you understand but it does happen.

I sat down yesterday for instance, happily talking away to someone I like. When she said something quite innocently, that made me think of my situation here. Suddenly I was remembering I'd lost my wife after she'd walked out, and that through depression I ended up getting fired from my job.

The fact that losing my house is next on the list doesn't help, or that the woman I love is too far away. So the tears flowed, and for a while I felt sorry for myself.

You have to pick yourself up though, cause no one else is going to do it, and carry on like nothings wrong.

Carl

 

[Carl East]

A good cry can be a great prelude to extraordinary sex. Sometimes just the clouds can express such deep emotion, and I am lost for a few moments in tears. Those kind of days usually usher in some wonderful nights.

I feel this is true on occasion, because when I've argued in the past with loved ones, and the emotion has run high, making up always seemed to be more passionate.

Carl

 

[APhil]

For me, driving is one of the best ways to release tension.

I drive out into the middle of nowhere. I get out of my truck. I look around. Then I scream at the top of my lungs.

 

[Elizabeth]

Have you ever just wanted to stop whatever your doing, sit down and ball your eyes out.

Carl

Do I want to? Sure. Do I ever, even in private? No. Don't remember how to do that anymore. Nor do I trust anyone enough to share feelings like that. *shrugs* I wish it wasn't that way but it is.

 

[nasty1]

I sometimes wish I were a bit more emotional. Even during 9/11, I didn't even cry, even though I was feeling REALLY sad for all the families. But, then again, there are times when the simplest thing turns on the waterworks.

 

[Carl East]

I sometimes wish I were a bit more emotional. Even during 9/11, I didn't even cry, even though I was feeling REALLY sad for all the families. But, then again, there are times when the simplest thing turns on the waterworks.

It's funny what can and can't upset us isn't it, I suppose it all comes down to what state of mind you're in at the moment of truth.

Carl

 

[nasty1]

It does. I remember being in the Hospital, watching the news, and, this story came on about a boy dying in a Housefire that made me cry. But, I was doped up on meds, so, I think that was part of it. Not that the story wasn't sad in itself, though.

 

[Kitte]

I drive and cry usually not at the same time if I can help it. Did it last night as a matter of fact...just the combined stresses of life got to me. Leaving my honeys warm bed last night to come back to my half moved apt didnt help, not a tear inducing event in and of itself but I think it sort of opened the flood gates. I felt much better after. But then again I am a big crier. When Im happy when Im sad when Im mad.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Feeling too much is better than feeling too little. It's a gift.

 

[cutie pie]

Have you ever just wanted to stop whatever your doing, sit down and ball your eyes out.

Yes, especially during the past few months. Sometimes, depending on where I am, I will give in and have a good cry. (In the last few weeks there have been instances where I was at work and started blubbering like a baby. . .fortunately I was all alone in the office. . .that would have been embarassing ). This period of my life is unusual though. I tend not to be so overtly emotional. I would rather vent my frustrations in private and let the rest of the world think that I'm doing fine.

There have been other great suggestions here. . .taking long, solitary walks, writing, finding a good friend to talk to. We all develop our own coping mechanisms for different situations.

 

[nasty1]

Feeling too much is better than feeling too little. It's a gift.

That's why I feel like a ass, because, I rarely ever cry. But, I HAVE cried more this year, then in my whole life.

 

[bored1]

Sometimes I wonder if I have any emotions at all. After being unemployed for a year, I was finally offered a pretty good job. You would think I would be elated, but the fact is I feel nothing at all.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Feeling too much is better than feeling too little. It's a gift.

I agree completely.

It can be embarrassing though. I cry at school functions. When I see those little kids get up on stage and recite nursery rhymes it just touches me. I cry at every kid, not just my own. It's embarrassing.

 

[perks]

I agree completely.

It can be embarrassing though. I cry at school functions. When I see those little kids get up on stage and recite nursery rhymes it just touches me. I cry at every kid, not just my own. It's embarrassing.

yes, I feel you. I hate it too. It's way too embarassing. I wish I could control it better.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Perky, I look around and I'm the only mom crying. I feel like a freak. Same thing on the first day of school. *sigh*

 

[perks]

Perky, I look around and I'm the only mom crying. I feel like a freak. Same thing on the first day of school. *sigh*

but don't you find the reverse too? I laugh too loud, too often, but I cry too much and too often too. All my emotions are huge and often.

It's a bit much. Sometimes I overwhelm myself. But the crying thing feels so weak, and I hate it, because I don't think of myself as a weak person. And it just kills me, but I can't stop.

 

[Jewelz]

Im an extremely emotional woman. I cry often. Like literally every day. Lately, the way my life is going these days, I sob uncontrollably a few times. Then I am ok. Then something will trigger the tears again.

I cry happy tears too. Crying is cleansing for me.