Let's talk romance.

[Jada59]

I have had men either accuse me of being romantic, orr if it doesn't come as an accusation, just flat out tell me they think I am. I don't think I am.

What does romance mean to you? Does it appeal? Make you shudder?

When I think of that word, it does make me shudder. Not sure why.

I think of things like men opening doors for me, candlelit dinners, having to dress up. Getting or giving sappy greeting cards full of rhymes. Stuffed animals. Ew. Okay... Stuffed animals are cute but they are also clutter and make me sneeze. And for some reason, people like to give them to me.

I do like to do certain things but I do these things for everyone. Perhaps people see these things as romance, but I don't. Such as... If you're not feeling well, I'll make you chicken soup or tea or whatever you want. I'll tuck you in and make sure you have an extra blanket. I'll try to remember your likes and dislikes. I'll give you a massage when you are hurting. I'll listen to you and give you a hug when you are hurting inside.

These things just come naturally to me. I might classify them more as things I do out of love, but I don't think of them as romance. Romance just seems sickeningly sweet to me. Inside, I just feel kind of rowdy and more of a make a big splash type of person.

Then again, I do dance and there is a lot of emotion that comes with dance. Or at least certain types of dance such as lyrical.

What are your thoughts on this?

 

[FAITHandFLESH]

Romance is taking the time so show someone, this isn't JUST about sex...

 

[Jada59]

Romance is taking the time so show someone, this isn't JUST about sex...

Hmmm... For as much I love sex, it's never JUST about sex for me. Something to ponder. Thanks!

 

[Biggs_Darklighter]

It means I'll use lube instead of going in dry.

 

[Jada59]

It means I'll use lube instead of going in dry.

Heh. I don't usually need lube.

 

[von_Bismarck]

Heh. I don't usually need lube.

Proof or it isn't true.

 

[Kantarii]

Being romantic brings more intimacy and a deeper affection for one another to the table between lovers. It’s like watering a flower; too much or too little is going to kill it. One doesn’t need their partner under their ass all the time, nor being disconnected. Maintaining a healthy balance somewhere in the middle insures there is always some room for growth for couples since sex is abundant at the start of all relationships and wanes over time the longer the relationship lasts.

 

[Jada59]

Proof or it isn't true.

Hehehe. I don't do pics.

 

[Jada59]

Being romantic brings more intimacy and a deeper affection for one another to the table between lovers. It’s like watering a flower; too much or too little is going to kill it. One doesn’t need their partner under their ass all the time, nor being disconnected. Maintaining a healthy balance somewhere in the middle insures there is always some room for growth for couples since sex is abundant at the start of all relationships and wanes over time the longer the relationship lasts.

Thanks!

 

[dolf]

Romance is about what makes someone happy, not playing out a cliché. My bodybuilding toyboy with the huge cock© drove several towns over to get to a specialist baker, surprising me with dinner and delicious cakes when I got home, because I was on the rag and mentioned craving cake the day before. That's a million times more romantic than a bunch of flowers and a mushy card on valentine's.

 

[Rightguide]

Romance is about what makes someone happy, not playing out a cliché. My bodybuilding toyboy with the huge cock© drove several towns over to get to a specialist baker, surprising me with dinner and delicious cakes when I got home, because I was on the rag and mentioned craving cake the day before. That's a million times more romantic than a bunch of flowers and a mushy card on valentine's.

LOL...

 

[pantalaimonlyra]

Romance is about what makes someone happy, not playing out a cliché.

Very much agreed on this point.

When I think about romancing an SO, it all confess back to what I know about them, or have figured out from recent communications. It's the thought you put behind your romance for that particular partner which makes it romantic.

 

[InsightRiot]

Romance is taking the time so show someone, this isn't JUST about sex...

I like that.
I feel like sex is all everyone cares about and it disgusts me.


I try to be romantic, I don't think I'm very good at it though.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Romantic people view our partners, the future and the world in a generous, favorable and sentimental light. We value ideas, potential and hope. We see the beauty that is and the beauty that can be. We imagine, wonder, dream and inspire. It makes us better writers, better lovers and better leaders.

By comparison, practical people are a bunch of very reasonable assholes. They get shit done, though.

 

[spacekowboy]

Romance is making sure you don't cum in her eye.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Gross. I rest my case.

 

[spacekowboy]

Lighten up, Francis. It was a joke.

 

[oralaccents]

Romance is about what makes someone happy, not playing out a cliché. My bodybuilding toyboy with the huge cock© drove several towns over to get to a specialist baker, surprising me with dinner and delicious cakes when I got home, because I was on the rag and mentioned craving cake the day before. That's a million times more romantic than a bunch of flowers and a mushy card on valentine's.

You should have gone with the stupid/trainable ones decades ago. Even Buttrs figgered that out.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Lighten up, Francis. It was a joke.

Aww, that made me laugh. We should get married.

 

[dolf]

LOL...

Hey! Period cravings are no laughing matter

By comparison, practical people are a bunch of very reasonable assholes. They get shit done, though.

I'm not sure anyone would describe me as very reasonable...

 

[butters]

a poem written from his heart, a footrub if they're aching, planting a tree together which we'll watch grow and fruit over the years, getting me a card & a surprise for my birthday (since, till now, he's never been a one for doing birthdays and it's kind of important to me), bringing me in a flower from the garden to put in my hair, offering to light a scented candle when i'm soaking in the bath ... so many small things

probably the most romantic thing to date was my silver pendant: he wears the mirror image of mine, his own design, and used it to make the mold to pour in molten silver from his own stash, then had it engraved and sent to me as a sign of his love to me before we got engaged.

 

[oggbashan]

Sometimes I write romance:

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-last-card

https://www.literotica.com/s/english-lane

https://www.literotica.com/s/fifteen-love

 

[Aglaopheme]

probably the most romantic thing to date was my silver pendant: he wears the mirror image of mine, his own design, and used it to make the mold to pour in molten silver from his own stash, then had it engraved and sent to me as a sign of his love to me before we got engaged.

Now, that is romance.

I hold the door for folks all of the time. That is just good manners.

I do enjoy random fresh flowers brought to the shop or at home during the winter months. Mostly it’s the everyday little things like the cup of coffee every morning and the packed lunchbox on the weekends. Those things are never to be taken for granted. The last grand gesture was the photo of my mother and I he had framed.

 

[butters]

Now, that is romance.

I hold the door for folks all of the time. That is just good manners.

I do enjoy random fresh flowers brought to the shop or at home during the winter months. Mostly it’s the everyday little things like the cup of coffee every morning and the packed lunchbox on the weekends. Those things are never to be taken for granted. The last grand gesture was the photo of my mother and I he had framed.

uhuh - it's those small surprises that show they're thinking about you and what you'd like that matter way more than how much to spend on an engagement ring or those huge, frequently monstrous displays that i'd personally find embarrassing to the nth.

while we were apart, i'd find odd little things to send him - a very old 1 penny piece, a strange stone, a small glass cube etched inside with a fairy riding a dragonfly (relating to his sci-fan writing), a harmonica, a small glass globe, a wooden box with a design-impressed leather top... none of them cost much at all but were pretty unusual. even hand wrote a leather-bound small book filling it with poems i'd written to him here.

we can get more excited about showing eachother the first red jewels of potatoes in the earth or the first green tomatoes to grow in the year, an impressive cloud or view, fog/mist covering the hillside trees as any thought about going out for a meal at a restaurant.

 

[Kantarii]

Romance is all about attention to detail. Little things like opening doors for her, treating her with respect in public, etc. - those are all things men should already be doing for women. Subtle things like holding her hand and showing you care beyond just ‘your’ feelings mean more. So if you want to really see romance on a whole new level - set the mood. Run her a nice, warm bubble bath, garnish it with rose pedals, light a couple candles, turn out the lights and watch her eyes sparkle.