Let's talk about objectification.

[Desdemona]

I don't see anything in the library on this topic, so here goes.

Dear Domly ones,

Does turning your pyl into an object turn you on? Why or why not? What techniques do you use for objectification play?

Now for the other side of the coin. I know all you subbies out there have opinions. Do you enjoy objectification? How does it make you feel when you engage in this sort of play?

We're currently thinking of buying a full head hood for me to wear. We used bondage tape over the weekend with pretty good results in terms of mummyfying my head and achieving some objectification. We liked it..... alot.

So, if any of you have reccomendations for hoods, suggestions are welcome here as well. I'm off to work for a while. Be back later.

 

[Marquis]

My next fetishy purchase is going to be a latex mask.

I dig objectification big time.

 

[BlueSugar]

I have had a few very intense dreams about objectfication lately, literally in the past 5 days its been one or two every night - I have no idea what spurred this either.

I have had some experience with it too ... and like it very much from as far as I can tell.

 

[sunfox]

I'm mostly here to perv on Marquis' AV. *does so*


But I'll answer while I'm here.

A part of me is very aroused by objectification.. but a larger part of me is both humiliated and angered by it.

So yes, I like it.. but it must be done with care, or there can be catastrophic results.

 

[Netzach]

Huge hot button for me. I love turning my bottom into a thing, toy, object, animal, furniture, etc.

I use encasement bondage, lycra, latex, drag, rope, mummification, hoods, lots of different materials to strip identity. But it's always really hot for me to do that.

 

[Marquis]

I'm mostly here to perv on Marquis' AV. *does so*


But I'll answer while I'm here.

A part of me is very aroused by objectification.. but a larger part of me is both humiliated and angered by it.

So yes, I like it.. but it must be done with care, or there can be catastrophic results.

I think a lot of subs have a hard time with this one. It pokes at the sector of the encephalon that holds "this is all just a game and S/He really loves me under it all".

I've noticed I have to give more aftercare following objectification play than when being excessively rough.

 

[Marquis]

Huge hot button for me. I love turning my bottom into a thing, toy, object, animal, furniture, etc.

I use encasement bondage, lycra, latex, drag, rope, mummification, hoods, lots of different materials to strip identity. But it's always really hot for me to do that.

One of the first BDSMish things I ever did was ask my girlfriend to wrap herself in a sheet in such a way that only her ass and pussy were exposed. I was 17 at the time and I wasn't sure why I wanted to do that, but we both thought it was hot. Stripping identity, fascinating.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Does turning your pyl into an object turn you on? Why or why not? What techniques do you use for objectification play?

Now for the other side of the coin. I know all you subbies out there have opinions. Do you enjoy objectification? How does it make you feel when you engage in this sort of play?

Switchy one speaks...
In response to the first part of your query. Yes, I love to turn my submissives into simple body parts or even pieces of furniture. Wrapping them in pieces of cloth, hooded masks, placing them in obscure positions with the inability to see or hear, all of these things push some sadistic little spot in me.

As for the other part: as a bottom I don't like it so much as need it. I have a craving for objectification which goes beyond what most Tops want to provide. I have spent many a happy hour being used as a coffee table or bent over and tied in such a way that only my ass and cunt are available for perusal. I don't know why it pushes my buttons but it does.

 

[Desdemona]

You're a pervy bunch, no one could argue that. You're giving me food for thought. Thanks.

 

[SierraMoon]

i know that when my first Dom wrapped me in Saran, i absolutely loved it. i was wrapped head to toe, with only my breasts and privates available to him.

It was like i was outside my body. Like it wasn't me standing there at all.

i can't wait until my Master allows us to do it!!!!


(i think hoods are wildly exciting!!! Des, if you do get one.... i want pics!!!!!! )

 

[Netzach]

http://www.bodyweaver.com

I love these, they are easy to get in and out of, they are very objectifying and they add a nice layer to bondage, not to mention the cost is minimal compared to a latex catsuit and hood.

 

[Desdemona]

Sierra... LOL. You could see a pic, but how would you know it was really me??
Netz, that's a way cool site. Thanks for sharing the link!

 

[John Doe]

One of the first BDSMish things I ever did was ask my girlfriend to wrap herself in a sheet in such a way that only her ass and pussy were exposed. I was 17 at the time and I wasn't sure why I wanted to do that, but we both thought it was hot. Stripping identity, fascinating.

I like the sheet idea.

 

[SierraMoon]

Sierra... LOL. You could see a pic, but how would you know it was really me??
Netz, that's a way cool site. Thanks for sharing the link!

i would know

 

[s'lara]

This deserves a bump back to the first page.

Objectification is not only making another akin to an inanimate object, it also forces the one objectified to leave their "self" and assume the position/mindset of "thing."

Wrenching to become a hole.

The gear (hoods, bondage, etc.) is a stepping platform, but the getting the sub to the headspace of "thing" is by far more important and the sought after result. It's truly about dehumanization and as cruel as that sounds, there's an allure to losing your identity and becoming an object for use.

The only downside is returning to yourself once the objectification ends. Your ego, pride, self-worth all take a huge bruising and deconstruction during the process. The scary part for myself is the craving for it once time has passed. Demeaning and arousing once you're in objectification mode, but worse when your out of the headspace and find yourself looking for a firm foothold.

lara

 

[Marquis]

I think fucking twins is a form of objectification. Since you don't care which one is which.

OK, I just wanted to say I hooked up with twins.

 

[catalina_francisco]

This deserves a bump back to the first page.

Objectification is not only making another akin to an inanimate object, it also forces the one objectified to leave their "self" and assume the position/mindset of "thing."

Wrenching to become a hole.

The gear (hoods, bondage, etc.) is a stepping platform, but the getting the sub to the headspace of "thing" is by far more important and the sought after result. It's truly about dehumanization and as cruel as that sounds, there's an allure to losing your identity and becoming an object for use.

The only downside is returning to yourself once the objectification ends. Your ego, pride, self-worth all take a huge bruising and deconstruction during the process. The scary part for myself is the craving for it once time has passed. Demeaning and arousing once you're in objectification mode, but worse when your out of the headspace and find yourself looking for a firm foothold.

lara

Have to agree with this mode of objectification as opposed to the more action based ones of wrapping, covering faces etc. For us it is a work in progress which because of the hidden dangers etc., is happening step by step over a long period of time. It also is for the most part at this moment meant to be a more permanent objectification than just for a scene every now and then, and of course subject to his discretion as to how it is played out in the bigger picture and before whom. The mental aspect is the most important tool in actualising the whole thing to a point it is felt and lived by me, and in helping me remain sane (well as sane as is possible for me to be ). A big part of the self care package throughout this is remembering it is a fantasy shared by both of us, and as such is done out of love not hate. That may be a bit too lovey dovey for some, and mistaken for him being soft and only doing that which I am okay with.....couldn't be further from the truth. He will do whatever is necessary to have his needs met, will try and do what is necessary to make sure he doesn't lose me or control in the process, and love can be a good tool for ensuring that result. The key is remembering it is done out of love, fulfilling needs in each of us.

Catalina

 

[AngelicAssassin]

A big part of the self care package throughout this is remembering it is a fantasy shared by both of us, and as such is done out of love not hate. That may be a bit too lovey dovey for some, and mistaken for him being soft and only doing that which I am okay with.....couldn't be further from the truth. He will do whatever is necessary to have his needs met, will try and do what is necessary to make sure he doesn't lose me or control in the process, and love can be a good tool for ensuring that result. The key is remembering it is done out of love, fulfilling needs in each of us.

Catalina

Liked the answer. i don't agree with whomever might argue the approach too lovey-dovey. i don't believe you have to bury heart felt passion for someone to maintain a D/s relationship. If you have to maintain discipline in your own mind concerning your "care" for your partner, think of it as taking good care of your property once you've played hard. Besides, what better way to mindfuck someone, should you choose, than to tinker with that love mid-scene?

 

[serijules]

I'm not sure this falls into this category, but I'll share anyhow...

I have been craving big time lately for D to blindfold me, something that has long been a hard limit with any partner of mine. I have no limits with D, so it isn't that which stops her, but so far she has not granted me this experience.

I'm deaf, so blindfolding me takes away two senses completely, which is why it has always been a limit for me. A hood would do the same, but I'm not sure I could handle the feel of it...hard to say, it might very well add to the result. I think we ought to start out with blindfolds though.

Anyhow, the thought of being blindfolded, gagged and fucked by a man while she watches is totally hot for me. I've had my ass taken by a strange (to me) man before for her viewing pleasure, but I didn't feel as completely used as I expected to. I think removing my senses like that by blindfolding me before the man ever comes into the picture, having me lay on the bed and feeling them fuck beside me, using my mouth and ass as if I were nothing more than an interesting toy amoungst her vast collection... That is about the only way that I am comfortable with playing sexually with men anymore, is if I feel completely used as a toy for HER pleasure.

 

[cellis]

I know the feeling of being wrapped in saran wrap from head to toe and what a turn on that is. I never really considered it objectification until you started this thread, Des.

For me bondage is not just a turn on but also a feeling of complete safety. Mummyficaton somehow intensifies this for me.

 

[TaintedB]

I'm mostly here to perv on Marquis' AV. *does so*


But I'll answer while I'm here.

His four-year-old little boy AV??? You = weird.

 

[Marquis]

His four-year-old little boy AV??? You = weird.

Can you see the evil twinkle hiding behind those adorable cheeks?

 

[TaintedB]

I don't understand how wearing a hood or being mummified is objectification. WHen I wear a hood I feel like me with a hood on. It's a little sensory dep. and it's sweaty if the hood is leather but that's about it.

I've been an end table and very frequently been a footstool during football season. That last one is fun. The end table one wasn't that realistic. What end table do you know of that gets tickled in the bottom when it's bearing a glass of ice water?

I don't have many emotional issues with objectification and it's something that might be fun to explore further sometime. While I don't think I'll ever be this flexible I like to imagine being turned into a shiny office chair like the girl in the attached pic was. Realistically speaking though, I'll probably have to settle for humble urinal--it's more my speed.

Another question: Is ponygirl or doggieboy objectification to you or not? They're animals not objects, but objectification has a less specific meaning of stripping (some) of one's humanity away. I think being pimped out as a prostitute for a night for a woman who'd never experienced that before would also be pretty objectifying, because her body is being sold like an object for someone else's use and pleasure. Well, rented, actually.

 

[sandyb]

Great thread. I crave objectification and humiliation. Like S'Lara said the tough part is putting yourself back together afterwards, particularly knowing that you will crave it again. For me it's not about hoods or wrapping but rather the mental submission of becoming just a thing for the sexual use of another and surrendering to it, thinking of yourself as just a pussy or a mouth or anus for his use and satisfaction...obvious dangers, fantastic pleasures.

 

[coyotepondering]

I've been known to use someone as a piece of furniture but more to annoy them than because it did anything for me..... come to think of it, not even always in a BDSM context.