Let's Talk About... Grief

[Wild_Honey_66]

Want to?

There seem to be lots of lovely Litsters going throught some awful crap right now, and it totally sucks.

Let's begin with some basics:

How do you deal with grief?
Do you feel like you have an adequate support network and coping skills?
Which stage of grief are you in right now?
What do you feel like is your greatest need (with regard to grieving) at this time?
What do you do for self-care?

That's good for a start.




*Note: I am hereby appointing meop and whoever wants to volunteer as the official thread huggers. For those who don't do hugs, I'm sure there is plenty of wine and chocolate around here somewhere. And sex. There might be a little sex, if you know where to look.

 

[just4friends]

Stages ?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rr4VT-i-Uqw

Odd chocolate is not listed

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rr4Vin f-i-Uqw

Odd chocolate is not listed

Thank you! I was hoping someone would list the five stages, but i didn't expect to be entertained as well. (I think it's good to note that people often jump around and go back and forth between them.)

Anybody read the book referred to in the clip? I read it when I was thirteen. I was a weird kid.

 

[just4friends]

Never read the book. Watched the movie two times in a row for a college paper

Agree... Stage jumping and regression common... Sometimes cycling daily

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Never read the book. Watched the movie two times in a row for a college paper

Agree... Stage jumping and regression common... Sometimes cycling daily

Oh! Someone who knows what they're talking about. Glad you're here.

 

[just4friends]

Oh! Someone who knows what they're talking about. Glad you're here.

Why this issue for you tonight?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Why this issue for you tonight?

Ooo, ouch.

It's been on my mind lately, and I kinda like to use the pain in my life to help others in some way, if I can.

Hi, I'm Honey. I don't think we've met.

 

[just4friends]

Slow stalking indeed

Oops.. You beat me

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Slow stalking indeed

Oops.. You beat me

...

 

[just4friends]

Not sure how to take that.
In denial that it is bad sign

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Not sure how to take that.
In denial that it is bad sign

Lol! I am so not in denial.

I'm just not telling you the gory details.



What brings you here?

 

[just4friends]

What brings most here? Just for friends ... Sometimes that works out to be more

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What brings most here? Just for friends ... Sometimes that works out to be more

I meant this thread, lol, but okay.

Glad things worked out for you!

 

[just4friends]

Here? Ah .. That was said elsewhere.. But mostly to add the stages of grief. "All that Jazz" made them stick.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Here? Ah .. That was said elsewhere.. But mostly to add the stages of grief. "All that Jazz" made them stick.

Jewish law firm... hilarious.

 

[cascadiabound]

Lol! I am so not in denial.

I'm just not telling you the gory details.



What brings you here?

Major hugs and kisses for Honey.

Tea and crumpets too.
*Official thread hugger*

I promise to not ask for the grief details.
You tell what you want.
Grief is personal .
Sometimes just talking about the process is as useful as talking about the cause of the grief.

More {{{hugs}}}
cb

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Major hugs and kisses for Honey.

Tea and crumpets too.
*Official thread hugger*

I promise to not ask for the grief details.
You tell what you want.
Grief is personal .
Sometimes just talking about the process is as useful as talking about the cause of the grief.

More {{{hugs}}}
cb

It helps me, to think that I can use the pain productively, to help someone else.
it gives it a purpose.

I'm off to bed. Goodnight, sweet friend.

 

[just4friends]

Good night

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Good night

Goodnight! Thank you for coming to visit!

 

[Azuldrgon]

Let's begin with some basics:

How do you deal with grief? I am still learning how to be honest.
Do you feel like you have an adequate support network and coping skills? I have an awesome support system.
Which stage of grief are you in right now? I am definitely in acceptance.
What do you feel like is your greatest need (with regard to grieving) at this time? I'm good at the moment.
What do you do for self-care? The main thing I do is allow myself to cry when I need to. I try to allow myself to let out the grief by doing whatever I can. There are still days where I have a difficult time, but I get through.

Thank you for starting this thread.

 

[makemewet69]

How do you deal with grief? I was already looking into seeking counseling after I had to make the decision not to put my aunt back on life support just before Christmas and then a few weeks later was dealt Doms physical, emotional, and sexual abuse by my now ex husband. So, when my dad committed suicide a couple months after that, I knew I had to go talk to someone about everything. My friends were great support but there are certain details I didn't even want them knowing because I felt so much shame.

Do you feel like you have an adequate support network and coping skills? I'm working on the coping skills. I have a great support network, my problem is that when I'm at my lowest, I don't reach out. I shut off. I've tried really hard not to do that.

Which stage of grief are you in right now? Anger. I'm pissed that the decision for my aunt was placed in my hands, I'm mad as hell at my ex for everything that happened, and I'm angry at my dad for going out how he did and that we have zero answers as to why it happened.

What do you feel like is your greatest need (with regard to grieving) at this time? I need compassionate people who are going to understand I'm not always going to be happy and playful and in a great mood. I'm hurt and I'm sad and it's going to take more than a few months to work past it.

What do you do for self-care? Counseling, she's been so awesome. I'm really lucky to have that lady help me cork through all this because it is a lot. Out of all the people I have in my life I confide in CJ the most. He's been amazing and patient and very kind through all this. He doesn't judge me and aside from being an amazing lover and great boyfriend, he's an outstanding friend and human.

I also cry. A lot. But mostly just when I'm alone, I don't like others seeing me cry. I'm kind of like a guy in that respect. In my family I'm "the strong one" always have been. So my job is to take care of everyone else and not show my emotions. But, when I'm alone I'm a giat bawl baby. Most likely if you skype message me or see my posts here, those are done when I'm alone so there's usually some tears involved.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Want to?

There seem to be lots of lovely Litsters going throught some awful crap right now, and it totally sucks.

Let's begin with some basics:

How do you deal with grief?
Do you feel like you have an adequate support network and coping skills?
Which stage of grief are you in right now?
What do you feel like is your greatest need (with regard to grieving) at this time?
What do you do for self-care?

That's good for a start.




*Note: I am hereby appointing meop and whoever wants to volunteer as the official thread huggers. For those who don't do hugs, I'm sure there is plenty of wine and chocolate around here somewhere. And sex. There might be a little sex, if you know where to look.

Very serious topic. Many on LIT and in the world are going through it. You need to vent and let it all out. You're not a robot and can't do it all alone. You have to realize people you love whether dead or alive are watching you wishing you to be the great person they see you as. You look at yourself realize your worth keep your head up and know this will only make you stronger. I hope anyone on LIT that's going through grief talk with your loved ones and if you don't have anyone to talk too pm me if you feel comfortable.

 

[Deleted member 1177770]

How do you deal with grief? Mostly I kinda keep it to myself, I know smart right well anyway I just piss myself off until I forget it

Do you feel like you have an adequate support network and coping skills? I do and as the above says I don't do a lot of sharing and I think that's ok.

Which stage of grief are you in right now? I don't have any knowledge of the stages, I don't care.

What do you feel like is your greatest need (with regard to grieving) at this time? No present needs just need to keep reminding myself that nothing is permanent

What do you do for self-care? Act hysterical and then look to calm down and tell myself that grief is the opportunity to build my core.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thank you for starting this thread.

You're very welcome.

Thank you to everyone who has shared, either here or by pm.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

The Five Stages of Grief according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance