Let me say this please...

[nikkijames]

To put some inquiring minds at ease, as most I am sure have seen the banter between Raikaaim and myself, we are going through a 'time' right now.

I'm not saying it's a bad time nor a good time. A rough time it is to say the least.

Feelings have arisen from both parties and now is the time to decide how to handle the situation placed before us.

Does he leave her? His comfort, his world as he knows it. To go on and explore other possibilities. To go on and possibly be alone.

I never asked nor will I ever ask him to leave that comfort. That is a choice only he will be able to make.

I have known the loneliness and have survived it for most of my 28 years. He being not my age, has not experienced it as long, however I say this not to say that he has never experienced it.

We have a few people here in the AH that we have confided in,seperately and together, and I thank you from both of us. To allow us the non-biased opinion and to not be judged. To give us an 'outside' look if you will.

Both of us wanting to yell from the roof tops that we love one another, but do the readers of this truly care? We doubt it.

What is most important to me is that he is happy, that I am happy. Whether we find that happiness together or apart, we may never know. It is not entirely in our hands to decide.

I know that one thing is real right now and that is that I love him.

 

[BlackShanglan]

A great deal more information than I really cared to know.

 

[rikaaim]

I know that one thing is real right now and that is that I love him.

I love you too. Every bit as much.

 

[rikaaim]

A great deal more information than I really cared to know.

Sorry Shanglan, we just need friends to turn towards.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Sorry Shanglan, we just need friends to turn towards.

Carry on.

 

[rikaaim]

Carry on.

Our peace is said I believe. We can't just hide the fact. We have to let everyone know, and wherther that is met with returned joy, or biting critisim, we don't care. I'm just so torn, and she wanted to end the shadow games.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Our peace is said I believe. We can't just hide the fact. We have to let everyone know, and wherther that is met with returned joy, or biting critisim, we don't care. I'm just so torn, and she wanted to end the shadow games.

No need to explain love, been there, am there.

Your being happy is what matters love.

 

[Sherry Hawk]

There is more than one couple that have met here, whether some are obvious (as me and the dragon tend to be), or not so obvious. In fact, there is one couple that only pop up from time to time, that met here, and later married...Raphy and Whisper.

I think it's lovely.

 

[rikaaim]

No need to explain love, been there, am there.

Your being happy is what matters love.

I thank you for your presence and kind words. I thought you had to be somewhere though...

 

[nikkijames]

Your being happy is what matters love.

Thank you for saying that to him.. I agree that his happiness is what matters most. Him being happy in no matter what situation he choses will lead to my happiness for him.

 

[Kassiana]

As a person who was nearly left by her husband for a Net floozy, obviously I'm biased toward Rika staying with his current spouse. But if you decide to leave her, might I suggest at the least taking the high road and refusing to treat her badly? Often divorces get to that point, according to my therapists, and it makes things worse than they need to be.

I am disappointed to hear this. I was trying to think of something positive, but I'm out of positive thoughts. I'm sorry that Rika's marriage has gotten to the point that someone he's never probably seen means more to him than someone he sees regularly. If there's any chance of reconciliation with his wife, I think he should take it.

This is extraordinarily upsetting to me.

**CLARIFICATION** Not saying Nikki's a floozy or anything inappropriate here. Just giving my own experiences so you know what I think.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Damn, I always thought Nikki was a floozy..............kidding Nikki, don't beat me up.

 

[mismused]

As a person who was nearly left by her husband for a Net floozy, obviously I'm biased toward Rika staying with his current spouse. But if you decide to leave her, might I suggest at the least taking the high road and refusing to treat her badly? Often divorces get to that point, according to my therapists, and it makes things worse than they need to be.

I am disappointed to hear this. I was trying to think of something positive, but I'm out of positive thoughts. I'm sorry that Rika's marriage has gotten to the point that someone he's never probably seen means more to him than someone he sees regularly. If there's any chance of reconciliation with his wife, I think he should take it.

This is extraordinarily upsetting to me.

**CLARIFICATION** Not saying Nikki's a floozy or anything inappropriate here. Just giving my own experiences so you know what I think.

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So many things to consider. Love is so powerful, so compelling.

Kindness, consideration, honesty, and sincerity are the only things I can offer for anyone's consideration.

Love is something that we all feel, yet know so little about, but is oh, so beautiful. Luck to all involved.

mismused

 

[minsue]

If you're looking for objective advice, deal with real life with the people that are there in your life before trying to create a life with someone you've never met.

And your happiness simply cannot come from someone else.

And any other cliches you feel like inserting here that I've left out.

 

[Kassiana]

Damn, I always thought Nikki was a floozy..............kidding Nikki, don't beat me up.

Wow. Whatever you and Tate are having, can I have some? Both of you are extraordinarily punchy today.

 

[nikkijames]

What?! I'm not a floozy?! Damn.. must try harder.

Seriously folks, we're not jumping into anything and he knows that I support his decisions 100%.

 

[sack]

I wish the best for you both....

And perhaps what will come out of it is that you will be friends forever.....you are both in my prayers.


Best, Sack

 

[shereads]

No advice. Just an observation:

Nothing ordinary happens here.
Unpaid bills don't pile up on the bedside table.
The toilet doesn't overflow.
Dinner isn't leftovers.
There are no mothers-in-law here.
No one squeezes the toothpaste tube from the middle.
It's easy to believe you wouldn't care if they did.

No one snores.

No one is ever "not in the mood."
No one, no matter how exhausting their day was, lacks the energy to at least type good sex.

In PM, you can delete the boring story about your bad day.
You can un-hurt someone's feelings.
You always know the right thing to say. The clever thing, the supportive thing. If you don't, you aren't really trying.

No one's nose runs.
No one has a zit.
No one wears an old bathrobe at the dinner table.
No one gets crumbs in the bed.
Nobody farts. Everybody fucks.



Who wouldn't fall in love with us? What is there not to love?

 

[mismused]

No advice. Just an observation:

Nothing ordinary happens here.
Unpaid bills don't pile up on the bedside table.
The toilet doesn't overflow.
Dinner isn't leftovers.
There are no mothers-in-law here.
No one squeezes the toothpaste tube from the middle.
It's easy to believe you wouldn't care if they did.

No one snores.

No one is ever "not in the mood."
No one, no matter how exhausting their day was, lacks the energy to at least type good sex.

In PM, you can delete the boring story about your bad day.
You can un-hurt someone's feelings.
You always know the right thing to say. The clever thing, the supportive thing. If you don't, you aren't really trying.

No one's nose runs.
No one has a zit.
No one wears an old bathrobe at the dinner table.
No one gets crumbs in the bed.
Nobody farts. Everybody fucks.



Who wouldn't fall in love with us? What is there not to love?

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Excellent observations, Sher.

 

[shereads]

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Excellent observations, Sher.

Thank you. I wrote some stupid observations, but I deleted those. I do love the internet. Thank you again, Al Gore.

 

[SeaCat]

Not knowing either of you except through this forum, I don't know what each persons situation is. Even knowing those situations it would not be my place to place judgement on either person. What else can I say other than I hope for the best for all involved, and hope you all find happiness.

Cat

 

[Belegon]

Just be careful. That's all.

 

[yui]

Be good to those who love you.

Follow your heart, but listen to your head.

Luck to you both,

Yui

 

[dr_mabeuse]

A great deal more information than I really cared to know.

Really. Or as S. Goldwyn used to say, "Include me out!"

Doesn't anyone PM anymore? Is everything public?

---dr.M.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

No one squeezes the toothpaste tube from the middle.

You squeeze the tube from the middle???!!!

That's it... the engagement is off!