Let me save you the time and trouble

[PacificBlue]

If talking to someone who is overweight online bothers you, don't talk me, don't send me PM's, and don't respond to my posts. I can't take one more online person disappearing when they find out I don't look like some fucking model. I put up with this shit face to face on a daily basis...why do I have to do it here to? Why?

I'm not thin as a matter of fact I'm overweight for what's healthy for my height ( 5' 8")...there now you know and you can just back away without hurting my feelings or making me feel like some kind of sick freak. Doesn't matter that I'm beautiful does it? Doesn't matter that I'm intelligent, articulate, and a great listener does it? All that matters is my fucking dress size.

When I was a child and being teased about my weight I thought...I can't wait until I grow up, grownups don't do this kind of shit to each other. What the fuck was I thinking.

 

[lobito]

WHOA! HOLD ON!

PacificBlue, you more than proved yourself to be beautiful to me last night! Anyone who's got a problem with weight or whatever, can go FUCK THEMSELVES!

You know you've got me on your side!

 

[thumbs2_ca]

No shit.. Pacific Blue. Let me at the person that is being a jerk.
I told you before I think you Rock..

 

[Bubblegum *sugarless*]

Doesn't matter that I'm intelligent, articulate, and a great listener does it?

That's what makes you beautiful. Only shallow, insecure people think otherwise. Hold your head high, and be yourself. That's all a true friend wants.

(((((Hugs))))))

 

[Mr. Bootie]

What's going on PacificBlue??

Who pissed you off? Wait !!!! I don't care, I just want to know why you stopped writing to me. What's really going on? PM me if you like. We ARE friends after all.

kgboot

 

[luv2tvl69]

PacificBlue

Dont let anyone make you feel like a freak. They are the ones with the problems and hangups and its quite sad that they will go thru life missing out on knowing some wonderful people because THEY ARE FREAKS AND SO SUPERFICIAL!

I know how you feel, I have a lousy body and am also overweight. I FEEL, and have been told more than once I have a beautiful face (eyes, lips and hair especially), told I have great breasts--I'll take that compliment as beggars cant be choosers, told that I am witty, fun to be with, caring blah blah blah: But its just never enough. Even when in a relationship, they were always looking and waiting for better to come along...better looking girls with better bodies. Its not like my looks were was a surprise or anything.


Well ya know what "fuckem" they will never be treated as good, loved more, or know how wonderful and special I (and you, and everyone in general that doesnt even get the chance) really are. Just dont even waste your energies on them or on being upset by them. KNOW YOU ARE WONDERFUL AS YOU ARE, and its their loss!

 

[mr_monstrous]

i hear ya man

i used to be overweight to, it was hard but i got past it. i finally found a girl who didnot care about my looks. she also wanted to help me because i was having health problems because of my weight. she helped me get in shape, and never thought about herself. but i do feel your pain, man.

 

[La Huesera]

PB.. don't let 'um get to you.. I know that is so easy to say and so hard to do. I am 31 and still think that people are talking about me as I walk by because I have always had a weight problem..(even though I just lost 50lbs) It is just something that I have to work through, and will. The way I see, screw 'um if they can't take someone for who they are. KEEP THAT CHIN UP!!!!

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Bigdog]

Pacific Blue,

I guess I am allowed to respond, because I don't have any issues with your apearance. I only know you from what I read on the BB, so far it has all been good. Don't let the shallow guys taint your impression of all of us.

Besides, people in Oregon are cool. I wish I was there.

 

[MissTaken]

~nodding head~

I am with you, Blue. I have ready many of your posts and your beauty shines through!

I don't expect every man to see my beauty through the cellulite, but it does seem ridiculous that they just disappear! It seems especially silly when we are all on line.

Furthermore, friends come in all shapes and sizes. It isn't the wrapping paper on the gift.....
Some of my most cherished gifts have been wrapped in the comics from the Sunday paper!

And to all those who don't like plus size ladies....Stay away from me too!

 

[*bratcat*]

PB...

 

[PacificBlue]

Thank you for all your posts. I posted this thread this morning through hot embarrassed tears. I will say that I am thinking a little more clearly now.

We are all attracted to different things. This was not directed at one specific person as it was more "the final straw". That said..my weight is my fault. I am responsible for the consequences of my not exercising or watching what I eat as responsibly as I should. If I don't like the consequences then it's up to me to change. It would be something different entirely if it were something I had no control over such as my height, eye color, or race. I do have control over my weight, it is my responsibility.

If I were a guy, would I pick me out of a crowd of women? Probably not. I myself am attracted to an athletic form in men and women at first glance. Would/does that make me a bad person? No. Does it make someone else a bad person if that's what they desire? No. If we were all being honest the first thing that attracts us is someone's physical beauty and that means different things for different people. For some it's a person's eyes, for some it's a smile, and for some it's a body.

Online friendships/relationships offer a unique situation in that you get to be "seen" if you will from the inside out. Although it hurt, I'll take the truth any day over a lie.

 

[lobito]

baby...

I'm glad you're thinking more clearly now, I really was worried, you know that. You also know how to get ahold of me, if or when you want to talk.

Take it easy, and do what's right for you, ok? There still are some here that truely do care about you.

R

 

[Innocencefound]

I've only seen you on the BB, and I think your gorgeous

If people can't accept you ... online or off, then they are the ones missing out not you, they don't deserve someone like you in their life.

Keep your chin up, you are a beautiful person. Just remember, beauty is what is within, not what you look like.

 

[ohiobbw]

PB, I know how you feel. I have had problems with people who I've chatted with in the past. But never anyone on Lit. I put BBW in my name to weed out the bad ones right away. I think it's worked.

And PB, you are beautiful! I know I've never seen you, but looks has nothing to do with beauty. I've seen your posts, and how you treat others and that's what matters.

 

[Expertise]

To quote a movie currently in release (and I don't say this flippantly)...

"I LIKE BIG WOMEN AND THEY LIKE ME!"

Any fool who doesn't see the person, for the person isn't worth your time.

 

[Guest]

So how fat are you, Blobbo the Magnificent? Oh now you're whiney too. Qualities I just love in a human being or whatever you are, Jaba.

 

[Chuckus]

So how fat are you, Blobbo the Magnificent? Oh now you're whiney too. Qualities I just love in a human being or whatever you are, Jaba.

You know maybe just maybe Physically she is overweight but you know what.........she can lose weight and you cannot lose that terrible terrible mindset you have. Grow a pair of nuts an quit posting "unregistered".

 

[PacificBlue]

So how fat are you, Blobbo the Magnificent? Oh now you're whiney too. Qualities I just love in a human being or whatever you are, Jaba.

Is that the best you can do? I'm disappointed. I've heard much better.

 

[registered "^^"]

Huggggggg

Blue your great in my book.....Ignore the road kill it will always be ugly to the bone..

 

[lobito]

well jackoff, at least if I was going to be an asshole, I'd lapse enough to post under my registered name, you know have some balls, so people wouldn't have to guess which asshole was insulting them. (like now!)

BTW PB, my new sig is especially for you babe. Hope you like it!

 

[It'sasecret]

I know exactly how you are feeling. I am not exactly thin either. I am working on it though! I lost about 10 pounds so far! Keep your chin up! Think of it has a way of weeding out assholes. You know from the get go who is shallow rather then finding out later.