Less painful penetration

[tallguySTL]

My significant other has a hard time letting me penetrate without causing her pain. I'm a little over 8 inches long with good girth. She's 5'2". It is starting to impact our relationship. Does anyone have any suggestions to make it less painful for her?

 

[Reba67]

Is she wet enough? Have you tried adding lube? Have you tried more foreplay? Have you tried having her have an orgasm first so she is a bit more relaxed?

Sometimes the "oh my god it's gonna hurt again" is just something that self perpetuates because you tense up and it hurts again......just like you were expecting.

 

[Eilan]

Is she wet enough? Have you tried adding lube? Have you tried more foreplay? Have you tried having her have an orgasm first so she is a bit more relaxed?

Sometimes the "oh my god it's gonna hurt again" is just something that self perpetuates because you tense up and it hurts again......just like you were expecting.

Exactly what I was going to say, particularly that last paragraph. My ex-husband's girth caused issues off and on for us throughout the relationship.

 

[dav555]

Wife same issue here. Hers is a blader issue, maybe her too? I dunno look up internal cystitis.

It makes relationship hard though.

 

[DrRamulak]

Wife same issue here. Hers is a blader issue, maybe her too? I dunno look up internal cystitis.

It makes relationship hard though.

And your sign is "when it stops being fun stop"?

That doesn't work for me. My wife has adhesions in her vagina because of radiation therapy for cancer. It's often a little painful.

But here's what I've discovered about lubrication: you're probably not using enough. If you aren't worried enough to put a towel down underneath you, then use more.

I used to put some lube on - grease up the old lightning rod and put it in. Last time I put a LOT more on, so much that it was starting to drip off all over. It was much less painful for her than usual.

Maybe in a month when she's able to have sex again I'll have some more evidence for this.

 

[sexysharonmilf]

My significant other has a hard time letting me penetrate without causing her pain. I'm a little over 8 inches long with good girth. She's 5'2". It is starting to impact our relationship. Does anyone have any suggestions to make it less painful for her?

Lots of foreplay. Cut your fingernails so you can use them inside and make her "loose" a little, and, definitely, make her cum first. If all fails, use astroglide or KY.

 

[ms_sub_liminal]

have her try inserting a toy during foreplay. it might help her mind/body accommodate to the sensation of coming while having a large object inside.

and yes, go overboard on the lube. reapply as necessary. the temporary interruption and the mess are worth it. that's why man invented towels.

 

[keennyt]

have you tried letting her drive the bus so to speak let her ride you and let her go as slow as she wants

 

[HoHoBomb]

Doggie Style

 

[DrRamulak]

Doggie Style

I always recommend doggy style. Not just for this, but for any reason.

 

[KarennaC]

Because of some health issues, intercourse has become very painful for me the past couple months. (It's a good thing it's my boyfriend's busy season and he and I aren't often awake at the same time.) For me, doggie makes it even more painful, because my problem is in my pelvis and in that position, it feels like I have pressure on my pelvis from inside and out. Gravity pulling on it, I guess. I second the suggestion of having her ride you; that's the only position for me right now that isn't painful. Of course, your SO may not have the same issues I'm having, but it's worth a try. Even if her pain is from something else, being able to control the depth and speed of intercourse may signal her brain that no pain's involved.

 

[satindesire]

I actually deal with this very same issue with my husband. He is -quite- overly well endowed and it's difficult for us to enjoy painless intercourse unless I have had an orgasm prior to him penetrating me.

One thing I've noticed is that like most women, I receive my sexual pleasure from clitoral stimulation and when my husband brings me to orgasm first (before intercourse) by stimulating my clitoris, intercourse is not only not painful, but much better for him because he does not need to worry about lasting a long time since I've already been sexually satisfied.

I suggest you should try this and see if that makes intercourse more comfortable for you. Get her to instruct you on how she enjoys her clitoris being stimulated, and bring her to orgasm either orally, manually, or with a sex toy before intercourse. Once her vaginal muscles are warm, relaxed and well lubricated, you might find that intercourse is much easier for both of you.

If this does not resolve the issue, I strongly suggest you make sure she sees a doctor about the possibility she may have vaginismus (tightening and tensing of the vaginal walls due to psychological fear of intercourse). Of course, if she does have vaginismus, this creates a vicious cycle of fear, pain, fear, pain, and is very difficult to break without a great deal of time and patience on both your parts.